I have come across people in my life that have such a negotiate opinion on weight loss surgery. They say its the easy way out or they have said that is the lazy way... Wouldn't being lazy be not doing anything about it at all? Some people just don't understand that just bc you have weight loss surgery does not mean that you didn't work just as hard as the person who lost it on their own! It is a physical and mental transformation for anyone to lose weight! Anyone else come across this sort of thing? I'm just getting started but getting a lot of slack from family and friends about my choice. Not a lot of supports in my life, just wish I could make them understand!

Greetings from Fort Woth TX...My hubby doesn't want me to have the surgery, but he just doesn't understand how difficult it is to lose weight with MANY failed diets. I am 5`8...280 and pre diabetic and have PCOS. I started seeing my surgeon in May and will be sleeved on July 29. Whether or not I have support doesn't matter. In the end, my health does. Do what's best for you!

I lost 50# once and gained back 90#.

If we share that experience, then we are in the same playing field. Otherwise, their history of dieting is akin to playing T-Ball, while I am playing in the World Series.

To be fair, both methods of weight loss have sacrifices, WLS has its own type of sacrifice. That's my story and I'm sticking to it.

Thank you everyone for all of your positive feed back! Finally I feel like I'm not alone:)

This is really sad, but yes I've heard it a lot. I actually stopped talking to people about it, just did all my foot work then had surgery, if they won't be supportive then it's none of their business. If they won't learn about it or take the time forget them.

This is the main reason I'm dreading telling my inlaws. You are so not alone. I keep reminding myself that this is about me and my health. I plan on telling them that I don't want criticism or for them to try to talk me out of it..I just need their support.

I was ignorant about weight loss surgery too. I probably would have had the same reaction as my family who wants to talk me out of it. That is why I only gave them two weeks notice. Unfortunately, they live 500 miles away I did not insist they come up to help me. Now I am in a quandry who will take me to the hospital and wait for me to come out of surgery. Perhaps I will give the surgeon my brothers phone number so he can call when I come out. Do you think I should still put him down as durable power of attorney. I am inclined to think yes. I confess to feeling guilty that I did not include him from the beginning. I told my sister in law that I would answer her questions tomorrow. She thinks it is a life threatening operation and that the hospital will discharge me too soon. *sigh*