I don't know how he found out, I really hadn't told many people at work, but I guess people talk. Anyway, it came up in conversation, and he started questioning my motivation, saying that didn't I worry that I was taking that easy way out. That if I just worked hard and stayed disciplined, I could do it all on my own. He made it sound so simple. I could tell he thought he was being positive, but he was being condescending, something he has a reputation for doing.

First of all, it's not so simple. I am well over 200+ lbs over. I have gone past the point of no return. And while I make no excuses for how I got this way, I know it's all on me, and I haven't made the best choices in my past. But I'm at the point where medical intervention is required, and my doctor wholeheartedly agrees (I love her by the way!). And I'm going to do this like I do everything in my life. To the best of my abilities. Despite his opinion, I know this will most certainly not be easy. In fact, I want to it to be hard. It will make it that much more worth it once I reach my goal.

And second. This is life and death, I'm in my mid 30s now, and the clock is ticking. If I keep going on this path, I will not have much time left on this planet. I am not concerned with preserving my honor in his eyes. I have family and friends who are all united in their support of me on this. And he's just some guy we hired last year to do . . .I really don't know what he does.

So for those that say, we're cheating, or taking the easy way out. Kindly direct them to engage in intercourse with themselves. Rant over.

Edited March 4, 201511 yr by Jerr_Bear

In this world there are some (a lot of?) people who think they know all there is to know about almost any subject. They tend to be black-and-white thinkers who think there's a single correct way to do things and reject all other approaches as "wrong." They feel almost religious about the superiority of their right way vs. others' wrong ways.

Trouble is, they're hard-wired to think and act in this manner. In my experience, you can't reason with them or expect that that sharing your experiences with them will expand their perspective. They like the simple way their minds and lives are ordered and feel stressed at the prospect of having to change their minds. I'm not even sure they can change their minds.

It can be tough on both single-perspective people and multiple-perspectives people who have to work or live closely together.

Needless to say, this human attribute is not categorical, but a matter of degrees.

Easy to tell which group I fall into, eh?

Commenting on weight changes in an employment setting often is considered sexual harassment. By and large, it happens to women (making sexual comments about their bodies) but not in all cases, as we can see. If there is no sexual nature to the comments, it's just plain old harassment, which also is illegal: http://www1.eeoc.gov//laws/practices/index.cfm?renderforprint=1

This was hit home to us in a recent HR training. The overall message was to not make any comments about anyone's body, period.

Edited April 27, 201511 yr by QuilterGal

I am exactly one month out of my surgery (RNY) and if this is what anyone calls "easy" then I must be crazy!

I needed to do this for health reasons (many of them) and NOT to fit in a bikini...

Both my daughters were adopted, and I heard comments like this about our choice to adopt. We had it easy....no labor, morning sickness, or stretch marks.... REALLY???

6 years of infertility, medical testing and procedures, mountains of paperwork and studies to be approved. 13 month wait to be united with our daughter... not to mention over $25,000 and a 2 week trip to China to pick her up.

Easy? HELL NO!

Worth every bit? HELL YES!

I feel the same way about this journey... it is what is right for ME, and that's all that matters!