I thought that this would be so natural... that it would just melt off for a while. I mean... if my resting metabolic rate is somewhere over 1500 calories a day and I'm only taking in between 600 and 800 calories... it's a no-brainer, right?

Six weeks out now and I admit that there I things I'm still not 100% on. Water usually very close but not 100% and Protein ranges but is probably, honestly, about 40 grams a day. I'm still too heavy for intentional exercise (walking/working out) with a knee injury that can't be helped for a while longer, largely house bound by my job and transportation (no pool in other words)... but know I need to work it in there somehow. Hah! Housework could be my new work out... I've ignored it for six weeks.

All that said... at six weeks out, I feel like a failure already. Broken in so many ways.

I thought about posting this in other places but I really am just wondering if I'm the only "super size" one here that's had a stall this long. I'm so despondent now that I actually have considered cancelling my account here and "forgetting" I did this to myself. It's hard to read about so much success and feel like such an utter failure.

It's ironic that I cut out my stomach and trained myself to eat so little and so WELL compared to the past... only to have my body laugh at my effort this way... heartbreaking.

It's only temporary. And contrary to what most post.. It's not going to melt away like it did the first few weeks. But the weight will continue to come off over time. It's not a race and it's time to be patient and know its going to work if you make it work. Embrace any weight you lose as part of the new you and hang it there.

I'm a slow loser and I just have to accept it.

I'm probably the last one who should be responding but I have read (I think it was here too somewhere) that the body just stalls losing weight for a bit because it's re-accessing what's happening to it. Once it realizes what's going on, your weight starts dropping again. So just keep doing what you're doing & find other ways to see your success, like in other things you are able to do now or maybe you're losing inches. I forget what initials they use in calling that?? I'm sorry but I know what I'm trying to say, it just isn't coming out right! LOL! Maybe someone can help me?

I do want to emphasize that you're doing great as long as you're following whatever the doc told you to do. How can you fail? It's not possible. Just give yourself a bit of time & you'll see your weight start dropping again. Also, after surgery when I get to this point....please copy & paste this post in my thread too, okay?

Wishing you the best! Hang in there!

I thought that this would be so natural... that it would just melt off for a while. I mean... if my resting metabolic rate is somewhere over 1500 calories a day and I'm only taking in between 600 and 800 calories... it's a no-brainer, right?

Six weeks out now and I admit that there I things I'm still not 100% on. Water usually very close but not 100% and Protein ranges but is probably, honestly, about 40 grams a day. I'm still too heavy for intentional exercise (walking/working out) with a knee injury that can't be helped for a while longer, largely house bound by my job and transportation (no pool in other words)... but know I need to work it in there somehow. Hah! Housework could be my new work out... I've ignored it for six weeks.

All that said... at six weeks out, I feel like a failure already. Broken in so many ways.

I thought about posting this in other places but I really am just wondering if I'm the only "super size" one here that's had a stall this long. I'm so despondent now that I actually have considered cancelling my account here and "forgetting" I did this to myself. It's hard to read about so much success and feel like such an utter failure.

It's ironic that I cut out my stomach and trained myself to eat so little and so WELL compared to the past... only to have my body laugh at my effort this way... heartbreaking.

First off you are FAR from a failure! You did this! YOU DID THIS... for you! You didn't do it to change over night, you didn't do it to be in a size 20-16-12-8-4 in a week... month... or even year. YOU deserve this, and you will do it! The worst thing you could do right now is to give up, don't cancel your account! My surgeon has emphasized many times how important it is to maintain that support system after. I have not had surgery, so I am not going to even try to give you advice, but I would say that looking at your post that you really need to try to bump up your protein. You admit that things aren't 100% but it is taking baby steps to get there. Make sure you are journaling what you eat, watch for the liquid calories. Check for weight loss support groups in your area, the one my bariatric program runs is open to the public, and the nutritionist and nurse both attend the group. Find a nutritionist who you can see, maybe your PCP can recommend someone. I know you are frustrated, but hang in there!

I think you have had a wonderful start. Keep reminding yourself you are not done yet. Surgery was a tool, not a magic wand (now, wouldn't THAT be great)

None of us can control how fast we lose, but we can control how we stay on plan. And work with the new tool we have. Try focusing on getting in all of your Protein and Water. Experiment with recipes, check out some websites that would give you a good variety and great choices. You have not failed, your job is to do your best and stick with what your doctors laid out for you. No two people will be exactly the same. Focus on what a great loss you have had so far. 10% of your weight gone forever! When was the last time that happened in such a short period of time?

Measuring is a great motivator too. I lose pounds about every other week, but I feel I'm always losing inches. Give your body a chance to catch up. You can do this, you should be proud of yourself for making this life changing decision and following through with it. In the meantime, draw strength from others going through this with you. Thank you for sharing, it is not always easy to do when we are struggling.

Oh thank you, everyone. This was exactly the balm I needed. Since I posted this morning, I've also taken some time to make a basic daily check sheet for myself to put up in my office... something I can put stars on when I complete the goal. Vitamins, Water, Protein, max calories, exercise calories. Maybe that visual of what I AM doing right will help and encourage me over the last little bump to compliance each day?

What each of you writes is true... so true...

This IS a process, not a race.

Following the "rules" is paramount for success and long-term health.

Keep the support system.

It's not just pounds lost, other changes are there too.

SO... okay. If I'm feeling low about what the scale isn't doing... what can I count otherwise?

The jeans I wore to Mexico fall off me now. Litterally.

The shirt I'm wearing used to not cover my belly. It does and then some today.

