My amazing boyfriend asked me to marry him!! We want a September wedding but I am having my surgery in April if everything goes as planned. I have completed everything required except my monthly visits the insurance makes me come in monthly for weight in and advice on my exercise. I am now realizing that I'll be losing but how much a month lol if I pick out my dress two months early will it fall off? I am looking any advice I just do not want to wait a year after my surgery I want to start my life with him I have been waiting 31 yr for this day...

@@gigim84 Oh that's a hard one because you could lose a lot in two months! Only time will tell but congrats on your engagement!

Wait as long as you can to pick a dress and make sure it's a place that will do alterations and a dress that can be altered. I would do last fitting at least 2 weeks before wedding. Also have a conversation with the store about your potential weight loss. Congrats!!

Thank you! I have been looking and think I'll have to go for something with like an empire waist nothing form fitting that will help some and yes definitely two week fitting didn't really think about it or alterations so close but great idea.

Oh and please excuse my post I am on my phone and it likes to correct things I do not want "correct" lol auto correct always makes me look a fool

Congratulations on your engagement. Here's an alternative you may want to consider. You may think about buying something off the rack closer to your wedding date versus ordering from a bridal shop six months in advance and going the alterations route. I know that there is a lot of fun and excitement in the dress shopping experience but what looks good on you now, will probably not look good when you are smaller. Nordstroms and department stores carry bridal/formal dresses.

I'm getting married in April but I've lost most of my weight. However I went through so many sizes, body changes, and tossed out so many clothes early out in the losing phase that there was no way I would have wanted to have spent hundreds (or possibly thousands) of dollars on a wedding gown and then a few hundred on alterations at that point. Similarly, while I thought I would look good in an A line or similar style, once at a smaller size, that style no longer suited my body (they actually looked pretty dreadful on me). The reality is that you will never be able to wear the dress again. Also part of this journey, at least for me, was the enjoyment of tossing clothes as they became way too big. So many brides preserve their gowns after their wedding but in your case their would be little point. Here's pics that illustrate my point. This was the 'best' A-line/ball gown I tried and it is swallowing me whole (the dress is wearing me versus the other way around):

My actual dress, that never in a million years could have told me pre-op that I could wear a strapless mermaid

@@erp Love your dress it looks beautiful on you!

I agree with @@erp, it might be a good idea to just wait till closer to the time and buy something off the rack. There is just now way to know what size you will be in, or what style might work best. Either way, you'll be a beautiful, happy bride. I think sometimes there's more emphasis on that dress than needed. It's all about YOU! Congrats.

@@erp

Your second dress is absolutely beautiful! I see your point off the rack it is I always assumed I would get a special fit 6 mo advanced thing but I do not want to end up looking horrible. Thank you for your advice!

Edited December 15, 201411 yr by gigim84

I am so excited! I not only get a fresh start in life with my surgery but I get to do it with the love of my life! So many things I can do just as exciting like pick the venue and cake.