The only one that knows that I am 3 of 6 months into this process, and will probably have the surgery in May, is my husband and a friend from church. Right from the beginning I knew I wanted to keep this to myself because of all the opinionated people in my life, and when I told that close friend from church about it, I could see right away that it was a mistake. I saw her judgement in her eyes. So I will tell no one else until I am home recovering. I think even my husband disapproves, thinking that I should just be able to lose the weight on my own. Well, he's only 5'6" and weighs about 140.... so he's always been a smaller man and has never had weight issues. And we've only been married for almost 3 years, so he has no idea how this weight has been like a roller-coaster for me all my life, even though I've done my best to explain.

So yeah, for now it's my "dirty little secret" ...but I'm really looking forward to telling everyone afterwards and seeing/hearing their reactions!!

Did YOU keep it secret?

What were some of the replies and reactions when you finally told your friends/family?

I am heading on the plane now for surgery tomorrow. I have shared this with my parents, husband and sibling. I was really upset to find out today that all my friends have known for the past 2 weeks. My husband told a friend, the friend told his wife and it went from there. I am hurt by 2 things. My husband blabbing something that wasn't his news to share, and my friends for not saying anything the last two weeks. Not the way I anticipated this all rolling out. Feeling shitty about it all. Damit!!!

That just sucks. My husband told my 86 year old mother in law who has dementia (mild). She's not a nice person to begin with - a true small town gossip. She calls everyone she knows and talks and talks about everyone (not remembering the multiple times she's told the same story). I was so pissed at my husband. I can relate to your hurt. But this is about you and your health. To hell with the gossips! Be strong. You got this. Best wishes for an uneventful and speedy recovery.

Just focus on the good work and losing weight everyone!!!!! Love the personal glimpses into our lives, some good, some bad, some sad, but hugs to you all and best of luck!

And what gets me is those who will sit and watch and WAIT for failure so they can pity you. I realize there are far more out there who love me and want me to succeed but the few who don't "get it" and who enjoy suffering, they make it hard. I don't have many of those in my immediate circle but enough acquaintances that fall into that category. My blood is kinda boiling now for you but DC is right. They talked trash about Jesus too. Be strong and have faith in yourself. (I'm all fired up now! Lol)

Oh, what a great discussion this has turned out to be! I love all the replies!

I think that once I get an actual surgery date, THEN I'll be more willing to tell people. Right now, even though I've checked to make sure my insurance covers it, and have gone to 3 official weigh-ins, I just feel like I'll be "jinxing" myself if I say too much to too many people. But once I get the date, I'll tell my boss, and possible 2 or 3 others that are close to me. Other than that, people can just watch me shrink and wonder how I did it

I told my 31 year old son yesterday.... and he is being supportive! He said" As long as it makes you happy, mom." He knows how I've been struggling; his wife is also overweight and has tried numerous diets.

OMG... I have been telling everyone. Only person I refuse to tell is my mom. She wouldn't understand and it will only infuriate her and I don't need her two cents. Most ppl have been super encouraging. I am the type of person who doesn't really care what others think.

Your very pretty