I am 34 and have a daughter that is 5. I just re-started my classes through Kaiser (had to start over after going though a divorce and losing insurance). Anyways, My mom has recently decided to move back to California and will be living with me for a few months until she can find a place on her own. This just happens to be happing during the time I plan on having my surgery

I ran the idea past her about 2 years ago when I was first considering it and lets just say she was no way near supportive. Now that I have decided to go through with it I don't plan on telling her. I had planned on going to a hotel or something for the first few days to a week until I can heal up but I'm wondering what I'm going to do to explain of my new eating habits?

The good thing is my surgery will be right around the new year so it will be easy to explain the weight loss off as a "new years resolution"...like all the ones I have made in the past lol. I just don't know how to explain why I'm eating like a rabbit lol

Anyone out there not tell a soul? I plan on relying on support groups and a meet up group I found online.

Hi there. New to this and yes, I'd like to keep secret also. Well not from my close friends but from work. There's forms to fill out - anyone had to have doc fill out form for work? Do they have to put gastric sleeve?

I wanted to keep it secret as a lot of people are very judgmental. However, I've gotten such great response from the people I have told that it's hard to contain myself. I want to tell it to the world, but for now those who don't know will remain in the dark.

Most of my friends know that I have IBS so I just plan to tell them I'm working with a nutritionist to sort out a better diet for me, to help relieve symptoms. My parents and my siblings know about the surgery because I felt guilty not letting them know that I was having surgery, and my parents were the first to know anyway. I will say one thing though, the reaction I got from my sister was not what I was expecting! She was so kind and supportive, and all the tension I had from worrying about telling her just disappeared. Maybe if your mum knows how committed you are too it she might be different? Of course you know your mother the best lol

I didn't tell my mother either. I mentioned it to her last year or so and she was like I don't think that's a good idea. I don't think you'll be happy with that. Now that I am actually going thru the process I have told 4 people. My best friend is coming to stay with me and that's all I need. I figure everyone knows I work out so there's no need to add any more information. ????

Hi there. New to this and yes, I'd like to keep secret also. Well not from my close friends but from work. There's forms to fill out - anyone had to have doc fill out form for work? Do they have to put gastric sleeve?

Hi!

I told my doctor I wanted this confidential, so when they filled out the paper there was no mention of gastric surgery at all. It was just mentioned that I would be out for a procedure and when my return date would possibly be. Good luck on your journey!

I had a "secret lap band" in 2008 and it was REALLY hard not telling people. only my parents and husband knew of the surgery. The fact that everybody knows me for my hefty eating habits made me self conscious during holidays and dinners with friends and family. This made me try to be discrete and I would eat more than I should have with did not help me in the long run. My band slipped during my last pregnancy (less than 1 year post-op) and I've had reflux issues and weight gain. Now I weigh more than I did at 9 months pregnant and I'm preparing for a revision surgery to get the sleeve after the band comes out. I don't want to hide this surgery, I don't want to come up with excuses for not eating, not being hungry and actually even eating more than I should. Who cares what people say, EVEN IF IT YOUR MOTHER, we are adults and this is a medical decision for our health.

I have been on this major diet for a year and only lost 45 pounds my family are so rude and say things like you just don't want to work for it... I just know that my weight loss would be everyone's topic if they knew if I didn't lose fast enough that kind of thing. All that matters to me Is my mom and teen daughters knowing. They know how hard I work now and will see that I am doing my best and support me. I do wish I had your confidence tho I hate having to lie or omit to my family!

I wanted to keep it secret as a lot of people are very judgmental. However, I've gotten such great response from the people I have told that it's hard to contain myself. I want to tell it to the world, but for now those who don't know will remain in the dark.

Same here. My family (parents, siblings, husband, few aunts/uncles) all know and are very supportive. I've also told a few of the teachers I work with and again very supportive. It makes me happy! Once I'm done with surgery I don't think I will not tell people if they ask how I did it. I will say lots of very HARD work and WLS. I don't know if I will ever make it "facebook official" though. Lol.

My husband knows, and one friend, who is supposed to be doing it with me but gained in her supervised weigh-ins, so will def take longer/may flake on the idea all together.

Now I'm approved. I have to talk to work about time off so I can schedule and I'm going to be as vague as possible about that.

My problem is that a close friend (a bridesmaid in my wedding type close--super close) recently started a job in my office. She will see that I'm off for x amount of days and ask why and I don't know what I'll say to her, honestly.

The reason I haven't told her anything already is because one time when I was in the very beginning, I told her I had thought about surgery and she immediately shot me down and said "you don't need that, that's for people like 150 plus over weight" (which I am).

Since that encounter, I decided not to utter one single peep to her and I haven't--but now I'll have to tell her something.

Ugh.

I haven't even told my mom or my dad! Literally--just my husband and my friend (who I'm now paranoid will let it slip to some mutual friend and blahhhhhh, I hate this.)

I wish I COULD be honest with everyone. I just do not have the time, nor the energy, to defend something that I've already made my mind up about.

This should not be this hard!!

@@Grateful_Love Do you have to have a hernia repair? That's what I am telling people. It's perfectly true, it's just not the whole story.

I totally understand! I'm keeping mine a secret as well. I brought the idea of weight loss surgery up to all my friends and family last year and EVERYONE was against it. They said things like "it's cheating!" "Just lose the weight with diet and exercise" "that money can go towards a really good personal trainer"

My point is, obviously, if anything else worked (and believe me, I've tried EVERYTHING! I've probably spent more money altogether over the last 8 years on different pills and programs and diets than I am on my procedure alone) then I wouldn't need weight loss surgery. Sometimes, something's, you just have to do on your own. YOU know what's best for yourself and your body. So go ahead and do what makes you happy. As far as support, site and groups like us over here will ALWAYS be here for you. I'm new to this website (I actually signed up today) but I have already gained so much knowledge about the weight loss surgery world. And so many of my doubts and fears for my upcoming gastric sleeve (February 18th) has been cleared away.

I told three people. My mom as a support person, my husband cuz hell I was going in for surgery (lol) and my oldest son overheard. It isn't anyone else's business and as far as a couple close friends all they know us that I had a hiatal hernia repaired.

What ticks me off is that I've lost over thirty pounds since preop and hardly anyhow has outwardly noticed! Wtf people? I'm 30 lbs thinner ?

Hw 276

Sw 260

CW approximately: 243 (sleeved 1-19)

I do not have a hernia repair..but that's likely what I'll tell them, too. Or something along those lines

I just feel awful lying. I'm afraid it will make my recovery time longer cause karma is a bad bleotch.

I initially only read the first response from Seahawk. But you others are right.

It truly is no ones business, just mine.

I just hate that I don't feel open about it. I'm usually such a open book

I am telling a few, close people, not telling some people anything, and the there are some people I am telling I have excessive ulcers. Some people won't understand, and it just isn't anyone's business, I really do not need any negativity. My parents, brothers, husband, kids, sister in law, aunt, and my 3 closest friens know.

I have bad arthritis in my knee which everyone knows at work because they see me struggling to walk some days. Losing weight will definitely help my knee and arthritis so when they ask me what kind of surgery I'm having I just tell them it's for my knee which is basically true. They don't need to know more