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Shame in sharing WLS with friends/family?

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I'm less than a week post op and i'm doing GREAT! I've had a fantastic experience so far, i can only hope the same for future sleevers.

On to my topic: Any one else feel embarressed to tell the people in their lives that they were thinking about or even ended up having WLS? I've heard a million comments from coworkers, family, and even close friends who have said, it's the easy way out, etc. I was surprised to hear my parents advise me to not tell my extended family if it came up. But I wouldn't want to lie when they see me 100lbs lighter (here's hoping!) So since this became the right decision for me, I havent found a way to justify myself to the opinionated nay-sayers. I'm 300lbs...but I wasnt 600lbs, i was pre-diabetic, but not type 2 diabetic, etc. so i feel like I'm going to be looked at as the dude who just took the easy way out to get skinny when health was a sincere reason for surgery. I'm just having a hard time feeling the confidence in telling the people in my life that I had this surgery and i feel great already. Hope i'm not the only one feeling this way.

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I am really very open about it. I have pretty much told everybody. Most people ask questions about what I can and cannot eat, how often I can eat, how much I can eat. Everyone has been supportive.

I have only had one person who sorta tried to talk me out of it. However, she had lost her husband unexpectedly due to a massive heart attack at a fairly young age only a few months before. She was genuinely concerned about me having the surgery and the risks that come with anesthesia and major surgery. She was the first one to offer to be my walking partner once she understood I was not changing my mind and that I had done the research.

Honestly you already know who will be supportive and who won't be. You know who is in your life and can hopefully accurately gauge their reactions. I told my immediate family because I knew they would supportive, I told a handful of friends and there are 2 I knew would be against it and of course I was right. I told only 3 co-workers and no one else at work they were extremely supportive even getting me a card on my first day back to work with a gift card for all the new clothes I will need. So all that to say go with your gut, you know who can depend on and who you can't.

Your co-workers are so sweet.

Your co-workers are so sweet.

I agree! That's the first time I've ever heard of that. Shows great affection.

.@@TexasGirl86 @@VSGAnn2014 I definitely lucked out with those group of girls. It's great to have that support.

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These are pretty old posts and I am SURE ya all are doing great! I am getting my sleeve in Feb. 2016 and I am excited and very nervous too. I am nervous about what to say to work and my coworkers, I need to say something and honestly when I DO lose the weight maybe I will say something than but to hear all the garbage before the surgery I just don't want to deal with that. So any ideas PLEASE are welcome!

These are pretty old posts and I am SURE ya all are doing great! I am getting my sleeve in Feb. 2016 and I am excited and very nervous too. I am nervous about what to say to work and my coworkers, I need to say something and honestly when I DO lose the weight maybe I will say something than but to hear all the garbage before the surgery I just don't want to deal with that. So any ideas PLEASE are welcome!

I didn't tell people at work. I just said I needed surgery and had to take off 2 weeks. Once I got back and they saw what I was eating and that I had already lost weight some of them picked up on it. Others I told after I had lost a significant amount of weight and they were curious.

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