IMHO all genders want to feel loved, beautiful, and special, regardless off their weight, height, religion, etc... But for some reason there is always that one particular person (or more) whom feels it's their responsibility to announce to others any and every fault you may have, and it hurts!!! I'm so humiliated every time this person says "sing, cuz we know it ain't over till the fat lady sings," refering to me! I've told him this is mean and hurtful and that I don't address the many flaws I feel he has...btw he is a co-worker/"friend"! I know he's only joking, but I am obese, (hate that truth), and it makes me extremely self conscious and I want to hide, if not for the need to earn money here I'd never leave my abode ever!!

I'm overly sensitive, and yes I'm wearing my heart on my sleeve! Hopefully within the next several months I'll being wearing a sleeve internally instead, and I'll grow that "THICK" skin he says I need!! I know that its ridiculous for a woman in her late 40's to allow this to affect me, but the fact is that it does and that's That! I posted here because I plan on having surgery in Mexico if all works out.

I don't think you're being overly sensitive at all. That comment about the fat lady singing is just flat out rude. Good thing he didn't say it to me, because I'd be two seconds from pounding him into sand...friend or not. With that said, you're on your way to a wonderful place and don't let any distractors stop you. Take care of yourself, because you're worth it. We all are!!!!

Good luck to you in your continued journey!

I too work in a "mans" world and deal w/ comments that would be completely inappropriate in any other work environment. So completely understand your position and why you would not go to HR.

We have a similar situation in our office. Male co-worker is GOOD friends w/ female co-worker and her husband but says very racial comments to her that are very offensive. There are several of us that have started intervention and pointing out the comments are offensive to us as well and we support her and wish he would stop saying them. We are all good co-workers. It does seem to have helped a little but not much! Do you have co-worker friends that can "GET UR BACK!" when he makes such awful comments.

The guys seems to have a way of "commenting back" to shut him up. As I am female I normally just look disapproving @ him and remind him my precious adopted angel would be very offended if she heard the comment. He loves children and his grandchildren.

Sometimes there will be a chorus of us reminding him he needs "diversity training."

I think you have a good understanding of how it is here as it sounds very similar to your job! Thank you for your ideals!!! Yes, there is one guy in my department that'll say something at times, but most times he and the others don't say anything...but I'm so glad someone else on the outside gets it, most don't understand! I've been here 15 plus years, and I've worked in other factories and places before, I must admit this is like a whole different world in here, and I've never seen anything like it. I needed the boost each and everyone of you gave me and it is appreciated more than I can tell you!

It's been another one of those days where I'm frustrated and sooooo damned angry I could spit fire!!!!!! I am so stupid at times and its pathetic! Maybe its just this horrible heat wave we're experiencing, idk! Same crap just a different day! If I could fall asleep and not wake up ....never mind I'm letting things (people) get to me!

Girl don't let him get you down!

I have been told numerous times throughout my life that I wear my heart on my sleeve and I'm too sensitive and I let things get at me too easily, well YES I DO!!!

And ha know what? I will always be like that, and that's ok! I am a loving, caring, warm individual who truly cares about other people and makes it a point to NEVER intentionally hurt another person(well I have when they really hurt my feelings). I like being sensitive and caring and don't want to change or have any thick skin lol

Point is, be who you are and tell him to F Off next time he wants you to sing, or better yet tell him to sing his fat head off! Jerk!

Good luck Dear!