First let me start off by saying I'm am a pretty happy and content girl these days. I'm thrilled with my progress thus far. I wouldn't change not even one thing! Not the good, the bad or the ugly (barium swallow test still ranks pretty ugly, I know simple yet traumatizing all the same) but I've noticed there are a few things that just really drive me crazy. Like, my Aunt who has also had WLS (gastric bypass almost 10 yrs ago). She has gained most all of her weight back. She insist that I send her update pictures via FB messenger and raves about how happy she is for me but then turns around and sends me a picture of a fruit pizza she made with the caption "yummy I bet you wish you had some". What the crap is that?! Is it suppose to be funny? Being as I'm a southern Christian woman and she's my aunt I don't elaborate on where she could fit that pie in her nether regions. I just say oh looks good. Puke. Also my lovely family (kids and husband) always make little remarks like "she's not going to be able to eat more that 5 bites" when ever I talk about cooking something or they make bets on how much I'm going to actually eat. Now, when it comes to them I know they aren't doing it in a mean spirited way they are just a bunch of smart a**'s which unfortunately I can't get too mad over because they got it from me. In fact the other night I had a small piece of tiramisu cake left and I heard them whispering about how they would end up with it because " mom won't be able to eat it all" so after a few bites they were right I couldn't so before they could say anything about wanting it I tossed it on the floor for the dog (see where the a** part comes in?) anyway those things are a few of my pet peeves I've acquired over the last 9 months. Anyone else care to elaborate on some of your own?

I needed your comment, hpa. I spent a lot of money on dinner w friends this week. We split the bill. And, it was not "fair" financially...but so worth being w friends.

I enjoyed reading this thread so much that I'm bringing it back!!

My peeve of the week. I want to be a personal trainer and my best friend told me if I get the surgery I will be a hypocrite because I'm supposed to be setting an example for my clients and leading a healthy lifestyle "the natural way".

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When the waitress asks "Was there something wrong with the food?" "No I just am full....

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I think my pet peeve is when people say, "oh your husband must be so happy now." News flash people... My husband has been happy and loved me fat, thin, young and older. Why do people think your spouse is miserable if you are fat. That is my pet peeve.

YES. exactly this. my dear husband has always acted like he won some kind of prize talking me into getting married again. no matter my size. no matter my age.

My pet peeve...hard to decide on just one. I have a friend who had the RNY. She started around 500# and got down to 200#. She posts pics of what she eats, on Facebook. Very high in fat, calories, and sugar, like Mexican and Desserts. She also likes to comment on my posts, about my success or distress over gain, saying things like my husband and I can fit into my old pants, etc. I even saw her in person, once, and she said she didn't recognize me because I looked so old. I don't think I do, but I started using facial moisturizers and dying my hair, religiously.

My husband likes to try and get me to eat junk, too. He'll be like, you deserve it, you've lost so much. I secretly think he wants me to gain more weight back, as he likes big women. *sigh*

I do not think you look old.

my favorite facial moisturizer is coconut oil or aragon oil. :-)

he may be doing that to get you to gain back, or he could have been taught his whole life to equate food with love, and he is trying to express that to you. you can both learn new ways if that is what is going on.

Right now,my biggest pet peeve is people telling me I am wasting away to nothing. I hear this where I work mostly and it drives me crazy! Another pet peeve is hearing the bad foods 'sleevers' eat that we all know they should avoid them at all cost. Hearing someone say they ate ice cream or chips just makes me want to scream!!

Right now,my biggest pet peeve is people telling me I am wasting away to nothing. I hear this where I work mostly and it drives me crazy! Another pet peeve is hearing the bad foods 'sleevers' eat that we all know they should avoid them at all cost. Hearing someone say they ate ice cream or chips just makes me want to scream!!

"How do you feel?" (Often in hushed tones as if they are about to receive a deep, dark confession).

I don't know why this grates on my nerves. Maybe it's because it seems almost every single person asks me that, and really, what can I say besides "good". Then there seems to just be an awkward silence after, as they as waiting for me to expound on my answer.

I think people must have thought I was absolutely miserable every waking second when I was obese. Sure my knees hurt a little less and EVERYTHING in life is easier now, but honestly, I felt pretty good when I was super morbidly obese too!

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I agree, sabotages and haters lol

But, realistically, this is life right? We will all face eating bad sometimes and we give in. Lifestyle changes are what our mutual goal

Is. What I feel is this. I've been post op almost 2 years now. I eat like crap at times, sometimes a lot. I know it's not good and can lead to weight gain. I'm human and become more mindful and eat " like a sleever " is suppose to.

I was truly devastated one time when I was told on here I was eating To Many calories. I was losing fast and I needed them. I didn't know that at the time and my whole mindset was shot.

So people who may eat lousy sometimes, it's life. We have our whole life ahead of us and as long as we know the repercussions of our actions .... It's ok.

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