And that's what the people who feel the need to bash others are. We all had this surgery because we were addicted to food and let it get out of control, completely degrading someone and making them feel an inch tall because they made a mistake or slipped up is utterly pathetic. Correct me if I'm wrong, but this is supposed to be a SUPPORT forum not a b***h at people who screw up forum. The people who slipped up and confessed OBVIOUSLY know they made a mistake, and they're adult enough to admit it on here so why get on their case? You don't have to say "aw no big deal" or sugar coat, but you also don't have to be rude and snobby like you've never ever made a mistake in life. Grow up, as for me I'll find a website or forum that is all about support and not a bunch of assholes degrading people who need help the most.

Hey Heyher,

What questions did you have? Are you pre- or post- op? I'm pre-op and worried, excited, and afraid I'll back out at last minute.

Good luck to you.

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Questions about reflux, insurance approval, things like that. Then I posted that even if insurance denies me, my employer allows 401k medical hardship withdraws so I can get surgery. And that it will be in jan or feb next year.

I don't think I'll back out. I have been contemplating WLS surgery for several years. Now that I made my mind up, no turning back.

:-)

Why do you think you'll back out? Is it the surgery itself or life post op that makes you nervous?

Why do I think I'll back out? Fear. Money. Change.

I'm booked for Jan. 4 in Mexico, so I plan to take a deep breath and do it.

I like your determination. "Just never give up". Good plan. Very good plan.

Are you staying local or traveling? Got a date set yet?

You put a bunch of addicts together detoxing and there is bond to be some hissing and growling. I find those who have had more serious complications or harder travels down this road for whatever reasons are most passionate about their belief of what is the right way. Sometimes it may not come off this way but I believe they are just trying to save everyone from suffering what they have. The delivery just fails to display the motive.

I am one with a serious complication. I wish I could make it a rule everyone must get an MRI to show the doctor any scar tissue. I reported I had a C Section but no imaging was done. I almost died. I feel a lot of guilt because a surgery I chose almost took me from my family. If some one posted concerning scar tissue I could see myself with a strong response because I feel the need to save them. I would be frantic about it not really concerned with politeness just being sure they knew they must make the doctor do imaging!

Many of those who jump on someone for eatting wrong fear the poster will cause a leak by putting their sleeve under to much stress. I am only 3.5 weeks post op and I live in such fear of a leak!! Have you read the horror stories of those who lived through a leak? I can understand a passion from them not wanting anyone else to walk through that hell.

That being said we all need to try and raise above hormone, hunger, regret, and fear to be civil and supportive to each other. Wishing all sides a Merry Christmas and a skinny New Year. I hope all of us find skinny = happiness in our lives.

Fear of change is normal. Fear of the unknown is getting to me too. But my fight or flight has kicked in, and I am fighting. LoL!!

Who did you book in Mexico? I'm staying local. That's what's in my comfort level. I know I'll be paying more, but if something happens with my MS, then I'm close to home. I have much respect to those who go to Mexico. Traveling that far from home has to be scary!!