So, I got a text message from my DH last night (and that doesn't mean Dear anything!). Text message said, basically, "File our divorce papers now!"

We've been separated since June. I came home from the hospital June 3 on 3 kinds of oxygen. He got ticked because I didn't know what was for dinner that night @@ and broke every dish in our house. I moved out a few days later.

I've been doing everything I know how to a. get healthier mentally and physically and b. have even gone to marriage counseling with him, which was useless because he thinks everything is ALL my fault.

He's an alcoholic, which he hid from me till after we got married. Now he's in full bloom again.

I guess we just weren't meant to be. So, to keep this on topic, can I count this as losing 180 pounds of unnecessary crap in a hurry?

So sorry wishing you strength and good wishes.

I'm sorry you are going through the heart break of divorce and what could have been. I am very happy to hear you are a strong enough woman, who loves herself enough, to get out of an abusive situation. Best wishes

When I got divorced 27 years ago (wow, that's a long time), it was my ex's idea that we needed to "separate". But I filed because I wanted to be on the offensive side. And... I was afraid he might change his mind and not go through with it. YIKES!! I couldn't let that happen. I know it is tough for most people to go through divorce. Keep your chin up, take care of yourself and press on toward your goals. Come to the forum when you need a boost. God bless...Kathe

Thanks, again, for all your support! I'm wrapping my head around it and I just got some more news. Apparently, he decided to quit counseling. I just wonder if he quit his job as well?