I don't understand, "this is Normal!!"

I have never responded negatively to a stall post. I responded to this post because I had an opinion

Kristy3k, you need to take s break..you don't apologize and then end it with a but.....this form is suppose to be about your fears, dissappointments and achievements not to bash each other. I'm just saying......

Let me just say, for me in the beginning it was all Cool, but reading about stalls and being 2 month out, has brought me DOWN, yes thr is positive & negative about this surgery but when i read about stalls and the reactions, i think wow those who are pre-op what they must think ( Second thoughts maybe) why do this) we all gave opinions and thus post was mine! If I offended anyone I'm SORRY but like everyone else who made a post about stalls and are upset cuz they are at a stall, this is the same thing! And is my thought my frustration, venting. Maybe I should just deactivate this app.

Let me just say' date=' for me in the beginning it was all Cool, but reading about stalls and being 2 month out, has brought me DOWN, yes thr is positive & negative about this surgery but when i read about stalls and the reactions, i think wow those who are pre-op what they must think ( Second thoughts maybe) why do this) we all gave opinions and thus post was mine! If I offended anyone I'm SORRY but like everyone else who made a post about stalls and are upset cuz they are at a stall, this is the same thing! And is my thought my frustration, venting. Maybe I should just deactivate this app.[/quote']

Just remember that some of us r in a better place mentally and we need to encourage and try not to be judgemental

Let me just say' date=' for me in the beginning it was all Cool, but reading about stalls and being 2 month out, has brought me DOWN, yes thr is positive & negative about this surgery but when i read about stalls and the reactions, i think wow those who are pre-op what they must think ( Second thoughts maybe) why do this) we all gave opinions and thus post was mine! If I offended anyone I'm SORRY but like everyone else who made a post about stalls and are upset cuz they are at a stall, this is the same thing! And is my thought my frustration, venting. Maybe I should just deactivate this app.[/quote']

I personally don't think you said anything that was offensive nor judgmental....everyone has an opinion and you get bashed for stating yours??....wowzers!

Kristy3k' date=' you need to take s break..you don't apologize and then end it with a but.....this form is suppose to be about your fears, dissappointments and achievements not to bash each other. I'm just saying......[/quote']

And you are????

I have worked this program ... I have lost 177 lbs.. I have encouraged cried and been where everyone is...

Just saying.....

And you are????

I have worked this program ... I have lost 177 lbs.. I have encouraged cried and been where everyone is...

I was agreeing with u to take a break...whatever honey you cant steal my joy

I have to say that 5 months ago I started this journey. Originally I was going to get the sleeve but changed because of acid reflux issues. I was on vertical sleeve talk and daily there were horrific mean arguing threads/posts of one side attacking the other and it was very negative and I hated it. Then when I switched to RNY I started using the RNY talk and it is such a different atmosphere. Everyone was so positive and encouraging and kind to each other. I even made a post about the difference between VST & RNY. Now it seems that harsh negative fighting has seeped over to RNY. Let's try to remember why we are all here - to get support and knowledge and to give support and knowledge. Occasionally some of us may need a shake to remind us not to freak out but getting mad about it isn't the answer either. Can't we all just get along? Agree to disagree? I'm here because I need friends going through the same thing. I want to know that I'm not the only one who feels down or upset or happy or whatever. I want a place to share things things with. I thought that's what the forum was for.

Just remember that some of us r in a better place mentally and we need to encourage and try not to be judgemental

Sadly to say, Im begin jugded on this Post.

I have to say that 5 months ago I started this journey. Originally I was going to get the sleeve but changed because of acid reflux issues. I was on vertical sleeve talk and daily there were horrific mean arguing threads/posts of one side attacking the other and it was very negative and I hated it. Then when I switched to RNY I started using the RNY talk and it is such a different atmosphere. Everyone was so positive and encouraging and kind to each other. I even made a post about the difference between VST & RNY. Now it seems that harsh negative fighting has seeped over to RNY. Let's try to remember why we are all here - to get support and knowledge and to give support and knowledge. Occasionally some of us may need a shake to remind us not to freak out but getting mad about it isn't the answer either. Can't we all just get along? Agree to disagree? I'm here because I need friends going through the same thing. I want to know that I'm not the only one who feels down or upset or happy or whatever. I want a place to share things things with. I thought that's what the forum was for.

