Well, 4 days down, 3 to go! My date is March 7th and I couldn't be happier. The only thing on my mind that is bothering me has nothing to do with the surgery...

So my friend and I have been trying to lose our extra weight for some years now after our children. I have been trying with no luck at all for nearly 7 years. She has been trying and has lost about half of what she needs to for about 2 1/2 years. The difference is I have done this before, with my first child I dropped the excess within the first 3-4 yrs. I was 20 years old for goodness sake. My kids are 8 1/2 yrs apart. I had my youngest at 28, nearly 10 years after the first. I'll turn 35 on March 6, the day before my surgery. Things are not the same this time. Everything I did the first time is NOT working. Trust me, I have ALL the willpower in the world and motivation. My weight is literally on my mind 24/7! This time I have Hypothyroidism, PCOS, Metabolic Syndrome & I'm Pre-Diabetic! She has NONE of these and I had none the first time.

About two years ago I had looked into LapBand, she was onboard, even emailed me pics of people she knew of before & afters. She once even told me she was doing this even if she had to gain extra weight! I didn't get LapBand, which now I know was a blessing, and neither did she. Since then she has lost quite a bit of her weight on her own.

The point I'm getting at is now since I have decided to do this, she keeps calling me a CHEATER. The first time she said it I couldn't believe it. But now she even has her daughter, which is my dd's best friend, calling me that too. I just feel irritated and like a failure before I even get started. This weekend while on my pre-op diet, she saw how tough it's going to be and I thought "Ok, maybe she's going to see how tough it is and stop?" No, now she's telling me this isn't worth it, that she likes food too much and am I sure I know what this entails. She also proceeds to tell me what yummy food they're eating out as she knows I'm sipping my broth! She's the ink one giving me this kind of grief, yet she's one of the people I'm closest to.

I guess I just needed to write this down to get it out of my head and maybe now I can let it go. Thank you to everyone for all the support on this forum. You guys/gals have helped me so much and I am very excited for all of our lives to be changed for the better!

I'm about10 meters from the surf as we speak!

Moregoodtimes emailed me today and said hi to you and Martin!

Back to topic...

your friend is just unhappy don't let it stop you!!

That's really impressive how you have two conversations at once!

Say hello back!

Have you heard from Lisa?

Give them the extra lbs and see how long they can carry it.If you died from being over weight they would be the first one to say, I wish you would have done something about your weight . The heck with the other guy do this for you. God Bless.

She's totally jealous. It's her problem, not yours. I'd rethink a friendship with her. Best of luck!

She is a crapy friend!

With friends like thay who needs enemies! She just jealous. This will give you motivation to keep working hard because obviously she has no ideal what you have to go through to make it work.Be strong keep your head up !

ChrisBThin

I'd just say "yeah I'm cheating. Jealous much?"

My thoughts exactly. You shouldn't need her to be ok with this if you are ok with your decision.

Slap her. And ever time she says it slap her mouth. She'll learn and as for her daughter slap her too and she's younger so it may take a few more hits. But in the end it'll work just like training a puppy.

Omg, you literally made me LOL, I mean really loudly too! Love it!

I already had the surgery, March 7, down 32 lbs. You can definitely tell. The last time I saw her she said, "I guess I can tell in your face, but everything else still looks the same." Ha! Such a witch. I'm becoming more at peace with this day by day. She is NOT a friend and I don't think she ever has been. She's a miserable person and I'm not. I think that's her main issue with me. Adios bitchacho! Ha!

when you are ready to get out rid of clothes, wash them, fold them nicely and with a super sweet smile bring them all to her and simply say, "I thought you might want first pick of these before I get rid of them." Leave it at that - as my mama always said, be sweet enough to leave them wondering if you are being a b***h or just clueless.....a nicey b***h was her exact term.

I had a friend like this. I've had numerous friends like this my entire life. I have a tendency to be codependent and I attract users. I've always been the support system for others but they have never been a support system for me. You sound a lot like me.

Thankfully I just don't have the time for those kind of friendships anymore. I let the last one go a few weeks ago. I thought she was my best friend but really I was her best friend. I was there when she needed me and she was never there when I needed her. It never got to the point where she was verbally or mentally abusive because I have a short fuse and stopped that quick the first time she tried to be nasty. But she was still a selfish @itch and I was a giving fool. Now with her out of my life I've had a chance to focus on more positive people and build some positive relationships. It was hard at first but it was necessary. I still think of her sometimes and I wish her the best but that's as far as it goes. I use to try to help with all her life problems but she has a God, just like I have a God, so it's not my place to fix her. I'm loving her from afar.

I'm glad you've been able to back away. That's a great start to completely ending an emotionally, mentally, and spiritually-draining relationship.

PS Congratulations on your weight loss! You've worked hard for it, you deserve it, and now you can reap the benefits from years of frustration. Hugs.