Lisa is in the funny farm...

[whippledaddy 5]

Maybe it's a guy thing. But I think making a decision is sometimes more important than what decision we make. Not always true, but sometimes it is more beneficial to choose one path or the other than to stand at the fork in the road and wonder until we perish, alone in the wilderness.

It sounds as if you make this decision often. I don't know the circumstances, but I know what my wife would do if I behaved that way.

She might not divorce me. She would consider that as giving me an "easy out".

She and I conferred and she let me buy my motorcycle. It wasn't a Harley. She nor I could justify the expense. I had owned just about every brand of bike, American, European, Japanese, and even a Mexican motorcycle! So it was less of a blow when I discovered I had to compromise. If'n I have a picture of my bike on my harddrive, I'll post it.

I know that you should never give up your dream home. Never. Patty and I were almost at the point where we could buy ours. We have both dreamed of living on Water, and we were nearly there. Now we must wait a little longer. I do not give up. Not on Patty, not on this home.

You shouldn't give up on anything you want, either. Anything. One thing I will say. This irresponsible purchase he made is something that includes you, too. Patty wouldn't ride on the bike until I actually got it. Then she decided to take one small ride. It was love at first rev.

He bought something that can bring you closer together. There is absolutely no justification for a Harley's expense, except they hold their value. The fifteen thousand dollar bike I bought is only worth about five thousand right now. And it is beautiful, like new. But it is a rice burner, and they lose value. Quickly. Yours will maintain value over time.

You'll make the right decision for you. You may find there is no wrong decision, only the easy and difficult path. There are no perfect spouses. There are no men who aren't boys. Sometimes mischievous ones, sometimes scared little fellas who need comfort.

But I've got a secret. There are no women who do not carry that little girl around inside of her. Sometimes she wants to play, sometimes she wants to cuddle. Sometimes she wants to just hide and wait for it all to go away.

Male or female, we are all adults who carry our childselves within. Be kind to yours. Be kind to yourself.

[DeLarla 22]

Thanks, Whip. I'm dealing with the bike and forcing myself to ride it. I did really bad on my first try then let a full day pass before getting the courage up to get back on it. But I just forced myself on it and rode up and down the block several times. Gliding along straight is fine, but the turns are tricky. I'm pretty nervous and my heart is pounding, but at least I got back on. I have to get on it every night, because payback's a bitch and I'll drive that bike and let him wonder what's going on for a change. He wants a Harley, he wants a woman who wants a Harley, so I'm growing some balls and acting like a man!

[Vera 7]

Whip, you sure know your girl...s

But I've got a secret. There are no women who do not carry that little girl around inside of her. Sometimes she wants to play, sometimes she wants to cuddle. Sometimes she wants to just hide and wait for it all to go away.

Thanks

I'm going to go hug my boys...

The 42 year old and my 3 year old strong headed kid

Got to love them, and I do. Thanks