I really really don't want to have the Bypass....However; I am gonna have it on NOV 21's. I am scared, and feel so Alone in this process. My husband is supportive, however; he is Done with me tired, sick and cant eat...I was sleeved Jan 2013/. he is as supportive as he can be, he has never needed to lose more than 20 lbs that will fall off if he diets for a week....I DO NOT wnt the Bypass....Please Pray for me to come to peace. I HAVE to have it due to Bile Reflux.....So Depressed, Sleeping Sleeping Sleeping......not a life right now......

Sending prayers your way and a speedy recovery.

I really really don't want to have the Bypass....However; I am gonna have it on NOV 21's. I am scared' date=' and feel so Alone in this process. My husband is supportive, however; he is Done with me tired, sick and cant eat...I was sleeved Jan 2013/. he is as supportive as he can be, he has never needed to lose more than 20 lbs that will fall off if he diets for a week....I DO NOT wnt the Bypass....Please Pray for me to come to peace. I HAVE to have it due to Bile Reflux.....So Depressed, sleeping Sleeping Sleeping......not a life right now......[/quote']

Wishing you all the best with your surgery and recovery!

Amanda

If you DO NOT WANT to have the surgery, then it would be a HUGE MISTAKE to proceed at this time. You do not mention any reason that indicates it is medically necessary for you to have the surgery immediately, so back off. Give yourself a grace period of 60 days. Get some help to sort this out. It sounds like you are having difficulties in your marriage as well; that should ideally be sorted outbefore you proceed and add any more stress to your life.

You can always reschedule in a couple of months if you decide to go ahead. But if you go ahead with the surgery before your are emotionally prepared, there is no practical way to undo the surgery.

This is a body-altering, permanent, lifelong commitment and you are likely to have serious emotional, and perhaps physical, problems coping with the surgery and the new lifestyle habits it entails if you are angry, depressed and resentful.

PLEASE call your doctor on Monday and let them know you have SERIOUS reservations so you can get professional psychological counseling before you proceed. The fact that you are "sleeping, sleeping, sleeping" indicates that you are seriously depressed. You may benefit from anti-depressant medication as well as therapy. Neither of these are magic bullets that will suddenly make things okay overnight, but than can help you in fairly short order.

The bypass is a great tool, but ONLY if you are willing to welcome it into your life and make all the eating and other changes that are part of the program. The surgery is important, but the "head work" and commitment are at least 80% of your long term success. If you are fighting the bypass you will only be adding more problems to the ones you are already struggling with.

We all get the jitters before surgery and usually that just means we need some more support and information before we go ahead. But if your worries are more than simple anxiety, please take a step back and get some professional help before you make any decisions. Take good care of yourself!

If you DO NOT WANT to have the surgery' date=' then it would be a HUGE MISTAKE to proceed at this time. You do not mention any reason that indicates it is medically necessary for you to have the surgery immediately, so back off. Give yourself a grace period of 60 days. Get some help to sort this out. It sounds like you are having difficulties in your marriage as well; that should ideally be sorted outbefore you proceed and add any more stress to your life.

You can always reschedule in a couple of months if you decide to go ahead. But if you go ahead with the surgery before your are emotionally prepared, there is no practical way to undo the surgery.

This is a body-altering, permanent, lifelong commitment and you are likely to have serious emotional, and perhaps physical, problems coping with the surgery and the new lifestyle habits it entails if you are angry, depressed and resentful.

PLEASE call your doctor on Monday and let them know you have SERIOUS reservations so you can get professional psychological counseling before you proceed. The fact that you are "sleeping, sleeping, sleeping" indicates that you are seriously depressed. You may benefit from anti-depressant medication as well as therapy. Neither of these are magic bullets that will suddenly make things okay overnight, but than can help you in fairly short order.

The bypass is a great tool, but ONLY if you are willing to welcome it into your life and make all the eating and other changes that are part of the program. The surgery is important, but the "head work" and commitment are at least 80% of your long term success. If you are fighting the bypass you will only be adding more problems to the ones you are already struggling with.

