Hi everyone! I wanted to start a dialogue about the PRE pre-op feelings, issues, concerns and desires. Please give feedback...

So, did you start your process looking at tons of YouTube videos? I did and quite frankly I am obsessed. I have the basic background story, give or take a few details BUT none of that is important anymore, at least I don't think so. I have made a real decision to have WLS and I am ready now, more than ever. Originally I wanted the LapBand; I thought it was a God send because that meant no cutting of my insides. WELL the surgeon definitely busted my bubble, he basically told me I was too overweight and it would me no good...WTF (LOL). He gave me the option of either the VSG or RNY...talk about stuck...anyway I quickly made a decision (I felt extremely rushed), choosing the RNY. After meeting with the nutritionist (how is she different from the dietician?), I was informed I had time to change my mind....thank you Jesus!

Okay I am clearly still at the beginning of this process, however, my surgeon spoke life (dramatic I know) when he said "oh this will go pretty quickly, your insurance takes no time." If that wasn’t the best new I'd heard all week, hell all month. BUT this was short lived because he followed that with "you need to quit smoking or you will die!!!!!!" WOW is all I could say. Since then I have been struggling to drop the habit. I am 2days cigarette free and this only came after I had a REAL talk with self "Do you want to smoke and be fat or do you want to improve your health in more ways than one?" I agreed and I do mean to toot my own horn because I have not gone one day without smoking in 10yrs, 2 down the rest of my life to go.

Back to these YouTube videos, I have watched so many and have subscribed to a few people. I watch them and can envision myself loosing the weight and going shopping and even working out HARD. To be honest it is all I think about at this point and I do not even have a date yet, hell I haven't even had the psych eval. I feel like my obsession is PREMATURE...is it? I decided on VSG because I do not want to take millions of Vitamins for the rest of my life, I want the weight to come off slower just so my body can catch up (not guaranteed, a girl can hope) and lastly I believe this surgery provides a sense of normalcy that RNY does not. So, I find that because I am unsure if I want to go public with my decision and journey, I only have one person to talk to about this....good old dependable and supportive MOMMY. Because she is the only person, I talk to her about this constantly. She reiterated the fact that I should not care what people think because this is what I believe; know without a shadow of doubt this IS THE BEST DECISION FOR ME. I agree but I am still on the fence...

If you have made it this far, THANK YOU for reading and please let me know what you think.

Girl yes it is just that simple! I started with that basic phrase and slowly added different details that interested me. I'm sure you will become obsessed for a short time but its beyond informative and inspiring. Whenever I am like f*** this eating better and exercise I watch a video and I am reminded what I want and why. YouTube videos are the TRUTH!!!!!

I'll check some out tomorrow! Thanks!!

Ok so I thought I was the only one who felt as if life was on pause until this surgery had been completed.

Oh no, I am definitely there! I find myself saying "After surgery I wil...." whether it's getting a haircut, cleaning out my fridge, going on a date, buying clothes, meeting new people...almost every thought begins with "After surgery I will..." The only thing I am not prefacing is eating. The horrible mix of quitting smoking and knowing I will be getting sleeved in a couple of months has awakened the eating machine. I feel insatiable, bottomless and out of control....it's like the decision for wls has completely relaxed the tight control I have tried to maintain over my eating. I may actually have to buy larger clothes in the two months before surgery...it's nuts!

I am glad to hear I am not the only person who is obsessing...but, while I think I have made the right decision to get wls, I really don't think putting my life "on pause" is mentally healthy, it's horrible for my social life as well as my waistline...I can only hope it is normal and temporary.

Congratulations again on not smoking!! Check out quitnet.com , download a stop smoking app, take care of yourself and really Celebrate every success!

I don't smoke but I can definitely relate on the obsession part. This WLS has consumed my almost every thought. I try not to talk to my friends about it because frankly, I'm pretty sure they're sick of hearing about it. I'm always reading about WLS, read almost every post on here on a daily... trying to imagine what my experience will be. I'm still waiting on a date. Just waiting for that phone to ring.
I'm a single mom of a 7 year old so I have so many feelings of fear that something could go wrong in the surgery and i'm all she has, but I don't let those feels stay in my head too long. I try to envision life as a healthy person -100 lbs and it seems unreachable since I've struggled with weight forever.

So anyways, yes, totally obsessed with this but the good thing is that I think food is already starting to repulse me.

I don't smoke but I can definitely relate on the obsession part. This WLS has consumed my almost every thought. I try not to talk to my friends about it because frankly, I'm pretty sure they're sick of hearing about it. I'm always reading about WLS, read almost every post on here on a daily... trying to imagine what my experience will be. I'm still waiting on a date. Just waiting for that phone to ring.

I'm a single mom of a 7 year old so I have so many feelings of fear that something could go wrong in the surgery and i'm all she has, but I don't let those feels stay in my head too long. I try to envision life as a healthy person -100 lbs and it seems unreachable since I've struggled with weight forever.

So anyways, yes, totally obsessed with this but the good thing is that I think food is already starting to repulse me.

I haven't told many friends about my WLS. I am sure it will come out later, but I don't want anyone raining on my parade right now. I just need positivity to keep myself motivated through this preop phase. So mostly I "talk" on here where we're mostly going through the same thing and everyone is supportive and encouraging (which I am grateful for).

I'm a mom to a 5-year-old girl and my biggest fear of this surgery is not making it through it. I don't want to leave her motherless. So I can totally relate in that aspect. But then I think of how much better of a mom I'll be from doing this. I talked to my surgeon today and signed my consents and he assured me that he thinks I'm a great candidate, very low risk per the cardiologist, and that I will sail right through it. He also had not had any patients die, which was also a relief.

So you're not alone

I hit obsessed over 2 months ago!! My process started in Sept. and I was told it would only take 4-6 weeks I'm working on almost 6 months. I've run into a stomach (polyps) issue that will keep my surgery date as far away as the end of March!! I YouTube daily as well as browse this site. I'm just sooooo ready already!! Glad to know I'm not the only one

I'm a little obsessed also. Well, as obsessed as I have time for. I love watching youtube videos. They are very encouraging for me also. I watch and think about my future. I can't wrap my head around the fact that I could truely be skinny(ish) again. It's been 20 years, and I can't even remember what it feels like. I can't wait until May!

Congrats of quitting! My MD will not do surgery on smokers either. You will feel so good and healthy on the other side of this!