So I told my boss I was going to be out for WLS and she acted all sad for me. Like really? You just need to exercise and eat right....you need to make more time for you....and started telling me about her obese friend who lost over 100 lbs on her own. Then she told me later that if i have it, I just need to be honest when people ask me how I'm losing weight. She said a friend of hers had surgery and then told everyone she was doing water aerobics. That was one of the first people I told outside of my family and the negative reaction stuck with me the rest of the day. Unfortunately, I do not have tough skin and it bothers me when people try to shove their opinions down my throat. So for now, I've decided not to tell anyone else. Did you tell anyone outside of your family? If not, how did you answer the "what are you doing to lose weight" question. I know it's my body and my business but just curious how you all handled it. 4/16/14 is my date...

I only told my husband and my mother. People at work think I'm having a hysterectomy.

I am not interested in hearing everyone else's opinions about what I should be doing, nor in answering a million questions.

Most of the women I work with are trying really hard to lose weight and although most are smaller than me, I'm just not interested in talking about it. That's all they talk about is their food and Zumba.

I don't want people asking me what I'm eating and why. It could be that as more time goes on I feel comfortable talking about it but not now.

My surgery is scheduled for August 4th and I have told people on my job about my decision. I am comforable with my choice and resolute so no one's ideas/comments are going to affect my decision. I do understand that it is a personal decison and not everyone will want to share such personal information, nor should they feel they have to. My coworkers have seen me struggle with my weight through all of my dieting attempts (Optifast, Nutrisystem, Proti Diet, etc); after August, they'll get to see me succeed with my sleeve surgery.

I am extremely proud of my decision and this journey I am about to embark upon. That being said, I only told my boss and three close coworkers (out of 40) and outside the office my husband, two daughters and two friends. I am not embarrassed only want to surround myself with positive supporting folks. In time they may know the whole journey tale but for now just plan to tell the truth about the weight loss.....portion control, limited carbs, no sugar and exercise.

Edited April 2, 201412 yr by Iamspecial

Thank you for this TOPIC, I've been comtemplating as well. When I went to a support group, I mentioned that I felt bad about telling a lie and she replied with great advice, "There are two kinds of lies; one that will hurt people and one that doesn't hurt people. The one you're telling is okay because its a nice way of keeping them out of your business". That made me feel better.

It's still a challenge as I work with more men than ladies, and they're not so nice. However, as some of you have mentioned, I may be comfortable later to tell my story.

Exactly how I feel. .like I'm living a lie..but I really don't want to tell any coworkers. .I'm a very private person..wonder if I was having a different surgery if I would of felt bad not telling people my business. .oh I wonder! !

It's none of their business! I don't know why we feel like we are obligated to share intimate details of our lives with our coworkers. If you feel comfortable that's fine but personally I don't.

I have seen people use personal information against me and other people and I'm not having it.

If you were having a hysterectomy or something would you tell them? Why do you think it's any of their business?

I'm not telling anyone other than my husband and son.

I am very private person and certainly don't want to tell those overly nosey gossiping vultures at my office.

Government job and all they do is talk talk talk (just like most places) about each other behind their backs and about every little thing. Plus I don't want anyone's opinion or trying to change my mind, this decision has taken me years to finally do so it's my personal business!

Honestly I didn't feel any need to tell anyone at work but then my boss said, "Just don't lie about it like other people I know. One girl said she does water aerobics and I had to tell her to stop lying." Really? Wow. I don't think it's lying if she really is doing aerobics but it's not their business "how" she's losing weight anyways! If you had a tummy tuck or something would that be everyone's business, too? I told her that maybe in time that I might feel free to discuss it but for now I'd appreciate it if she kept it between us. She said someone might be able to benefit from it if they were contemplating surgery...well not being ugly but they can do their research just like I did. Besides, I know most of the catty

Honestly I didn't feel any need to tell anyone at work but then my boss said, "Just don't lie about it like other people I know. One girl said she does water aerobics and I had to tell her to stop lying." Really? Wow. I don't think it's lying if she really is doing aerobics but it's not their business "how" she's losing weight anyways! If you had a tummy tuck or something would that be everyone's business, too? I told her that maybe in time that I might feel free to discuss it but for now I'd appreciate it if she kept it between us. She said someone might be able to benefit from it if they were contemplating surgery...well not being ugly but they can do their research just like I did. Besides, I know most of the catty, two faced people that would be bold enough to ask me directly are not asking because they need help to lose weight. It's because they are nosey. Another girl in my office had surgery and some of them were bold enough to ask me what she was doing to drop weight so quickly. I told them to ask her. Geez. Some people just have nerve! I wish I was confident to just not care and come straight out but it's like a bunch of mean girls in high school and of course they are all tiny...Oh well. I'll come up with something.

Super Great topic! Funny enough, I'm usually an open book but for some reason I knew exactly who I would be telling and who I wouldn't, personal life and work. I only told my boss who I love and is very cool and one of my very good co- worker girlfriends. I feel weird sometimes because I am super close to 2 other guys at work that I share a lot with but I didn't tell them. I may tell them after but for now, it's fun having something of my own My advise would be to only tell people who you know will support you. That's all you need right now!