Well, 4 days down, 3 to go! My date is March 7th and I couldn't be happier. The only thing on my mind that is bothering me has nothing to do with the surgery...

So my friend and I have been trying to lose our extra weight for some years now after our children. I have been trying with no luck at all for nearly 7 years. She has been trying and has lost about half of what she needs to for about 2 1/2 years. The difference is I have done this before, with my first child I dropped the excess within the first 3-4 yrs. I was 20 years old for goodness sake. My kids are 8 1/2 yrs apart. I had my youngest at 28, nearly 10 years after the first. I'll turn 35 on March 6, the day before my surgery. Things are not the same this time. Everything I did the first time is NOT working. Trust me, I have ALL the willpower in the world and motivation. My weight is literally on my mind 24/7! This time I have Hypothyroidism, PCOS, Metabolic Syndrome & I'm Pre-Diabetic! She has NONE of these and I had none the first time.

About two years ago I had looked into LapBand, she was onboard, even emailed me pics of people she knew of before & afters. She once even told me she was doing this even if she had to gain extra weight! I didn't get LapBand, which now I know was a blessing, and neither did she. Since then she has lost quite a bit of her weight on her own.

The point I'm getting at is now since I have decided to do this, she keeps calling me a CHEATER. The first time she said it I couldn't believe it. But now she even has her daughter, which is my dd's best friend, calling me that too. I just feel irritated and like a failure before I even get started. This weekend while on my pre-op diet, she saw how tough it's going to be and I thought "Ok, maybe she's going to see how tough it is and stop?" No, now she's telling me this isn't worth it, that she likes food too much and am I sure I know what this entails. She also proceeds to tell me what yummy food they're eating out as she knows I'm sipping my broth! She's the ink one giving me this kind of grief, yet she's one of the people I'm closest to.

I guess I just needed to write this down to get it out of my head and maybe now I can let it go. Thank you to everyone for all the support on this forum. You guys/gals have helped me so much and I am very excited for all of our lives to be changed for the better!

My BFF has been less than supportive as well... And I intend to talk with her about it. Not via text tho. Too much potential for miscommunication and imagined subtext.

My BFF has been less than supportive as well... And I intend to talk with her about it. Not via text tho. Too much potential for miscommunication and imagined subtext.

My perfect situation would have definitely been to have this conversation with her in person, but I had just had enough. She also uses texting to say ugly things and she can always say she was just playing or i took it the wrong way. We still have not spoken, don't know that we will. It's sad, but I do believe it was headed here anyway. Sometimes you have to cut your losses and move on to people who Celebrate you, as you celebrate them. Good luck to you with your BFF, it's not a fun subject.

Well' date=' 4 days down, 3 to go! My date is March 7th and I couldn't be happier. The only thing on my mind that is bothering me has nothing to do with the surgery...

So my friend and I have been trying to lose our extra weight for some years now after our children. I have been trying with no luck at all for nearly 7 years. She has been trying and has lost about half of what she needs to for about 2 1/2 years. The difference is I have done this before, with my first child I dropped the excess within the first 3-4 yrs. I was 20 years old for goodness sake. My kids are 8 1/2 yrs apart. I had my youngest at 28, nearly 10 years after the first. I'll turn 35 on March 6, the day before my surgery. Things are not the same this time. Everything I did the first time is NOT working. Trust me, I have ALL the willpower in the world and motivation. My weight is literally on my mind 24/7! This time I have Hypothyroidism, PCOS, Metabolic Syndrome & I'm Pre-Diabetic! She has NONE of these and I had none the first time.

About two years ago I had looked into LapBand, she was onboard, even emailed me pics of people she knew of before & afters. She once even told me she was doing this even if she had to gain extra weight! I didn't get LapBand, which now I know was a blessing, and neither did she. Since then she has lost quite a bit of her weight on her own.

The point I'm getting at is now since I have decided to do this, she keeps calling me a CHEATER. The first time she said it I couldn't believe it. But now she even has her daughter, which is my dd's best friend, calling me that too. I just feel irritated and like a failure before I even get started. This weekend while on my pre-op diet, she saw how tough it's going to be and I thought "Ok, maybe she's going to see how tough it is and stop?" No, now she's telling me this isn't worth it, that she likes food too much and am I sure I know what this entails. She also proceeds to tell me what yummy food they're eating out as she knows I'm sipping my broth! She's the ink one giving me this kind of grief, yet she's one of the people I'm closest to.

I guess I just needed to write this down to get it out of my head and maybe now I can let it go. Thank you to everyone for all the support on this forum. You guys/gals have helped me so much and I am very excited for all of our lives to be changed for the better![/quote']

My best friend at work who was also a fellow big girl, we were the only 2 big girls in our store, was like this. It destroyed our friendship. She was jealous and I didn't give a crap. She made so many negative comments and would always make fun of me for eating an egg for lunch, I just had enough. We don't talk anymore and I quit my job.

Real friends are supportive. My other friend was the only one who was on board as soon as I told her. Came to see me at the hospital, and when we went dancing this past weekend, complimented my decision to be sleeved. She has said nothing but nice things, though it is awkward when we eat out lol she is proud of me for putting my health first.

I'm not as afraid to tell people my story anymore. Surprisingly I'm not as embarrassed and I don't give a crap what people think. Love my sleeve

Slap her. And ever time she says it slap her mouth. She'll learn and as for her daughter slap her too and she's younger so it may take a few more hits. But in the end it'll work just like training a puppy.

Slap her. And ever time she says it slap her mouth. She'll learn and as for her daughter slap her too and she's younger so it may take a few more hits. But in the end it'll work just like training a puppy.

Would it also work to shake a can of pennies at her?

Or squirt her with a water bottle??

Would it also work to shake a can of pennies at her?

Yes it might, though a rolled up paper maybe more suitable!

Or squirt her with a Water bottle??

Their humans not plants! Gosh

Rub her nose in it. Works every time.

Rub her nose in it. Works every time.

Umm.. Shouldn't you be on a beach right now?

Thats it!! take that b***h to the beach and take some unflattering photos of her and then tell her!

"I may be cheating but it looks like you've been eating"

I'm about10 meters from the surf as we speak!

Umm.. Shouldn't you be on a beach right now?

Thats it!! take that b***h to the beach and take some unflattering photos of her and then tell her!

"I may be cheating but it looks like you've been eating"

That defiantly went to a dark place real quick lol

I had to stay on topic! It's the best I could do

I'd just say "yeah I'm cheating. Jealous much?"