My thoughts on how to do a food Funeral the right way:

These are some thoughts I had today, about how to 'justify' having a food funeral and doing it the healthy way.

1. Make a goal that you need to have 10 days this month that you eat under 1000 calories before you can have your food funeral. They don't need to be consecutive.

2. Do not have any food funerals, do not eat any fast food - if you do - try salads MCDs has an awesome Southwest salad.

3. Swear off Soda now, you're not gonna be able to drink it post-op, and it hurts the lining of your stomach - so it might make surgery go smoother if you just don't drink anything but Water from here on out (if you're like me and can't do water, try propel - I love PROPEL! )

4. Do it on YOUR terms -have a plan before you go in, on what you're gonna order and how much you're going to eat. Take a friend and split your entree with them, try eating less - and when you do eat take very small bites and practice eating the way you would post-sleeve. For instance I'm planning 1 food funeral before I go under.. till then I will try my hardest not to cheat - which I've done a pretty good job.

Normally when I go to my favorite restaurant I stuff myself full of wings - I eat about 15 - I'm going to order 7 next time and a side salad. It is still a lot of calories but its a smarter choice, and that's what this is all about!

When you do it on your own terms, you can't feel guilty about it because it's 'allowed' and it's not cheating. Plus this way you won't feel like you need to have one every day at all your favorite places, because it's almost like a challenge to do your best, then you get this one reward before surgery. It's also healthy to think that this isn't goodbye forever, you'll see that food again, it's goodbye for a hundred pounds or more... It's goodbye with court ordered time with the food every once in awhile but lot less amounts hehe...

Enough with analogies, that's just my thought on how to conquer some of the 'mental' stuff going into this surgery, and to still have your favorite food (but you will need to pick your most favorite, which I know can be hard hehe - but you can do it!)

Of course, I'm still a pre-op'er, I would love to hear some post-op'ers views on this.

I am not for nor against anyone having a food funeral. Just that everyone should always do what they think is right for them. I had a food funeral before my Lap Band but I didn't have one before revising to my sleeve.

I guess the difference in those two pre-ops was realizing I'd be able to have those things again someday, so adding on weight pre-op wasn't worth it to me.

I like the list though, its really good. And I agree with Patrick 100% in regards to soda. I do have a few sips here and there, but rarely do I crave it. It has zero nutritional value and one thing most people seem to neglect realizing is that soda can have a negative effect on our hydration.

Well wishes to all!!

It's a good motivational post for those having pre op food issues! thanks for posting, and I pray you have grand success and reach all your goals!

I went to a buffet for my food funeral but I did not enjoy it. I felt gross after. I am doing this through Kaiser and they do not require any type of special diet, they just want you to eat a balance diet. I lost a lot of weight when I stop eating out and now when I do eat out, it makes me sick. I think I have detoxed!!

I went to a buffet for my food funeral but I did not enjoy it. I felt gross after. I am doing this through Kaiser and they do not require any type of special diet, they just want you to eat a balance diet. I lost a lot of weight when I stop eating out and now when I do eat out, it makes me sick. I think I have detoxed!!

Sounds like it to me!

I am pre-op and thought I would have a food funeral. I even planned the place and the meal. However, since I've started working out, none of those foods seem worth it to me. I work out 5-6 days a week for an hour or more. And when I leave the gym I feel pumped! I just don't want to "mess up" all that hard work with certain foods. I am 11 days away from starting my pre-op diet and I doubt I'll do anything different than I'm doing now with regards to tracking food and making better choices. No disrespect to anyone who chooses to have a food funeral, just not for me.

Aw, a food funeral. Food is not DEAD after surgery. Food will become a part of your life again. What changes is the quantity only. Surgeons only do physical limiting surgery, not brain surgery. I can eat everything I throw down to my gullut once again. Nothing bothers me. Oh, I am a little more sensitive to spicy (really spicy) foods but all else sits in there just fine.

What you need to mourn is your relationship with food. Deal with the fact that food will no longer be your first go to friend when you are celebrating an occasion, bored, lonely, sad, just watching TV, socializing and so on. You need to learn to occupy yourself somewhere else and focus on other things around you rather than eating as much as you want. Choices. Focus on protien.

Lest you follow me and have a cry fest in front of a buffet knowing I will never be able to gorge again and eat everything I like, twice. Okay, three times.

I love my sleeve and have no regrets.

Aw' date=' a food funeral. Food is not DEAD after surgery. Food will become a part of your life again. What changes is the quantity only. Surgeons only do physical limiting surgery, not brain surgery. I can eat everything I throw down to my gullut once again. Nothing bothers me. Oh, I am a little more sensitive to spicy (really spicy) foods but all else sits in there just fine.

What you need to mourn is your relationship with food. Deal with the fact that food will no longer be your first go to friend when you are celebrating an occasion, bored, lonely, sad, just watching TV, socializing and so on. You need to learn to occupy yourself somewhere else and focus on other things around you rather than eating as much as you want. Choices. Focus on protien.

Lest you follow me and have a cry fest in front of a buffet knowing I will never be able to gorge again and eat everything I like, twice. Okay, three times.

I love my sleeve and have no regrets.[/quote']

Wow iegal love your thoughts on this subject.