I am 2 week post opp and 29 pounds down!!! A guy wants to take me on a date. He was like can we do dinner, or maybe go to a bar watch a game and grab a beer. I’m thinking I can’t do any of that, I can barely eat, I can’t drink any alcohol. I’m like wow my dating life will be way different now. I guess I can say, "" Hey I only have a small stomach I can’t really eat or drink so maybe we can have a date that doesn’t require any of the above. I feel abnormal. What is everyone else doing, maybe I just have to wait longer until I can eat more or have a drink.

go to the bar to watch the game and order Water or tea. There's no rule that you must drink alcohol. I went out last weekend with friends and had no problem ordering a non-alcoholic drink while they had beer. Nobody even noticed. If you go to dinner, then just order some Soup. Claim you had a big lunch if he asks why you're eating so little and you don't want to share about surgery yet.

Enjoy the date!!

How about to the cinema and watch a movie? that is something nice

I agree with the others. Skip the dinner and just go hang out. You can always sip on the water! The good thing is it makes you a cheap date!

Hopefully the guy is paying more attention to you then to what you are eating or drinking. Not their business about your surgery on a first date anyway.

Go to the bar, order soup and play around w it while you eat it slowly. Tell him you've stopped drinking for one year.....it's just a personal decision. Order a water and enjoy your time. No one will be paying any attention to what you are eating. Have fun and don't let this surgery stop you from living.

Tell him you gave up drinking for Lent. Or get some real looks and tell him you have gave up everything but soup for Lent!

One of my favorite dates ever was car shopping. Neither of us had any plans of buying one, nor the $$$$$$$$ to buy the sort of cars we test drove- but I think that was part of the fun of it! There was no awkward silence of a movie or weirdness of who got the check after eating. We talked and laughed and had SUCH fun!

The car shopping thing is good!

another fun idea is going to an arcade or something at the mall. that doesnt really involve food or alcohol.. i did this the other day with my daughters father and we had a nice time

My two best dates ever... I went to a local film festival. It was a buncgh of shorts, and we talked about them alot after so it broke the ice. The other one was a comedy club. It does something to be able to laugh with someone, and it will test his sense of humor. Neother place involves food or drinking. I know though, I've thought about this too. Suggest you go for a walk together after.

Damn I thought this post was "how to get a hot date with the sleeve" I guess I'll keep trying to figure that out.. Good luck with your date though

Thanks For all your advice!!! I actually ended up doing a lunch date with him. It was something nice to look forward to while at work. I told him I was on a liquid diet and just had the soup which came with some cheese bread that looked oh so good. I gave that to him