I don't know how he found out, I really hadn't told many people at work, but I guess people talk. Anyway, it came up in conversation, and he started questioning my motivation, saying that didn't I worry that I was taking that easy way out. That if I just worked hard and stayed disciplined, I could do it all on my own. He made it sound so simple. I could tell he thought he was being positive, but he was being condescending, something he has a reputation for doing.

First of all, it's not so simple. I am well over 200+ lbs over. I have gone past the point of no return. And while I make no excuses for how I got this way, I know it's all on me, and I haven't made the best choices in my past. But I'm at the point where medical intervention is required, and my doctor wholeheartedly agrees (I love her by the way!). And I'm going to do this like I do everything in my life. To the best of my abilities. Despite his opinion, I know this will most certainly not be easy. In fact, I want to it to be hard. It will make it that much more worth it once I reach my goal.

And second. This is life and death, I'm in my mid 30s now, and the clock is ticking. If I keep going on this path, I will not have much time left on this planet. I am not concerned with preserving my honor in his eyes. I have family and friends who are all united in their support of me on this. And he's just some guy we hired last year to do . . .I really don't know what he does.

So for those that say, we're cheating, or taking the easy way out. Kindly direct them to engage in intercourse with themselves. Rant over.

Edited March 4, 201511 yr by Jerr_Bear

This is why I chose to tell no one...only my husband knows.....why? Because no one else matters to me...not their opinion or how they view me. I didn't want everyone around me analyzing how much I am losing, or eating, or secretly talking behind my back...my husband is my rock.....he has been with me when I was skinny and fat! To him I was always beautiful. Or so he has said so why would I open the door to un welcome responses and comments from people who truly mean nothing?

Good luck...I'm sorry I ranted on your post...but some people really get me with their whole "easy way out" mentality.....

My old friend Benjamin Franklin once said, "To whom thy secret thou doest tell, to him thy freedom thou doest sell."

Carry your doctor's phone number around in your pocket. When someone puts you down for your decision to have bariatric surgery, give them your doctor's number. Then that a**hat can call your doctor to tell him that he disagrees with the the doctor's diagnosis and treatment for your weight and health issues.

You know they won't do it, but really, why do people feel so casual in commenting about anyone' health choices?

No, it's not so simple.I read somewhere recently that there's evidence that once a body has become obese, it will fight like hell to maintain that weight. Makes sense really as our ancestors grew up in times of feast and famine. Rings true for me having lost the same 60 pounds several times over but never being able to maintain it for more than 6 months. And you're right. Speaking as someone a few years older, I was a pretty healthy fat person in my 30's, but once you hit 40... OMG does the extra weight take its toll! High bp, uncontrolled on 3 meds, high cholesterol, a family trait, breathing issues, pain all over. NOT a good time. ALL of that GONE now with no meds! Then there was the memory of losing my dad to morbid obesity (yep, that was COD on the certificate) when he was 52. This. Disease. Kills. WLS is a way out for some. I'd not call having 80%-90% of one's stomach surgically removed, committing to a lifetime of protein and vitamin supplements, losing hair, barfing as you learn where your limits are and committing to exercise should be EASY, but who am I to judge? It sure was WORTH IT!

or if you really want to poke 'em...

"You know, as I consulted my doctor, my therapist, my NP, the surgeon, my nutritionist, something was nagging at me and I finally figured out what it was... YOUR opinion. That's exactly what I was waiting for. So thank you."

Or kick 'em in the junk.

Your choice.

THIS makes my day!

I think the only other thing that upsets me more than hearing that bariatric surgery is 'the easy way out', is when I hear someone refer to weight loss surgery as 'cheating'!!! I agree with all the other posts written here, and I've pretty much come to the conclusion that those who feel this way and voice the foolishness of 'ease' and 'cheating' simply are those who simply are showing their ignorance, since they have never gone through the experience or have lived the life of someone who has made this life saving/life changing decision and has in most cases come out the better for it!!!

