So I was approved for surgery on Thursday Sept 5th, I'm just waiting for my date from my surgeon(s). I have to have another surgery while my sleeve is done. Therefore there will be 2 surgeons at once. I have a large Benign mass in my belly that has to come out as well because it is causing problems and pain. This is going to make my surgery long and more invasive so I'm a little more afraid than most I think.

The hardest part is I've told my family and friends about the mass surgery but not my VS..only my very best friend and daughter know and they both live out if town. I am very very private about the VS because I just don't want to hear any negative talk, my mom has been against it for years and she won't understand. So now I'm going to have to drill my surgeons on not giving them full disclosure if my condition. SMH.,I know crazy right? But can a girl have some privacy and make her own choices?

I am so tired of the sleep apnea, joint pain and taking high blood pressure pills. Not to mention having to energy to do anything. I'm excited about my surgery...yes a little scared but so in love with a new life and second chance to take care of my body. Anyone have to have multiple surgeries at the same time...?

Thanks

MsK

I am sorry you can't freely change your wonderful news. Congrats. I think most Dr understand with HIPPA laws about discretion. Good Luck

Families can be hard, do what you think is best and I'm sure your doctors will respect your wishes.....with HIPPA they have too Best of luck to you!

I only told my husband and children also. People argue all the time about "secrets" and "Shame". It has nothing to do with that. The bottom line is, it's nobody's damn business! I don't live my life as an open book so why would i disclose personal medical issues? Also, I don't care to hear people's opinions because most would say I didn't need it...I say walk in my shoes before judging! Believe me, most people I know who freely tell about their weight loss surgery are surrounded by people who claim to be happy for them, yet trash talk them behind their backs!

I so agree with all of you, thank you so much for your feed back. I am always so open and honest about things, so I was feeling guilty, but you're right it's nobody's business but mine.

My gall bladder acted up 2 weeks before my sleeve surgery was scheduled. My doctor reluctantly took it out, he wanted to wait and do it at the same time but the gall bladder was too messed up. So I had the surgeries weeks apart.

I was glad to get rid of that pesky gall bladder anyway. It messed up my second honeymoon in a beautiful cabin in the Smoky Mountains. Good riddance!

You have a right to your privacy. It is up to you whether you want to put your relatives straight about things and tune up their stinkin' thinkin'.

When your body changes you'll have some 'splainin' to do though.

So I was approved for surgery on Thursday Sept 5th, I'm just waiting for my date from my surgeon(s). I have to have another surgery while my sleeve is done. Therefore there will be 2 surgeons at once. I have a large Benign mass in my belly that has to come out as well because it is causing problems and pain. This is going to make my surgery long and more invasive so I'm a little more afraid than most I think.

The hardest part is I've told my family and friends about the mass surgery but not my VS..only my very best friend and daughter know and they both live out if town. I am very very private about the VS because I just don't want to hear any negative talk, my mom has been against it for years and she won't understand. So now I'm going to have to drill my surgeons on not giving them full disclosure if my condition. SMH.,I know crazy right? But can a girl have some privacy and make her own choices?

I am so tired of the sleep apnea, joint pain and taking high blood pressure pills. Not to mention having to energy to do anything. I'm excited about my surgery...yes a little scared but so in love with a new life and second chance to take care of my body. Anyone have to have multiple surgeries at the same time...?

Thanks

MsK

I had a stomach tumor also. Even though tumors are rare I apparently 'won' the lottery. I had a deep muscle tumor that was also mucosal, and ran almost the lenth of my great chamber! It was not just polyps, it was folded upon itself, and was separating from the stomach, causing bleeding. I was in soooo much pain. Ironically, they missed it with 3 endoscopies, and 2 ultrasounds. It was found AFTER I had already lost abot 40 lbs. I only had one doctor, but it is a complicated story from there.

Good luck, but we are aleady lucky that our tumors were benign!

Yes I know i will have explaining to so...I've already prepared them for my weight loss telling them that this complicated tummy surgery will cause it..Lol! I know I should laugh but my family is a trip so I have to have all of my bases covered.

As for you my friend that had the large mass in your belly..God Bless you, mine is deep in there behind my bowel so my surgery could take 5 hours easy. That part is scary but I know The Lord has my back.

I had to do the same thing! My support team consist of my husband,son, 2 sisters, 2 best friends(1 with lap band), 2 nieces(both gastric bypass), my mother in law( I had to tell her so she could take care of the baby) that's it! It may seem like a lot of people but I left out some siblings and nieces lol! I didn't want to hear the negative remarks and opinions. Even my M.I.L asked if I die does she get the baby? I know WTF, but I'm scheduled for next week Tuesday and I am so excited to be able to lotion my legs and feet, tie my shoes(my 17 year old does it now) and to be able to be active with my children (17 years and 15 months old). I have so many reasons for wanting to improve my health. It's sad that we can't talk to our family about it but I'm glad we found each other and can reveal our inner most VSG thoughts lol! Pray for me though cause I'm on liquids starting today and I'm craving corned beef lol

I had my gallbladder removed and a hiatal hernia repaired. I'm one week post op and I feel almost normal. I also did not need any pain meds afterward.

Awww I'm so happy for you, ok as for the corned beef..FOCUS ..the best think in the world besides hitting the PB is about to happen for you. Just keep your eye on the prize.

Thank you for sharing..I'm going to post my date as soon as I get it.

Have a successful day!!!

Sharika you go girl!!! That's inspiring..I'm more nervous because where the mass is I have to be cut..laparoscopic would have been great but the mass is hiding. That pain from the cutting is my scare. But I'm praying its not so bad.

Well- you did get to share it with us -- Good Luck!

Thanks dear

Awww I'm so happy for you' date=' ok as for the corned beef..FOCUS ..the best think in the world besides hitting the PB is about to happen for you. Just keep your eye on the prize.

Thank you for sharing..I'm going to post my date as soon as I get it.

Have a successful day!!!

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Thank You!! I'm gonna stay focused I have part of my support system here in the office with me

I know

I only told my husband and children also. People argue all the time about "secrets" and "Shame". It has nothing to do with that. The bottom line is, it's nobody's damn business! I don't live my life as an open book so why would i disclose personal medical issues? Also, I don't care to hear people's opinions because most would say I didn't need it...I say walk in my shoes before judging! Believe me, most people I know who freely tell about their weight loss surgery are surrounded by people who claim to be happy for them, yet trash talk them behind their backs!

I'm very excited about the surgery so I tell people all the time and take time to explain why its so important for me to have this, and I've been getting pretty good feedback. But today I told my neighbor while we were having small talk and she really pissed me off with all of her negativity. She started telling me that she lost 100lbs on her own by cutting out beef and pork and how her mom had it done in 96' and she's still real heavy. She was really drilling me!!!! Like it was her sole mission to convince me to not have the surgery. I mean what does me having this done have to do with you!! At that point I told myself I'm done with telling anymore people, I don't have time for the negativity. And I also think one of my best friends is secretly not wanting me to have the sleeve because she's afraid of me getting all of the attention when we go places (now she's getting all of it) and I'm fine with that because getting a lot of attention is one the things that I know I'm going to dread. Back when I was smaller and in shape I used to HATE it when men constantly hit on me. I know it sounds crazy but I am actually enjoying being looked over and ignored LOL, now I have freedom to do things without some man constantly staring and gawking at me. Now I'm getting way off topic, but yes sometimes I believe that other people's negative thoughts can block good things from happening to you. I mean I don't follow that theory to a T, but sometimes I feel its true.