I am not sure I want him to go, but he is insisting and I appreciate that he cares enough to want to go with me. What do you guys think?

Why don't you want him to go?

He is very scary about surgery and any type of procedure. So it's that possibilty of him being negative about the procedure or the process. Although he has been support thus far, just have the bit of hesitation.

Mine went to any meeting he could. I really did appreciate it. He's been my best support.

This surgery drastically affects the life of the spouse too.

I would absolutely take him with you. My husband came to mine after a bit of convincing from me. It ended up being the best thing since I was needing his support so badly. It eased his mind he asked as many questions as he possibly could and now he is my biggest source of strength. I will pray that your husband has an open mind!

I think he would drive you more crazy if he didn't go. This way, he can ask any question he needs to. If he is negative, remind him that this isn't totally about him and you would really appreciate his support.

I think it is great he wants to go. It shows his support and it may help him through his fears. My husband wants to be involved 100 percent. It is a blessing, some women fear telling their husbands!

MIne could not make it in for my initial visit, so the doc scheduled him one on his own (which I could not then make, grrrr!) It would have been nice to do that part together.

I'm with the majority. Take him with you. Mine went, and it went a long way to answer his questions and aleviate any fears he had. The dr., dietician and physical therapist were all great about answering both our questions. He even walked the hallway for 6 minutes with me when the physical therapist wanted to test my oxygen levels! The nurses were even surprised I was ok with them saying my weight outloud with him in the room. I want him to know everything so he knows exactly what I'm going through, and doesn't think I'm making it up.

Mine went to any meeting he could. I really did appreciate it. He's been my best support.

This surgery drastically affects the life of the spouse too.

Thanks for your comment, it helps!

Thanks everyone for the positive feedback, this is all uncharted waters and I just want it to be as positive as possible.

Gosh, I love this site!!!!

My wife was with me, and I wouldn't have wanted it any other way. Even though I was the one having the surgery, both of us are going to be affected by it. She was supportive of the decision and even more so after going with me. This is something we're going through together, just like every other life experience we've shared. And I am so grateful to have her right there with me!

hmmm....I would not take my husband with me. He hasn't been to any of my appts. thus far, so it wouldn't occur to take hime to a review. But these comments make me wonder if its not something I should consider...

hmmm....I would not take my husband with me. He hasn't been to any of my appts. thus far, so it wouldn't occur to take hime to a review. But these comments make me wonder if its not something I should consider...

Aligayle...I don't have a choice, lol. He already said there is no choice, he is going. After reading all the comments I guess it is and will be a good thing that he go with me. I do appreciate the fact that he is taking inerest in what i have decided to do to change ME and my life for the better. I hope it wears off on hit a hit too, lol.