I was sitting around today thinking about this journey that we have or will embark on called weight loss .... I'm sorry that weight has caused us to have to undergo this type of self dare I say mutilation .... I'm sorry that this world has seen fit to make even medically healthy people just Over weight seek this surgery to be so called normal .... I'm sorry because that is me , 75% was due to possible future health issues but 25% is pure vanity and not wanting to turn 50 and be fat anymore ... I'm sorry that I didn't see the girl my husband has loved for 30 years when I look in the mirror , or the mother that my children adore .. I just say fat ... And I'm sorry .;(

Wow..so tcue.. Self love.. I was just speaking to my daughters about this today.

Yep, but I hope to buy a few moew years of health. I don't think that much of anything is gonna make me pretty!

I just say fat ... And I'm sorry .;(

Tbird49

i understand your very sad but true thoughts

you/me/many/most us have had similar thoughts one time or another

I/others have frequently felt sorry for their sad "situations"

above being said..............

i'm so grateful and happy that i decided to forge ahead with major surgery to assist me in gaining my health and happiness back

It took me awhile - but i realized i can't live in the past

as many/most others on the board have said - "they wish they had done this surgery years ago"

but..........we can't/shouldn't stay in the past - regretting our "old self"

we can't change what has happened in years past

i/we must live today - look forward for tomorrow - and be excited for the future

i am sending you many, many, good thoughts, with a couple of nice huggs too

I see a terrific new life knocking at your door

good luck with your pending WLS, and your new wonderful healthier, happier, longer life

kathy

I'm 1 month post op today I don't regret the surgery I just feel sorry that society can just let us feel good about ourselves .. It use to be if you were Plump you were sexy ... I'm not really talking about the whole health problems , this is more about tired of being the largest person at the party or attest thinking you are ... Just a self reelection at this point ... But no regrets I'm on this side now and I'm gonna be the best me I can ... Thanks for the posts ya'all

I was sitting around today thinking about this journey that we have or will embark on called weight loss .... I'm sorry that weight has caused us to have to undergo this type of self dare I say mutilation .... I'm sorry that this world has seen fit to make even medically healthy people just Over weight seek this surgery to be so called normal .... I'm sorry because that is me ' date=' 75% was due to possible future health issues but 25% is pure vanity and not wanting to turn 50 and be fat anymore ... I'm sorry that I didn't see the girl my husband has loved for 30 years when I look in the mirror , or the mother that my children adore .. I just say fat ... And I'm sorry .;([/quote']

I'm sorry you feel that way

It's hard for me to relate because I was morbidly obese when I had this surgery.. With health issues.

I'm not sure that I would of done such a radical thing for society and vanity.

I do think depression is a powerful foe though, and losing weight doesn't solve that.

To anybody going through this therapy is a tool that should be utilized too.

I can't relate, as the reason I had my surgery was to help with health issues I already had that in my eyes could of taken my life.

After 2 months my diabetes is at normal levels and I am ecstatic about it. Being one of the main reasons I did this surgery. 2nd was the fractures in my feet from the weight. Those are getting better.

I wasn't an unhappy fat person. I have never dealt with a negative self image. I did things I wanted to do I traveled and met amazing people all over the world.

I had this surgery to better my health as working out was not available do to the fractures in my feet and diet alone wasn't working. They told me I had to lose weight before I could exercise or my feet would only get worse.

I'm sorry that you feel this way about yourself. But people are more than what they look like. I've told everyone I know that if you can't look in the mirror and tell yourself you're beautiful and 20 kinds of amazing, that you can't expect anyone else to.

I do it daily, I have friends that do it daily.

I know there are things you are amazing at doing and that you know you do better than anyone. Start with those things and focus on the positive.

The more positive things you can focus on the more positive your life becomes.

Good luck to you.

I appreciate your posts I am a work in progress good luck to all of you as well

I appreciate your posts I am a work in progress good luck to all of you as well

Well that is one thing I can relate to!

Yes, we are all works in progress.... Wishing you well also

I also got this surgery because I knew my obesity was going to kill me. How many morbidly obese people do you see over 60? Not many and I worry about what the quality of life would be if I were able to make it there. I wasn't able to keep up with my kids, either, which was discouraging. I'm not going to lie and say vanity had no role, but for me, it was more like icing on the cake if my wife found me sexier or the usual discrimination aspects of being overweight were suddenly not apparent in my life.

The Drs were going to put me on all kinds of medications and I just wasn't going to go down that road. I needed help and for me, the sleeve has been a life-saver.

I wish you well on your journey with the sleeve. I have learned so much about myself, my relationship with food and how I am enabled to lead life without this coping mechanism I once abused.

I wanna give you all a big hug! I am so excited and yet so sad to embark on this journey in a few short weeks. My husband is out of state working to keep the insurance in place for me to do this so it's bittersweet. I just quit my job because they gave me crap about time off to do the surgery! I am kinda lonely without my hubs. Bored now waiting for the preop diet to start. My body hurts all over right now and I am a bit depressed and do NOT want to go exercise. In the last year I have really shied away from social stuff out of sheer discomfort. I am 267 right now and 5'7" and reading all these posts of 35 or 50 lb drops in the first few months and it is really helping lift my spirits!! I just can't wait. I just want to talk to everyone. God bless all of you and great luck on your journeys. Healthy IS happy AND beautiful when you've been to the brink of death for many folks in here. Go be happy!

Tbird49

i understand your very sad but true thoughts <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/sad.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' />

you/me/many/most us have had similar thoughts one time or another <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/sad.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' />

I/others have frequently felt sorry for their sad "situations"

above being said..............

i'm so grateful and happy that i decided to forge ahead with major surgery to assist me in gaining my health and happiness back

It took me awhile - but i realized i can't live in the past

as many/most others on the board have said - "they wish they had done this surgery years ago"

but..........we can't/shouldn't stay in the past - regretting our "old self"

we can't change what has happened in years past <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/sad.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' />

i/we must live today - look forward for tomorrow - and be excited for the future

i am sending you many' date=' many, good thoughts, with a couple of nice huggs too <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' />

I see a terrific new life knocking at your door

good luck with your pending WLS, and your new wonderful healthier, happier, longer life <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' />

kathy[/quote']

Very well said

Hello, I am new to this site so if I do something wrong tell me. I do relate to your feeling of "I'm sorry" and I guess mainly because I have lost the control to keep my weight down...

I remember after leaving my first meeting thinking, I can't believe I am even thinking about this. Why can't I just do it on my own. After learning more and more about this sleeve surgery and how it helps and why having that fat is a disease. I knew then I needed help with a task that I could not do by myself. Knowing a few people that have had it done. Also knowing a few people that did the lap band, and the bypass. I realized we should not be sorry. We should be proud we understand the reason, the need and the medical reason why we need to do this. This gives us that opportunity to move steps forward and keep moving forward to many more years of our life. Absolutely we are never guaranteed tomorrow, but if I don't do something I know I am adding to those odds. I am proud of my decision and am looking forward to my day. December 5th, 2013.