Had surgery to save marriage

[Chylyn7 26]

Has anyone had surgery to make their spouse happy??

[KristenVSG2014 1,871]

I think having surgery to save your marriage is like having a baby to save your marriage. It just complicates things. If you are having any issues in your marriage before surgery they will be amplified after surgery.

You should only do this for one person - yourself. This is a permanent, irreversible procedure you will have to commit to and live with the rest of your life. If you want to save your marriage go to counseling. Heck, go to counseling whether you have surgery or not. Even if he doesn't go with you. It's very helpful!!

[michellemartin961 29]

Has anyone had surgery to make their spouse happy??

I've been divorced 20 years. I lost weight to please my husband and it did not work. Was down to 117 lbs and he felt I should be at 100-105. Other men in my life freaked when I gained weight with them too. Moral of this story.....only do this for yourself....the man in your life should not make demands and "change" you in order for him to be happy.

You won't be happy either, trust me! I made the decision to have the VSG after years of research and coming to terms with why I gained the weight. I don't want anymore knee or back pain. I want to get off Metformin, manage my asthma better, live longer, and be healthier for me! If someone in my life benefits from that....great! If not....oh well his loss!

Please think about this and be very honest with yourself. That is the best advice I can give you.

Michelle