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Five things no one every told me how to deal with

1. I would have to buy all new clothes including underwear and shoes - twice. Had to get a loan to buy the winter items.

2. People would not recognize me; they sometimes think I am ill.

3. People expecially men would treat me differently - I never knew how to react to an actual flirt.

4. I now care about what I wear each day - I wonder if Lane Bryant and the Avenue miss me?

5. The small things like moving the car seat closer to the steering wheel, crossing my legs with ease, walking up and down stairs without panicing, cutting my hair very very short because I now have a jawline and cheek bones, keeping up with my friends when walking, feeling my hip bones when I lay down, and smiling all the time because I feel so good.

What are your surprise issues?

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Thanks for sharing! I can not wait until I have these problems! I have to admit I was looking in one of my THREE closets yesterday thinking some person is going to get some REALLLY nice clothes and it kind os made me sad. I have spent THOUSANDS of dollars on clothes I LOVE to shop and they are all going to to be too big. A part of me is sad but I can not wait until they are!!! I'll be shopping at goodwill until I reach my goal weight!

Thanks for sharing! I can not wait until I have these problems! I have to admit I was looking in one of my THREE closets yesterday thinking some person is going to get some REALLLY nice clothes and it kind os made me sad. I have spent THOUSANDS of dollars on clothes I LOVE to shop and they are all going to to be too big. A part of me is sad but I can not wait until they are!!! I'll be shopping at goodwill until I reach my goal weight!

Same here. Every time I turn around I'm having to cull things out of my closet. Now I'm down to the smallest size I have in my wardrobe, 14, and after that I have nothing. ...and I'm not even half way through to my goal weight!

So far I've removed size 20, 18, 16 pants, dresses, sweaters and tops.

Well..this one is not as much fun as some of the others ...

I bought a new hat for winter a few days ago. I thought it was cute and sassy. I took a photo of myself wearing it, no makeup, big smile. When I looked at the photo I was shocked. I mean really, really shocked.

I have never really had any facial wrinkles before because there was so much fat in my face. Well, after close to 50 lbs of weight loss, there they are. Crows feet, under eyes, across cheeks,...and more crow's feet. Especially with the crow's feet. I have 56 lbs to go to meet my goal weight. I guess that I'll just start collecting these wherever they surface.

Janerose- thanks for the post....

The rapid weight loss' date=' everyone wants to know my secret <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/wink.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=';)' />

Having to buy new clothes on a monthly basis. At this rate I'm going to have to get a second job to keep up (lol)

That i would be able to run & play with my grandchildren, without running out of breath, so soon...I love it!!!

And, finally, how soon I would feel like a new person....co morbidities gone!!!

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I really haven't told anyone-any suggestions on how to handle things when people start asking. I have already set the stage on talking about going to the gym every day. Soon that won't fly.

@Mich: I'm still pre-op, but I haven't told anyone at work... My plan is just to say I was having some medical issues and/or that I am on a strict Dr. Supervised diet... (both of which are true!)... don't imagine people will ask a lot of questions after "medical issues" and if they do I can say it's personal...?

@Mich: I'm still pre-op' date=' but I haven't told anyone at work... My plan is just to say I was having some medical issues and/or that I am on a strict Dr. Supervised diet... (both of which are true!)... don't imagine people will ask a lot of questions after "medical issues" and if they do I can say it's personal...?[/quote']

I like it. Hope you don't mind if I use that! I haven't told anyone but hubby, son and wife, daughter and boyfriend and two sisters. They assured they would not tell. At first I was just afraid that something would go wrong and then I would have to explain why I didn't have the surgery. And now it's kind of "we'll I got this far without telling anyone, I guess I won't tell now. We will see what happens.

I know what some people will say----well here she goes on yet another diet, how long will she stick with this one !!!! This is the last one.

I am an equestrian, I had no idea that the reason I had my stirrups so short before was because of how fat my thighs were. My legs have grown in length, when riding, and I feel more like a normal rider!

No one told me that at my current size - still 15-20# away from goal - many people would consider me pretty good looking....hahaha... it is great! Perfection not required.... progress toward better is my new mindset!

I also ride, but I ride english and do hunter/jumpers. What I'm looking forward to is placing higher than those skinny girls without skill. It's so political, you won't win unless you look pretty and I can't wait to see the look on those girl's faces when I beat them which I will because I can actually ride versus pay for $100,000 horses and look pretty. So excited!

Hi

I didnt know that a lot of my fears would just disappear.I look at the skidivers and think that would be nice.I want to constantly do stuff I havent in 25 years (I exhaust my family)

But,I didnt know I would become so shy.All the attention really gets to me and I become quite embarrassed when people make a big scene about my weightloss,especially when there is a lot of people around.I also didnt expect my overweight friends to become so uncomfortable around me.I hope this will pass.

And I didnt know I would be so stressed about seeing my family for the first time after a 120 pound weight loss.I shopped up a storm for the holiday just about 10 days ago and dropped 12 pounds in the last 10 days ( dont know why so fast) and now some of the new clothes I bought washed and packed are way to big.Brand new,never warn.Will have to shop again this weekend,o and I love shopping way to much now.

I didnt know that the housekeeper would keep putting my clothes in my teeny tiny housemate and my oldest daughters closets.I am constantly looking for stuff.She told me this week that Its the same size than some of the other's clothes.

One of the craziest things.I never in a lifetime thought I would worry about losing too much fat as they need some to do sculpting with when I go for plastics.hehehe,who would have thought?

I like it. Hope you don't mind if I use that! I haven't told anyone but hubby, son and wife, daughter and boyfriend and two sisters. They assured they would not tell. At first I was just afraid that something would go wrong and then I would have to explain why I didn't have the surgery. And now it's kind of "we'll I got this far without telling anyone, I guess I won't tell now. We will see what happens.

I know what some people will say----well here she goes on yet another diet, how long will she stick with this one !!!! This is the last one.

You can also lie and get away with having a thyroid problem that your now on medication for. Those make you drop pounds like CRAZY.

wrinkles

I lost 50 lbs last year and noticed all the wrinkles appearing, I freaked out and I think that might have gone a long way in sabotaging my most successful diet in years.

This year I have no choice because my sleeve won't let me quit :)

I am HOPING it is just a deflated balloon scenario where the skin just hasn't tightened back up after the fat underneath is gone and most of these wrinkles will go away.

I am loving this thread. :)

And I am loving my new clothes, new glances, and new knees!

The amount of energy I have.

This has been so fun to read, I'm only 16 days post op. down 26 and already feel better. My goal of 100 pounds is now 74. I can't wait to have all of those wonderful things happen to me. I have only told a chosen few. I can start the gym in 2 weeks and plan to hit it hard every day. That is all anyone needs to know!!!!

We should all sell our clothes on eBay plus size cute clothes do well then we can support out new shopping trips!

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