Do any of y'all, who use MyFitnessPal, ever offer unsolicited advice on your friend's food diaries? I always try to stay positive in my comments, and I tend to not comment at all when I'm blown away with what crappy food choices two of my "friends" (they are really strangers) make on a regular basis. Then, it dawned on me that they might need some TOUGH LOVE, but I still don't like to give unsolicited advice..... What do y'all do?

I definitely keep my mouth shut. I too have "friends" who eat terribly. Tons of sweets and fast food. I wonder how they're still losing weight. Then I also have friends who I think don't eat enough solid food. I am by no means perfect and I have some off days for sure. I just hope that I can inspire by example. I hope to get ideas from others by seeing what they eat also. So, no, I wouldn't say anything.

This is where being a guy comes in handy. We're not all that sensitive. We just say, Dude, what the hell are you eating and why? If they go away, oh well.

This is where being a guy comes in handy. We're not all that sensitive. We just say, Dude, what the hell are you eating and why? If they go away, oh well.

Sometimes it pays to be a guy!!!!

Well, another thought is that bad or good, tracking helps you face reality. I'm sure they see how the numbers are broken down, and maybe that "bad" choice was balanced out over the week or was a treat or something and they exercised more so they could have it. I didn't know that the food logs were visible. LOL. Sometimes just logging the food is a big reality check. It always was for me in WW. I never wanted to log off-program choices. Then I eventually stopped tracking altogether...

Think of some clever remark like, "Hey, how do you gals lose weight eating Krispy Kreme and Smashburgers". Of course, you may want to tame it down?

I'd think that if I was in a group and I posted I was eating Krispy Kreme(example) I'd assume everyone knew I didn't care about losing weight.

Yea I never say anything either - I mean we all screw up on occasion. This one girl that I became "friends" with on my fitness pal was mad because I didn't allow anyone to look at my food. She was like stalking me and asking me to change it - and I did, I changed the settings. Now, she hadn't logged on like forever - wth lol

Think of some clever remark like, "Hey, how do you gals lose weight eating Krispy Kreme and Smashburgers". Of course, you may want to tame it down?

I'd think that if I was in a group and I posted I was eating Krispy Kreme(example) I'd assume everyone knew I didn't care about losing weight.

Can we be friends? Lol im erinistehawesome.

Im not tracking right now but I intend to start after my fill on Tuesday!

I agree Healthynewme it also makes me crazy. But I would never say a word because it's their choice. I agree with Leepers to sometimes I wonder how people live on such few calories to. Either way it's not my business or choice so unless someone asks I don't offer. I am far from perfect myself!

I do not have an open diary on MFP because I am afraid I wouldn't be as honest if I knew people could look at it....that said I really don't look at anyone else's open diary either. They know what they are eating good or bad; I mean it is RIGHT there for them to see and maybe that will eventually be their wake up call. Maybe not. People berating me wouldn't help me change...it has never been a motivator, at least for me.

Then again they DO have an open diary, so maybe they want you to comment?

And yep, 2muchfun, sometimes life would be much simpler if we were guys. LOL

Edited March 31, 201412 yr by Sherlock1969

People that aren't loving and kind.... I delete them. We bash ourselves enough... We don't need that from others.

I'm not saying I don't need to know the truth because I do....

If someone asks my opinion...I'll give it in a non-judgemental way.

Otherwise I try to share my experience on a topic and not tell anyone what their life should be like..

I would've gotten to 270 lbs if I knew all the answers..,,

Keep on keepin' on girl...

The best thing about myfitnesspal. It allows me to see what I'm actually doing.... With my "lick, bites and tastes". But I don't put a lot of people on my friends.... Just people that have been where I have and also are genuine in their sharing.