Gotta love these people, do they think slim bots come and take over like the body snatchers?? Who do they think does all the work after the surgery? There is nothing easy about this. You know..this is a procedure akin to what they sometimes must do to patients suffering with stomach cancer, who don't have any weight issues and no choice at all. Would that blundering fool say to that person after they returned to work.."hey, your life is so easy, what are you complaining about??" NO! He would be S*** canned! Jer Bear ..I'm so sorry you have to suffer this fool but, just think of his poor wife or girlfriend and that horrible sore foot of his always stuck firmly in his big mouth!

Some people's children just can't help but spew garbage from their mouths.

Gotta love these people, do they think slim bots come and take over like the body snatchers?? Who do they think does all the work after the surgery? There is nothing easy about this. You know..this is a procedure akin to what they sometimes must do to patients suffering with stomach cancer, who don't have any weight issues and no choice at all. Would that blundering fool say to that person after they returned to work.."hey, your life is so easy, what are you complaining about??" NO! He would be S*** canned! Jer Bear ..I'm so sorry you have to suffer this fool but, just think of his poor wife or girlfriend and that horrible sore foot of his always stuck firmly in his big mouth!

Oh I'm not suffering, if anything, I'm amused by it

If I don't see MD, DO, or some other professional, licensed designation behind their name, I ask when will they achieve those designations! That usually stops that. I have had to tell a couple of folks who "figured it out" to f*<%^ off .

To one person I've said, "I don't concern myself worrying about what others think of me because what they think of me is none of my business."

Their reaction was a surprised dear-in-headlights stare. It's fun!

I didn't tell many folks so I don't run into this issue much. A couple folks saw my literature I left out accidentally and guessed.

Oh, & btw, I am much lighter now and healthier than those anti-WLSers who criticized me. One even started looking into it.

I had to go to the unemployment office - just moved to NJ and am looking for a job. Had to tell them i couldn't do this required class yet because i had surgery scheduled. She looked at me and said what kind? I was speechless for a moment, wanted to say none of your f##ng business! I just said stomach surgery. Not only is that rude (it wasn't asked nicely) but i think illegal? Grrr

Welcome to Jersey! Lol

My theory is ...shh..this needs to just stay between us...I think he is intimidated by your TREMENDOUS future hotness! He is obviously petrified, and knows that soon he will be elephant man to your Bradly Coopper! Or he could suffer from micro phallus? You just never can tell with these things, he could have a medical condition! bless his heart! lol

I have found that my decisions in life go more smoothly the fewer people I tell. More peace. More focus.

Easy?? Grrrrrr I have a intense desire to SMACK that person!!! I am glad that you can let it roll off you, that is the best thing to do

I find people that judge generally have a LOT of "issues" with themselves and deflect that onto others!

I am PROUD of my lap band!! I will shout it from roof tops! IF someone doesn't like it or thinks it's an Easy way out they have ZERO knowledge of it and I don't care for their opinion...they can KISS MY Butt!!

I walk away from people who speak like your co worker...I don't listen to idiots...just saying...

JerrBear:

Last night I had my first meal out. While those around me had some luscious, large portions, I ate a small piece of my husband's turkey, a couple of tablespoons of vegetables, and a tablespoon of mashed potatoes. And that was a victory! Easy, my ass! I look at the television commercials and magazines devoted to nothing but food, and realize that I can never view those as pleasure sources again. How is that easy? We chose to confront an addiction that is so socially acceptable, until it shows up on our bodies. As you said, this was a surgery for a life threatening condition! I know that people are talking. Let them talk! You are an incredibly strong person that put your health first. Water on a duck my friend, water on a duck!

I've learned to not really care.... At first to be honest I was very concerned about what others would think or say about me having surgery but then when I started losing the weight and feeling so much better, I got more confident I guess. I just realized this isn't about them... It's about me, and God, and that is it. What I have found that works perfectly is to beat them to the punch by announcing that fact first... I say something like "When I first had this done I was worried that people would think I was taking the easy way out, but it is sooo not easy, ...and now I really don't care what anyone thinks anyways because I feel so much better!" That usually entices people to keep their nasty lil opinions to themselves. (They probably talk behind my back, but again I don't care)