More an observation and question than a rant or rave, but this forum seems better suited than "The Lounge."

Many topics are created every day by members who have experiences related to obesity that leave them feeling humiliated, disrespected or hurt in any number of other ways. The rest of us jump in to commiserate, intending at least to reassure the OP that he isn't the only one and that it will get better.

The responses go on to rant back about the OP's brutish friends, relatives, co-workers, spouses, whomever, and how they should be dealt with. Often enough we who are responding throw in comments about how we would never permit such bad behavior toward us.

This evening for the first time I skimmed back over one such topic in which I'd posted. It occurred to me that there were far more posts demonizing the offenders and, in and not in so many words, criticizing the OP for not taking a stand.

What I'm wondering and throwing out to whomever may be reading this is whether we overdo it as a group? At some point does the OP feel browbeaten by those who are on her side? I don't question the collective intention to offer support and strength, but perhaps too much of a good thing is detrimental, making the OP feel unhappier. Perhaps, after a few such responses, the next BP'ers to come along should keep moving along? Or at least omit the excoriation of those who've injured the OP and his reluctance to speak up at the time?

Thoughts on this?

[P.S. I'm not masquerading as someone who hasn't chimed in when the point had already been made. Truth is that I'm among the people who like to hear themselves talk. Not one of my most attractive characteristics, but there it is.]

Edited November 16, 201510 yr by WLSResources/ClothingExch

@: P.S...heart still going nuts from double overtime and Lions win at Lambeau.

Boooo!!!'????????

Edited November 16, 201510 yr by MimiBMe

Surely, someone has already made these points, but if not ...

1. A thread, once started, is not controlled by the OP, nor is it required (by any imaginable "rule" of anything) to stick to the OP's interpretation of their original thesis / topic / rant / WTF. Message boards invite input. And hot threads get input, no matter what the input.

2. A thread, once started, does not develop solely for the benefit of the OP -- but for the message board's entire viewership. Way more people read these boards than post here. So in response to some numb nut's "This is how WLS worked for me, and it'll work this way for you!" I occasionally feel compelled to chime in and say "NOT, you numb nut!"