Friends are say stop the weightloss

[ebonisekim 1,713]

Okay so surgery was 1/21/13 so I'm 14 weeks out and I'm 32 pounds away from my goal and 45 pounds away from my nut goal

HW 299

SW 299

CW 222 size 14 in pants 12 in dress and xL- L in tops I want to be 190 what y'all think

[ebonisekim 1,713]

I for git to mention I'm 5'7 1/2 and I'm very happy w my weight loss I feel good the best decision I made I'll do it all over again in a heart beat

[******** 397]

How tall are you? Its all about when u feel healthy..I think u are beautiful now as u were before surgery

[******** 397]

I for git to mention I'm 5'7 1/2 and I'm very happy w my weight loss I feel good the best decision I made I'll do it all over again in a heart beat

Sorry didn't see this im 5'8" and my dr said between 150-165 should be goal but all depends on the person I guess

[Vixynne 695]

My vote is...

...that I don't get a vote. It's not my decision to make!

What will make you happiest? What goal do you really want to reach? You look fantastic--I'm sure that's why your friends are telling you that you can stop losing weight now--but just as the choice to have surgery was yours, so is the decision about when you have reached your weight loss goal.

Whatever you choose to do, make certain you can live with it. Good luck!

[No game 14,436]

I think you look beautiful, and I think that the goals that you set sound great! You have to do what's best and healthiest for you. Friends? you gotta love em... But they say lots of things!

[******** 397]

I'm a little confused because I'm still in the pre op stage but my dr made it seem like you cant just choose when to stop losing weight.

[Vixynne 695]

Laura's right!

I have at least one or two people in my life that I'm SURE will tell me "ohhhh you can stop now, you look fine"--but their motives will be more about feeling jealous or competitive. More about "holycrap, she's getting too gorgeous, better put a stop to this ASAP". Notice I didn't call them friends, just people in my life. Hopefully nobody in your life would do that to you.

[Vixynne 695]

I'm a little confused because I'm still in the pre op stage but my dr made it seem like you cant just choose when to stop losing weight.

I'm pre-op too, so I defer to the veteran sleevers on the forums to clarify this fully--but from what I gather, once you reach your goal, you move to an eating pattern that lends itself to maintaining your weight rather than aiming for weight loss. I might be wrong, though!

Can some post-op people 'splain how it all works?

[No game 14,436]

I'm a little confused because I'm still in the pre op stage but my dr made it seem like you cant just choose when to stop losing weight.

Well yes it's completely within my power to do so.. You just have to eat a bit more or add higher fat, calories to you diet.. This surgery is a tool, you still have to work on eating the right things during the losing phase. That's why some time you see people struggling after some months out because you can eat more..

[ebonisekim 1,713]

I have to agree w Laure and Vix the person that telling me to stop has made some jokey jokes about me that I don't take seriously because I feel like she's jealous the reason for me asking is because I feel great I'm getting all these compliments and I see a difference in my clothes but I some how feel I could be thinner and my mind has not caught up I got here so fast it's only been 14 weeks too loose what felt like could have taken a lifetime but thanks everyone imma stick to the plan you only live twice in my case ( joke) and I'm living for the second time but imma get it rt for the first time

[Vixynne 695]

Everything I've learned so far says you have a window of a year to 24 months to take it as far as you can--and from what I've seen on the forums, some people blow right on past the "you'll lose around 60% of your excess weight" expectation and lose 80, 90, 100 or 110% of their excess weight.

Why hold yourself back--go as far as you want. Let the jealous types just learn to deal with it. It's not their decision anyway. Living well is the best revenge!

[Izuri 428]

Whatever feels good to you is what you should stop at. For your height your healthy bmi is quite a bit lower, but that doesn't mean that's what you should aim for. Based on your pictures I think around 200-190 would have you looking great and still not looking too thin, but hey, if you get there and aren't happy you could always put on a few pounds to get back up a little more.

[T'snewstart 251]

I have to agree w Laure and Vix the person that telling me to stop has made some jokey jokes about me that I don't take seriously because I feel like she's jealous the reason for me asking is because I feel great I'm getting all these compliments and I see a difference in my clothes but I some how feel I could be thinner and my mind has not caught up I got here so fast it's only been 14 weeks too loose what felt like could have taken a lifetime but thanks everyone imma stick to the plan you only live twice in my case ( joke) and I'm living for the second time but imma get it rt for the first time

Hi .... First let me say you look fabulous! As to your goal.... Go with your own convictions! It's always hard to determine the motives of others. I will say this I too have had a similar experience with a "friend". However, I choose not to take a Detour for anyone. I will not slow down or change my goals for anyone else! I am sure you goals are healthy ones.... Follow your heart! Best wishes one the rest of your journey!

[Sunshine0328 12]

You look fabulous! Keep going as long as you love the results. I am 5'6" and the doc said 150 was good for me. Can't wait to be where you are! November can't get here fast enough!!