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My Journey

My weight loss has been a journey,

One I never imagined would succeed.

After so many years it is so hard,

To distinguish between a want, and a need.

We need food for survival,

But we want it for all the wrong reasons.

We use it to Celebrate anything,

Even the changing of the seasons.

Many do not understand,

The struggles that we face.

Discrimination is running rampant,

It’s not always about race.

We are so much harder on ourselves,

Than anyone else could every think about being.

Cause every day in the mirror,

It’s our own body we are seeing.

There came a time to make a choice,

To live or just stop breathing.

I had to admit I needed help,

But the path would not be easy.

Some would say I took the easy way out,

Having surgery is not the answer.

But those people have never walked a mile in my shoes,

Being fat is like a cancer.

Having this band inside of me,

Is the tool that gives me hope.

Some days it really tests me,

And I wonder if it’s friend or foe.

It has given me the start I needed,

It challenges me everyday

I’ve worked hard for every pound I’ve lost,

For me it was the WAY!

My life is so much better,

And it gets brighter every day.

This journey has taught me oh so much,

And I Praise God every time I weigh.

So if you have this choice to make,

And you’re not quite sure what to do.

Don’t worry about what others say,

Search your heart and make the choice for you!

written by: Regina (rroswelltx)

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Regina:

You put all my thought and emotions into words! I love it! Iam so glad that we are members together in the June Crew!

Love, Hugs and Friendship,

Lisa

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That is wonderful... you cover just about all the emotions, how people treat you and the people who will never understand as I did not understand untill I got heavy... great!!!

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Just today I was talking to a friend long distance that may want the band, and she was talking about all the misunderstandings that people are telling her about. Her sadness about others not really understanding were all to familiar to me. This poem is such a recap of our conversation, its like you were a fly on the wall in our rooms. I think a lot of peoplew will see themselves in these words you skillfully put here for us.:clap2: :clap2:

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you have very clearly put the thoughts and feelings many of us have had into some very nice words- well done.

the friend or for bit strikes a chord, our band challenges our past and present behaviour, thats part of the learning process. I have read where people say the band does not help emotional eating, and I think that is untrue. even the fact we can see it as a foe at time shows us that it is showing us somthing that is uncomfortable to see/know- we can only fix or change behaviour that we aknowledge- it s the band that has helped me tell the dfference between want and need, between real and head hunger. not always very convenient when I want that snack and I realize I want it for the wrong reasons, but I thank the band evntually.

I also like the bit about walking a mle n someone elses shoes. I am a great believer in peer support, especially when dealing with long term/chronc issues. THe so called experts are helpful but only someone else who has experienced the same challenges, fears, dscriminations etc can trully understand, emphathise, sympathise and feel what we feel. knowing that someone else has felt the way we feel at times s comfortng, especially when we see that they have gotten through the tough times- that brings real hope

great words presented in a very poignant manner

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PS - the only ting I might have an ssue with is the title

My journey

Its a good title, but it covers the journey of just about every bandster I have ever met or spoke to. so I would prefer The Journey or Our Journey. Not a critiscm, more a complment. You have written from a personal perspectve but have captured a far broader image of the band journey than I think you may have realised at the start- if that makes sense

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Thank you all for the feedback, it has been at least 10 years since I have written anything. I used to do it so regularly but just don't anymore.

I titled it my journey only because I would never feel comfortable speaking for anyone else when not everyone may feel the same as I do. I do however feel good that I have been able to capture what others may feel too. I don't know what sparked me to write this, I guess I felt as though by doing it, it may help other's understand what I have gone through in the last 9 months. Thats the reason why I wanted to post it here, because you all do understand and i knew ya'll would tell me what you really think. I am happy to be a part of this forum, and happy for the life my band has given me. Thanks again everyone.

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Your poem is my life too. You brought tears to my eyes. No one but those of us LIVING this struggle can understand.

Thank you for the emotional poem.

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