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Has Anyone Felt A Little Withdrawn After Surgery?

Sleeved 4/9, down 54 lbs, having no problems getting water and protein in. However, I feel a little more quieter. In a group or with family I feel a little withdrawn. Wondering if its just me, or if others have experienced the same thing?

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    Yes but mainly I have found I am more into myself now that I have had surgery and sometimes I find myself not interested in talking to other about their problems ( I can't be bothered) I know that sou

  • I have been experiencing the same thing, I was sleeved March 2. Good to know I'm not alone.

  • I wonder if it's because you can't enjoy the things that others can enjoy right now, so it's easier to just withdraw from anything social. I'm not sure that I've felt that, yet. I'm only on day 10,

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I have been experiencing the same thing, I was sleeved March 2. Good to know I'm not alone.

I wonder if it's because you can't enjoy the things that others can enjoy right now, so it's easier to just withdraw from anything social. I'm not sure that I've felt that, yet. I'm only on day 10, but I can see myself wanting to skip things until I get a handle on this sleeve.

I just got back from lunch with coworkers. They are not close friends of mine but aquaintances really. I felt withdrawn the whole time. I hardly said anything. I did have a great shrimp and spinach quesadilla though. I got the half order and it was three small triangles and so it was just enough food for me and I was thrilled with that! I ate it all because it was small and no one made a deal over how little I ate. I just seemed to fade into the background. I have never been like this socially but now I seem to be more of a recluse than before. Maybe it was the company.....

Yes, I felt the same, partly due to the general crappy ill feeling I had and due in part I suspect to the after effects of anesthesia and the sudden decrease in caloric intake coupled with being thrown into the state of ketosis and your body burning so much it's fat stores all of a sudden.

it's natural and will pass. Just stick with it and tell people your just a little tired. Seems to be an answer everyone can accept.

I absolutely feel the same way. For me, I know it's because I haven't told anyone except my husband. So it can't be a topic of conversation. And for the past three months I've felt like my only hobby has been weight loss related. When I'm out socially, I don't feel like it's appropriate nor interesting conversation. Most of my friends only have 5-10lbs to lose. At the same time when my weight loss has come up, I find myself not wanting to talk about it. Mainly because people freak out when I tell them I only get 600-800 calories per day. Immediately they balk and tell me I'm starving myself. It's hard for anyone with a full-sized stomach to understand that we don't have the same mental-will challenge they have of feeling full and satisfied.

I can't explain it fully, but I get what you mean. Much more of a wallflower than before.

Yes but mainly I have found I am more into myself now that I have had surgery and sometimes I find myself not interested in talking to other about their problems ( I can't be bothered) I know that sounds bad but I want to concentrate on myself more now than ever.

I was the same way! My daughter kept asking me if I was okay. I think I just needed quiet time to recuperate. I told everyone about the surgery so that wasn't it. I could tell I was withdrawn too. I felt better after about 3 weeks. I'm 6 months out now.

Yes but mainly I have found I am more into myself now that I have had surgery and sometimes I find myself not interested in talking to other about their problems ( I can't be bothered) I know that sounds bad but I want to concentrate on myself more now than ever.

I am getting more and more like this. I listen to people but the whole time I am thinking... Gosh, will they shut up already! I am much more into me now than I ever was before. I have been putting myself first a whole lot lately. I know it sounds mean but I have to get over that feeling because I do have to put myself first, after never doing that before.

Im opposite- I feel more apt to go out cause I feel in control now. I havent told anyone that I got this surgery either.

I used to hate knowing that my weight was creeping up and people were noticing- I used to avoid situations with food because I really hated feeling like people were judging me by what I was eating.

Now when I go out with the girls or with a couple, I order what I want without guilt- and the eating part, i usually brush it off as I had a crazy day and just had dinner or whatever.

I understand! I don't hardly talk to anyone, not even my family. Everyone knows I had surgery; I was proud of myself for finally taking control of my weight problem. However, my weight loss and the surgery are all I can think about 99% of the time. NO ONE around me understands what I have been through or the struggles I face daily. I am hoping to get over it eventually because I don't like feeling so anti-social. If I didn't have this forum, I'd be lost lol

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