Like when it comes to gift-giving.

Or

What we should be eating.

Edited December 26, 201312 yr by HotButterFly

What's his sorry excuse for not working? It's not easy supporting a household with six kids including special needs children on one income. Please tell us he at least cooks, cleans, and does laundry!! LindaFromFlorida has good points and I agree with her a lot.... But you fell out of love two years ago and that's a mighty load to carry.

I decided 6 yrs ago that I was going to to take a yr off work and school hen Bella got really sick. She was on a ventilator for 5 mos on and off. He had to have 7 surgeries to repair her throat. Ok that being said, he quit his job and said that if I wasn't going to be working... Then he needed to take some time off. Thinking he would at least be at the house with the other kids so I could be at the hospital with Bella, I said ok fine. He's never had a job since then!!

Yes he cooks, but doesn't clean. My 19 ur old daughter just moved home and keeps the house spotless and goes to school full time. Makes me feel bad. But what do I do? I'm one person! I'm in school , and working full time! I feel like I'm goin to explode. And as for falling out of love with him, pretty sure that's the case! Now it's getting to the point that I can't stand to see him even walk into the room! Seriously?!?

Anyway sorry for the long response!

He might just be one less mouth to feed and you can stretch a pot of Beans further.

He might just be one less mouth to feed and you can stretch a pot of beans further.

Yeah no kidding! Lol

What's his sorry excuse for not working? It's not easy supporting a household with six kids including special needs children on one income. Please tell us he at least cooks, cleans, and does laundry!! LindaFromFlorida has good points and I agree with her a lot.... But you fell out of love two years ago and that's a mighty load to carry.

I have an update, posting it in rants now. I know I'm gonna catch a lot of crap for it from some, but just know I'm ok with my decisions!

If someone judges you, the hell with them. This forum is for helping each other and being supportive. Life is short. Children are forever. I have been through harder times than anyone can imagine, and people would say Oh My God if I spoke. I choose not to because happiness is mine now. If you had a marriage you would not be here with your rants. God Bless.

If someone judges you, the hell with them. This forum is for helping each other and being supportive. Life is short. Children are forever. I have been through harder times than anyone can imagine, and people would say Oh My God if I spoke. I choose not to because happiness is mine now. If you had a marriage you would not be here with your rants. God Bless.

Exactly!!! Finally someone understands me! Ty so much for all ur kind words.. I really do appreciate you and value your support more than words can express!!! Ty so much!

Lol I'm taking notes . Any suggestions

My wife is just starting her journey towards the sleeve

Be proud of her and supportive, and of course love her. What more could we ask for? Best wishes to a healthier life for you both as she goes through this!

Lol I'm taking notes . Any suggestions

My wife is just starting her journey towards the sleeve

You can't imagine how much it helps to have your hubby support you. Your wife is very lucky. My hubby has been with me every step of the way and I am so grateful. He has gone to meetings and appointments and held my hand along the way. He took me to the hospital and stayed by me the whole time. He brought me home today and put me to bed. He has carried me juice, Protein shake, and made beef broth for me. I feel very loved and supported. Make this man your role model and your wife will do great! I have friends going through this alone and it is not easy for them. You can make a difference for her.

Lol I'm taking notes . Any suggestions My wife is just starting her journey towards the sleeve

Just listen when she wants to discuss different aspects of the journey. It doesn't matter what she wants to talk about, just listening is worth it's weight in gold. Also, don't try to have every answer, but research it with her, try to be a part of her journey so she doesn't feel so alone! When she is losing weight, praise her accomplishments, even if it is only 1 lbs loss. We wanna know someone else notices. (Not just us and the scale!) tell her she is beautiful, and SHOW her!!

Your already on a great start just asking how you can be there for her! She's a lucky lady and you can tell her we all said so!!! good luck on y'all's family journey!!! look forward to hearing more from you!

The main side affect of the wls is divorce ..this is freaking me out

If you have a good marriage this should not apply to you. Treat your wife like a queen and she will treat you like her king. A good marriage is wonderful. My husband could weigh anything and I would adore him, and vice versa. Do not let those words scare you! God Bless.

The reason the divorce rate scares me is because we have our issues. ..and never seen her at her before kid weight. ..and knowing people do change when they lose all the weight

Happy wife....

Just be happy for her and love her regardless. Dont make this another issue, just try to work on the ones you already have.