Hi. I'm due to have my op on 10th October. I'm 16 stone, BMI of 40. I'm 41, have been dieting since my early teens. I currently have a gastric band which will be removed at the same time. I've lost weight in various ways over the years and put it back on, although haven't ever got back up to my heaviest which was 20.7 stone. My F&F think what I'm doing is too drastic. They all have weight problems too so understand the struggle but still, they don't want me to do it - because I'm a grazer and I like my wine, they think the sleeve won't work for me. Any thoughts/your stories appreciated :-) Lx

I feel similar family mainly thinks its crazy and co workers too, now I see why people don't want to tell people. At first I was like "I don't care what they think", now I'm kind of wishing I never told anyone.... Its odd how people react to a very common procedure that will help improve someone physical and mental health.

Yes I agree, their intentions are good and they don't want to see us in pain or in danger. I think it'll be better when it's done and we're all just moving on. At the moment, they want me to change my mind :-)

My family has been very supportive and is excited by my choice to have surgery, I hope to have my surgery first week of jan do to me having to complete 6 month weight requirement.

My grandpa and boyfriend support me but my aunt and grandma think it's over the top. all that matters to me is that I know that I need this. they still support me and will be there for me but they don't think I really need this.

Hi. I'm due to have my op on 10th October. I'm 16 stone' date=' BMI of 40. I'm 41, have been dieting since my early teens. I currently have a gastric band which will be removed at the same time. I've lost weight in various ways over the years and put it back on, although haven't ever got back up to my heaviest which was 20.7 stone. My F&F think what I'm doing is too drastic. They all have weight problems too so understand the struggle but still, they don't want me to do it - because I'm a grazer and I like my wine, they think the sleeve won't work for me. Any thoughts/your stories appreciated :-) Lx[/quote']

I tend not to worry about others opinions about if something will work for me or not. I'm 52 and I know me better than anyone. I have the advantage of being single and very independent so I do what I want to do.

I ended up telling my entire family. Everyone was very supportive of me and it really made my decision a lot easier. I'm from the south and family is super important to me. I had my surgery a week and a half ago and they have all been calling and emailing to check on me. It's nice. Also, other than my family, I really don't care what anyone else thinks so I just told people I come across. I have no idea why, but I had this strange idea that I needed to go to the dentist to get my teeth cleaned right before surgery (lol) and I told hiim too. He was supportive but warned me to make sure I brush my teeth every time I throw up...lol! I've been super lucky (so far) with that though. My two days in the hospial I was SUPER queasy the whole time, but right before I went home it went away. So far so good! Adjusting has been HARD but not impossible! I'm just glad I researched everything for a long, long, long time! It took me years to finally go through with the surgery and I think knowing everything I could beforehand really helped me to adjust and be as prepared as possible afterwards! Good luck to you making your decision!

My parents have both died and I have no siblings. I told some people who I would have to be eating with over the next few months, naturally some of these people told others. I don't mind but I TOLD them, I did not ask them for their opinions. I also did it in a way and at a time that they could not really come back at me with their unwanted opinions. By the time I told them I had a surgery date, was well into my pre-op diet and the wheels were well and truly in motion. Surprisingly, I have had a lot of support from all of these people. I think my M-I-L would like to have stopped me but said nothing negative and even came to visit me in hospital.

Five days after surgery one quite close friend asked me how much I had lost since surgery, I told her and she said "oh is that all". Since then I tell no one how much I have lost or what my weight is. I find it quite confronting when people ask these questions, do they have no social graces, I am not a child I am a mature women with grandchildren. I think it is rude to ask these questions.

Of course, on this forum I am fairly open with weight losses etc, still a bit cagey about my age sometimes!

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