My fourth chin is nearly neck once more.

My wedding rings need to be resized.

My knee is not in constant pain any longer... it's a tolerable ache.

Stamina IS improving, if not as fast as I want it to.

Yes, posting this was probably the smartest thing I've done in days other than talking to my surgeon's staff. THANK YOU for the positive statements, encouragement and advice.

Oh thank you' date=' everyone. This was exactly the balm I needed. Since I posted this morning, I've also taken some time to make a basic daily check sheet for myself to put up in my office... something I can put stars on when I complete the goal. Vitamins, Water, Protein, max calories, exercise calories. Maybe that visual of what I AM doing right will help and encourage me over the last little bump to compliance each day?

What each of you writes is true... so true...

This IS a process, not a race.

Following the "rules" is paramount for success and long-term health.

Keep the support system.

It's not just pounds lost, other changes are there too.

SO... okay. If I'm feeling low about what the scale isn't doing... what can I count otherwise?

The jeans I wore to Mexico fall off me now. Litterally.

The shirt I'm wearing used to not cover my belly. It does and then some today.

My fourth chin is nearly neck once more.

My wedding rings need to be resized.

My knee is not in constant pain any longer... it's a tolerable ache.

Stamina IS improving, if not as fast as I want it to.

Yes, posting this was probably the smartest thing I've done in days other than talking to my surgeon's staff. THANK YOU for the positive statements, encouragement and advice.[/quote']

See?! You are seeing results girl! Even if they aren't the stupid numbers on the d*mn scale! I hate the scale! Lol! I like when my clothes fit better or bigger, I like that I don't get as winded when I walk now, I like that moving around us getting easier! Those mean more to me than what the scale says. I had to realize that this weight didnt just appear in a matter if weeks, it took time. And now it's just going to take time to get it off. I try not to weigh but once a month. I take measurements weekly and I'm seeing results from that.

Really try to get in that water! Also your protein is very important. I know it can be tough but do what you can. Use Protein shakes to supplement if you need to. Just try those 2 things and see if it improves and gets you going again.

And don't delete your account. You can do this but it takes support too and this is a great place for support and encouragement! I still have about 170lbs to get off....you are not alone in this!

Doing a great job 50 pounds is a lot to lose in a month another person could not do that in a month

Doing a great job 50 pounds is a lot to lose in a month another person could not do that in a month

Yes... that's what logic tells me too. But it's the four weeks SINCE that milestone was hit that upset me. One week, even two I was fine. Three weeks started to depress me. Now week four...well, that's why I wrote. I needed the pick me up.

Most of us who have had our weights soar up to these unreasonable numbers like you and I have some sort of metabolic issues to go along with our food issues.

Most of us have been advised before hand that this will not be easy, natural, or anything like that. There is nothing natural about removing 85% of our stomach and the fight that comes with all that can be hell at times.

What people fail to realize is that our body likes sameness, even if the "sameness" is 400 pounds. It will fight to hang onto the weight and to maintain that homeostasis no matter how unhealthy it was. Thats why most of us are still fighting for every pound, regardless of the fact that we have had surgery. If we still didn't have to fight for it this truly would be "the easy way out" but it isn't and we all know that.

I thought that this would be so natural... that it would just melt off for a while. I mean... if my resting metabolic rate is somewhere over 1500 calories a day and I'm only taking in between 600 and 800 calories... it's a no-brainer' date=' right?

Six weeks out now and I admit that there I things I'm still not 100% on. Water usually very close but not 100% and Protein ranges but is probably, honestly, about 40 grams a day. I'm still too heavy for intentional exercise (walking/working out) with a knee injury that can't be helped for a while longer, largely house bound by my job and transportation (no pool in other words)... but know I need to work it in there somehow. Hah! Housework could be my new work out... I've ignored it for six weeks.

All that said... at six weeks out, I feel like a failure already. Broken in so many ways.

I thought about posting this in other places but I really am just wondering if I'm the only "super size" one here that's had a stall this long. I'm so despondent now that I actually have considered cancelling my account here and "forgetting" I did this to myself. It's hard to read about so much success and feel like such an utter failure.

It's ironic that I cut out my stomach and trained myself to eat so little and so WELL compared to the past... only to have my body laugh at my effort this way... heartbreaking.[/quote']

I am right there with you. I have only lost 20 lbs and I am. 4 weeks post op. my protein intake is only about 40 grams also. I gag on everything. Please help.

Good morning carroll. I was pretty low when I wrote this and now, two weeks later, things are better for me. I knew when I posted it that time and experimentation would be the key, but it's no less discouraging when it feels like all you see are folks doing better than you.

First, five pounds a week is nothing to sneeze at! I don't know you stats like starting weight or if you've lost nothing in a while, but even so, 20lbs is good for most folks!

Regarding gagging... this is something you will have to watch. At 4 weeks out, what does your Doctor have you eating? I developed a true tolerance issue with protien drinks at three weeks post op. They went down fine, but made me miserable for hours later. I discovered at about 7 weeks post op that they went down better if in a milk base, rather than just Water. But if "everything" is making you gag, you might want to follow up with your surgeon's office. If it's solid food making you gag, your new sleeve may not be ready for the hard stuff yet. Go back to the slider semi-solids and sip sip sip! Don't pressure yourself above all. You're still healing.

My stall seems to have broken but I had to overcome my aversion to the Protein drinks to make it happen... I need more than DOUBLE the "60g" goal to get my body moving. This may not be a key for you, but it surprised me that "more was better".

I hope that today is brighter for you.