We all get the jitters before surgery and usually that just means we need some more support and information before we go ahead. But if your worries are more than simple anxiety, please take a step back and get some professional help before you make any decisions. Take good care of yourself![/quote']

I agree. Take time to get everything straightened out first because RNY is a life long change! It is the best thing I'VE ever done but I was ready for it and very informed beforehand.

Well said. Prayers for you!!

If you DO NOT WANT to have the surgery, then it would be a HUGE MISTAKE to proceed at this time. You do not mention any reason that indicates it is medically necessary for you to have the surgery immediately, so back off. Give yourself a grace period of 60 days. Get some help to sort this out. It sounds like you are having difficulties in your marriage as well; that should ideally be sorted outbefore you proceed and add any more stress to your life.

You can always reschedule in a couple of months if you decide to go ahead. But if you go ahead with the surgery before your are emotionally prepared, there is no practical way to undo the surgery.

This is a body-altering, permanent, lifelong commitment and you are likely to have serious emotional, and perhaps physical, problems coping with the surgery and the new lifestyle habits it entails if you are angry, depressed and resentful.

PLEASE call your doctor on Monday and let them know you have SERIOUS reservations so you can get professional psychological counseling before you proceed. The fact that you are "sleeping, sleeping, sleeping" indicates that you are seriously depressed. You may benefit from anti-depressant medication as well as therapy. Neither of these are magic bullets that will suddenly make things okay overnight, but than can help you in fairly short order.

The bypass is a great tool, but ONLY if you are willing to welcome it into your life and make all the eating and other changes that are part of the program. The surgery is important, but the "head work" and commitment are at least 80% of your long term success. If you are fighting the bypass you will only be adding more problems to the ones you are already struggling with.

We all get the jitters before surgery and usually that just means we need some more support and information before we go ahead. But if your worries are more than simple anxiety, please take a step back and get some professional help before you make any decisions. Take good care of yourself!

NO, I have to have for Bile Reflux, I had the sleeve in Jan. I am below my goal weight can Not keep any food or Water down. I am sick all the time. I have to have the RYN to fix the Bile Reflux. I am weak and getting IV fluids about once a week now. So It is medically needed.

Thank you for clarifying. I'm so sorry that your bile reflux is pushing you towards something you don't want. It is obviously very difficult, which makes me think all the more that having professional guidance to support your through this would be a huge help.

I hope that when you get through the surgery, you will find as many of us have, that it is the best thing you've ever done for yourself. It is a major change, but it is very doable. Sending you prayers and big hugs!

Hate to hear you are having to go through this. As a nurse I could think of 2 other patients with sleeve to bypass for kinda similar reason in the medical facility I worked at. It's got to be scary and I wish you nothing but the best. Let us know how you are doing. If I can help in any way..advise, listening ear etc please feel free to message me.

I really really don't want to have the Bypass....However; I am gonna have it on NOV 21's. I am scared' date=' and feel so Alone in this process. My husband is supportive, however; he is Done with me tired, sick and cant eat...I was sleeved Jan 2013/. he is as supportive as he can be, he has never needed to lose more than 20 lbs that will fall off if he diets for a week....I DO NOT wnt the Bypass....Please Pray for me to come to peace. I HAVE to have it due to Bile Reflux.....So Depressed, sleeping Sleeping Sleeping......not a life right now......[/quote']

I understand you do not want to have the rny but hopefully it will put an end to your discomfort and improve your physical and mental health. I know depression is very common when you're in chronic pain or dealing with a prolonged illness. Make sure your doctor is aware of your emotional state during this process. Sending prayers your way for a positive outcome.

I understand you do not want to have the rny but hopefully it will put an end to your discomfort and improve your physical and mental health. I know depression is very common when you're in chronic pain or dealing with a prolonged illness. Make sure your doctor is aware of your emotional state during this process. Sending prayers your way for a positive outcome.

yes, I have told DR, how depressed I am, he is supportive, and thinks when I feel better physically that emotional I will also. Thanks Everyone for the nice words...

yes' date=' I have told DR, how depressed I am, he is supportive, and thinks when I feel better physically that emotional I will also. Thanks Everyone for the nice words...[/quote']

I like your doc already. Message me if you ever need to talk. I think you'll feel much better after surgery. Stay strong and keep faith that this is a good choice for you even it isn't what you wanted initially. You got this!