My rant is, it's too bad we aren't allowed to rant and rave in the Rants and Raves forum. It should be called the "Rants and Raves, But Only If It's Warm and Fuzzy and Don't You Dare Post What You Are Really Feeling or You Will Get Personally Insulted" forum.

Edited April 10, 201412 yr by Kindle

Good save girls!

Good save girls!

LOL

I'm pretty new here and haven't written much, but the mean spirited tone of some of the recent posts is really disappointing. We've all seen this type of behavior before, but it's usually from a bully on the playground, not on a website created solely to support and educate others navigating the WLS maze.

It's not even your ignorance or "opinions" that I find offensive. It's your apparent complete lack of empathy and insight into the human condition that concern me. And hey mean girls, trust me when I say we've all had quite enough "tough love" in the past and are no longer in need of it at this point in our lives. My Mom is no longer with us and you're not really a suitable replacement.

I think most of us were hopeful that bariatric pal would be a safe haven from wannabe pseudo condescending junior WLS experts, but it seems that's not likely. Having said that, there will always be those special someone's who seem to take joy from making others feel less than. Maybe there should be a special "troll" edition of BP just for them? Can I get a witness?

I think most of us were hopeful that bariatric pal would be a safe haven from wannabe pseudo condescending junior WLS experts, but it seems that's not likely. Having said that, there will always be those special someone's who seem to take joy from making others feel less than. Maybe there should be a special "troll" edition of BP just for them?

Crikey, I think we've found another me - judging by that first sentence!

Ninan, welcome. Come and have a cup of tea with me any time you like, love.

Be assured, however, I'm no junior WLS expert. I don't think i ever will be, either.

I am, however, a condescending mo-fo when I want to be.

But do not fear. I do not discriminate. Everyone gets it

50 % of this trek is attitude @@ninan I like yours! Welcome aboard and don't be a stranger on here K. Love you @@Madam Reverie

I think mean girl assessment is way offbase... yes less compassionate...but not all of were raised the same me personally I had to be strong to survive so ladies it works both ways. Hope u all have a great day..

I think mean girl assessment is way offbase... yes less compassionate...but not all of were raised the same me personally I had to be strong to survive so ladies it works both ways. Hope u all have a great day..

Well I was raised by wolves.(symbolically )..and yet I can see that hammering on people who are scared is not the answer either. You get more flies with honey then you do with vinegar.....

I know you were raised in a bad situation and I am so sorry for that..But we have all had it bad when we were obese or how we were raised are even now after we have taken this journey. Life is unfair and those who hurt seem to prosper but it would be nice to find a place where we feel safe...Not to be: get going attitude...Some folks are so tired and this is their last stand. Using all the strength they have to make it...Positive feed back can be a great asset you know! As sometimes tough love does it. It depends on the poster and what is being posted... To have an overall kick the ass attitude: no I don't buy that I don't really think you would either......not really!!!!!

Edited April 12, 201412 yr by RJ'S/beginning

We will just have to agree to disagree I am not using my crappy upbringing as an excuse I am explaining that I am less compassionate then others that's all ....well to each there own my honest feelings are I can do anything I sent my mind to. Good luck with your weight loss journey

Every website of this nature is going to have it's pros and cons... this is the "FB of the WLS world" to me... I take it all with a grain of salt (some lime and tequila...lol) ... one of the biggest problems with written versus verbal is the "tone"... what may read like someone is blasting you may not have been intended that way.

In my business (customer service) I learned a LONG time ago, not to take it personally... and that's how I feel about this website too... we are all here to learn, share and experience... and we have to agree to disagree sometimes...that's life...

Well anyway, that's my 2 cents worth...

I enjoy the insights here and will continue to enjoy the banter as well

Well it's NOT hot here in Idaho... That water froze solid before it even left the bucket! And my long, insulating big girl panties won't come off for at least another month

Hottern heck in arizona 97*

*rant*

*rave*

Help me! I am being repressed! or is it oppressed?!

We will just have to agree to disagree I am not using my crappy upbringing as an excuse I am explaining that I am less compassionate then others that's all ....well to each there own my honest feelings are I can do anything I sent my mind to. Good luck with your weight loss journey

I agree with your assessment. I will agree to disagree. I am glad you were honest. I like honesty and you are okay as well as far as I think....Better days a head kid...Hoping all the success in the world for you!

I'm pretty new here and haven't written much, but the mean spirited tone of some of the recent posts is really disappointing. We've all seen this type of behavior before, but it's usually from a bully on the playground, not on a website created solely to support and educate others navigating the WLS maze.

It's not even your ignorance or "opinions" that I find offensive. It's your apparent complete lack of empathy and insight into the human condition that concern me. And hey mean girls, trust me when I say we've all had quite enough "tough love" in the past and are no longer in need of it at this point in our lives. My Mom is no longer with us and you're not really a suitable replacement.

I think most of us were hopeful that bariatric pal would be a safe haven from wannabe pseudo condescending junior WLS experts, but it seems that's not likely. Having said that, there will always be those special someone's who seem to take joy from making others feel less than. Maybe there should be a special "troll" edition of BP just for them? Can I get a witness?

Nailed it! The Bullies (not calling anyone in particular a bully but there are MOST definitly some around) and food Police are powerful in cyberspace. But, there is a lot of good here too. Some have a "unique" way of showing support. I've learned a lot and felt supported more often than not, but lately, there is a bunch of negativity going round. Just because the thought is there, doesn't always mean it needs to be said. Good God there are a billion snarky comments I would post but it's poor character to do so. Bullies like attention. I love sarcasm, and I like clever people. But have a little mercy when some stranger pours their soul out or has concerns that seem small to you. I think people can intelligently and respectfully disagree too. So if you rant about some group/person in particular, be prepared for feedback.

Edited April 15, 201412 yr by CrazyJaney