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I can definately see both sides and would have to agree that you have to do what's right for you however, I have personal experience with both paths and can tell you neither way is perfect.

My mom had gastric bypass 5 years ago and told just us kids and our dad about the surgery. She swore us all to secrecy. As time passed and she lost weight of course people asked about the weight loss and her reply was just that she was eating better. Now that she has lost all the weight I think she would like to help other family members by telling them of her experience but she feels that it is too late into the game to spill the secret without being thought of as a liar.

On the other hand I had the lapband done last month and I told everybody I knew and even a couple strangers. I didn't want the "secret" life that my mom had. However, I do notice that inlaws and friends seem to watch what I eat a little more than I care for. In fact at Easter I got my butt chewed by my mother in law for eating mashed potatos because they have no nutritional value. This is something she would never have discussed with me before but I think because I was open about having my surgery she felt comfortable telling me what she thought. All in all, I don't like secrets and I can deal with critics in my own way, so for me "telling" was the best option. Good luck with your decision and I hope it works for you.

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I think it's perfectly fine, and understandable, to keep it between you and your family. I only told one person prior to my surgery (not even my family) because I didn't want anyone trying to talk me out of it.

However, after my surgery, I did let everybody know. I can say that at times I wished that I hadn't told my co-workers. It gave them a gateway to comment on my weight, on food that I was eating, and ask me how much I weighed/was loosing on a daily basis. And that was uncomfortable at times... so I can definately relate to how you might be feeling.

Good luck w/ your journey! I wish you all the best! :D

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