Your right!!!!!

WOW!! I can say that I am amazed at how this topic has gone. When it started yesterday I wanted to just comment with "I know! Right!" Now I am compelled to actually comment on the subject of weighing and stalls.

I know what is right for me. I DO NOT weigh myself. Doing that WOULD make me nuts! I gave ownership of that bit of information over to the doctor's office. That way I am not making myself bonkers with the daily fluctuations of the scale. I didn't want to know what I weighed before surgery and even asked many doctors not to allow me to see the numbers because of how detrimental the number was to me then. I know that I am loosing, I feel the difference in how my body moves, how it fits in clothes, and what spaces I now fit in. The number on the scale or the number on my britches doesn't matter. I chose WLS not for vanity, but for health. I know that I am much more healthy than I was 3 months ago. I know that I can sabotage myself if I worry about the ebb and flow of daily life.

Does that mean I am insensitive because it just dumbfounds me when people are talking about weighing daily (sometimes more than once a day), eating stuff they shouldn't or just being very negative? I don't think so because in my mind they weren't ready for this.I know if I would have had WLS 5 years ago I wouldn't have been ready. I would have been one of those people fussing about it not working fast enough or freaking out about not loosing. I would have been the person that binged before and shortly after surgery. I would have been one of the people that I am dumbfounded by. I am encouraged by seeing those that have been successful for the long haul. I appreciate when I am told to get my head out of my behind and stop doing things that could cause me to self sabotage. I also appreciate those that have been through this sharing what works for them and why. Forums and support group meetings are the only smorgasbords I can go to any more... you see there is a whole ton of food (information and ideas) spread out on the table before me... and I get to pick and choose what I want to eat! it is my choice to take or leave it. Some of what is there may be harsh to me. That is the stuff that I leave for another day, for when I am ready to deal with that.

We are all going through normal feelings here. It's normal to be frustrated when you stall. Weight loss IS a science over time. It's calories in versus out, but I challenge anyone to test this. Sometimes our bodies are stubborn!! They will break a plateau in what seems like random times! Sometimes our mouths are stubborn, and everyone can say things that are misinterpreted. We are all fighting a battle here. The ONLY casualties should be the fat cells and large sizes- not egos or self images. I pray for everyone's success here.

Thank you' date=' Heather! I, too, thought some of these responses were a bit harsh (especially while using all caps and exclamation points). I went to my 2nd post-op meeting 3 weeks after surgery, having only lost 3 pounds since my last visit 2 weeks prior. I was fine with it, because I know that many times big losses are followed by small ones (Hey, I watch "The Biggest Loser", so I know about the "Week 2 issue"). My doc was not so happy, however. Told me that it was less than he had hoped, and that he has patients who have lost 5 pounds per week. My response to him: "Really? Good for them!" That's the kind of stuff I don't like - being compared to other patients. He has no idea that many of those patients may, conceivably, have not been eating anything at all. I know someone who had tons of problems keeping food down and is now down 70 lbs. in 3 months simply because she could not eat. And here I am busting my butt to try to get all the Protein and liquids in. So, I'm proud of those 3 pounds that are no longer on my body! :-)

I was only 225 on the day of surgery, so I know I'm on the lower end of the weight loss spectrum for this surgery, so I know that my loss numbers may be smaller than most in the beginning. In the end, it will all even out.

For those who get annoyed at the "stall" questions, maybe you just shouldn't respond to them, if they're going to annoy you so much. All of us need all the support we can get around here.[/quote']

Catgyrl68, don't feel bad. At my one month post op visit I was told I hadn't lost "enough," but at my 3 month post op visit I was told I was ahead of the expectation...it'll even out...and I would tell that Nut that she shouldn't say things that aren't encouraging or have some educational value. Who cares if she was iffy about your success? What a crappy thing to say out loud to a patient!! YOU CAN DO THIS!!

Sorry, the Nut comment was meant for Worm. My bad!!

I am so dissapointed to read this thread. We are all supposed to be here to support each other and if someone chooses to weigh 5 times a day or not at all doesn't mean they " were not ready" for this. Noone is perfect and noone is a professional at this wls. Everyone handles things differently and struggles differently.......this is not how we should be supporting each other :-(