I haven't made a final decision yet, but I'm not sure I want to tell a lot of people that I'm opting for WLS. The problem with the sleeve is it's hard to hide, from hospital time to rapid weight loss. It may sound foolish but many are family members who I love, otherwise I wouldn't care so much, but they don't get WLS. How did you handle it?

You nailed it with this post Tiny! Best luck and keep on losing!

Thanks Linda. I met my goal in Nov and have been working to maintain it at this point. It's been a fun challenge over the past 3 months. If I don't lose another pound, I'd be okay.

I see that now. Well, just keep on inspiring us. Very proud for you. I cannot wait for the summer months to come, and this year I won't be sitting indoors being depressed. I want to be where you are!

I only selected a few that I wanted to know. Then from there word just got around. I really don't care who knows. I just want support not to be put down because Of my decision. It's bad enough I have to go through this just to lose weight. I have made many attempts over the years and nothing really worked or I would lose the weight just to gain it back.

Thanks everyone for supporting this topic, I've been silently reading and soaking in your great solutions. I really like going with just letting it take it's course, don't ask, don't tell, if asked, hope people respect your answer. Some will know the details, others will not.

I've told no one... The only person that knows is my finance..

No ones business but my own

I've told no one... The only person that knows is my finance..

No ones business but my own

That's so true & I feel the same way

So I was going to be very discreet about my surgery and only told 4 people.... my business partner (to explain the time off), a friend here in Idaho who had gastric bypass years ago (for some insight and support), my sister in Wisconsin (she accompanied me to TJ for surgery), and my parents in Arizona(because my sister convinced me how pissed they'd be if they found out afterwards).

In the course of 3 weeks, my partner told her whole family and any friends that asked why I wasn't around at Christmas time. My friend told a number of mutual friends because "it's no big deal and they will all see you losing weight anyways", my sister told most of the rest of my family, including brother, nieces and nephews, and my mom told any family members that my sister missed -aunts and uncles, and everybody she talks to in her retirement park down in Arizona.

Today I walked into my beauty salon and my nail tech insisted on knowing how I lost so much weight. I'm a terrible lier so ended up telling her about the surgery and kept the entire salon of patrons entertained with my tale of bariatric surgery in Tijuana. One of them ended up getting the name and contact info for my surgeon!

So my original plan to keep this a secret has gone all to ****, but Luckily I have had nothing but supportive feedback. If anyone is saying anything negative, at least they are doing it behind my back

I didn't want to tell anyone either but of course one person told another. I went to Tijuana and I have a lot of people telling me how reckless and stupid I was to do that. I have a friend that tells me home great their boyfriends are because they would spend money at the best places money could buy. Her boyfriend would never let her go to Tijuana let alone have major surgery in a strip mall.

I made a decision for my health and I thought I was pretty brave. I so wish my friends would stop judging me!

11 1/2 month out. Here is what I did, I called up a few friends and family members before surgery. Like I needed permission to have this surgery.

Some of my friend were unbelievable supportive. My hubby is the absolute best. Hung in tight through it all. I told my mother and just like it happen to someone else my mother told several family members. She was concerned I guess. But some of the people she told I don't even talk to. So i was quite upset about it

To say the least. Anyhow other than close friends and family, I ended up mostly keeping it private and its pretty much that's the way I wanted to deal with it. But I certainly get asked questions evey day at work, after 97 pounds loss. Its been fun with moments difficulty. Especially since ive been a slow looser. Lol. I wouldnt change it. Because it's been a fun ride.

I didn't tell hardly anyone prior to my surgery. As the days got closer, I found the whole process to make me want to keep things incredibly private. Post surgery, different story! I will tell anyone who asks what the heck I have done. It was the best decision I ever made for my health. Diabetes - Gone. Severe knee pain - greatly reduced; sleep apnea and a CPAP Machine - don't need it!

I didn't tell hardly anyone prior to my surgery. As the days got closer, I found the whole process to make me want to keep things incredibly private. Post surgery, different story! I will tell anyone who asks what the heck I have done. It was the best decision I ever made for my health. Diabetes - Gone. Severe knee pain - greatly reduced; sleep apnea and a CPAP Machine - don't need it!

Right now I really need it, but I can't wait to toss that damn CPAP machine!

Hi I am 3 weeks away from having my sleeve I wasn't going to tell anyone but have found myself telling people as have been a little scared about having it but thing it's the best

pops think it's the best thing for me and the people I have told have been great no bad feed back ????

oops think it's the best thing for me and the people I have told have been great no bad feed back dde00

I'm a week away from surgery and when I finally decided to go for it I told my husband who says he loves me "just the way I am". I'm not doing this for looks, I'm doing this for my health. I've mentioned it to my parents who seem unphased by my decision. A few coworkers know because of having to prepare for the time off. And I've told my two best friends; funny, my overweight friend was negative about it; my skinny friend is ready to take me shopping and to the beach and not have me hiding under a towel!!!

But honestly my struggle has been with the lack of support. I'm a people person and need to bounce ideas, concerns off someone; for this decision I haven't found anyone. Reading on this forum has given me the ability to keep on my journey and know that although I'm nervous this is the best decision for ME.

Thank you for sharing your stories.

I have told no one of my surgery. Not even my husband. Everyone thinks I am having surgery because of ulcers. I have no idea what I'm going to do when my husband come to the hospital. I don't know if the doctor is going to tell him. I hope not. I hope my husband doesn't start asking questions. Do I feel bad..... Yes, of course. I'm doing this for me. I didn't want negative feedback on my decision. I didn't want opinions, questions, or concerns. I know my family will support me but they talk to much. My mom has always told me the best person to tell you secret to is yourself. So that is what I did.... Kept it to myself. Now, the ulcer wasn't a complete lie because while on this gastric sleeve journey I found out that I had ulcers but they healed with medication and diet. Don't get me wrong I feel guilty........ BUT; I have worked so hard for my family and friends. Put so much before myself and woke up one day realizing I didn't know who "I was" anymore. I was 5'4 200 lbs with bad knees and back. I spent 10 years in the military proudly before getting medically discharged. I was so consumed in my family and everyday life that I couldn't tell you what made me happy anymore. I had faked my smile for so long I couldn't even tell you what was real and what smile was fake. So I needed to do things for me. Mentally..... Spiritually ....... And physically! That is what I have done. For 3 years I have slowly got back to me and I am happy. So I made this choice for me and me alone. This was my gift to myself. Yes it was selfish not telling my husband and family and I maybe wrong, but I am proud of myself and I love me!!! My husband loves me and my family. Right now I am going through my pre op liquid diet my surgery is 1 March 2014. And nobody knows that I'm having gastric sleeve surgery but me.

Its everyones choice.. But not telling your husband? I don't think that's entirely fair to him. He's your life partner.

What will he be left to think if he loses you on the operating table? That the last thing between you was a huge whopper of a lie?

Sorry, not for me...