Yet again another fight with my husband, I am preop and my surgery scheduled for oct 3rd. initally he was against my surgery but i thought we discussed the benefits but boy was I wrong. we got into fight again and he says to me , go have your "fat surgery, you fat slob". So hurtful, im sitting here crying uncontrollably, he said that he wants nothing to do with surgery and that i better be prepared to go alone ( i have few friends and my mom may be out of town) im still going to have the surgery but i wish i wasnt alone in this battle. its not that he is insecure he just wants to keep me fat. i wish my life was different, i feel so helpless....

I have been there my EX husband was verbally abusive and it took my anut (who's a lawyer) to make me see the cycle of abuse. I got out of the marriage in 08 and am so much better off. I have met a wonderful man who wants me to be happy and loves me big or soon to be small. You deserve better no women should be treated that way. Good luck, hang in there you r beautiful and will be happier soon.

Being a man and I'm not taking sides nobody deserves to be abused. Only you know your husban has he always been like this or is it just since you desired to have WSL has he been acting like a jurk.

Men are very protective of what we think belongs to us and are afraid somebody other then our selfs will be playing with our spouses. And this is how he lashes out. We can can be very childish at times regardless of our education.

Hope everything works out for you if not move on.

Remember Children first then your self and everyone after that.

Surgery Anniversary 7/30/12