My dd is 5 1/2 years old. She worships my father and his wife and her step aunts. (they are 14 & 15) She is very impressionable, and my dad let the kids get their belly buttons peirced. At first my DD said she wanted hers done, I told her when she gets older we will see. Now I am makeing her plate for dinner and she tells me she does not want to eat because she want her tummy to be flat. I told her she has a beautiful tummy and why does she want flat. She said that nana said that she needs to shrink her tummy. OHHH I AM PISSED... Not only did she tell a five year old thats she is fat but she told her she needs to quit eating....

I have been working with my dd on healthy eating and working out. She has done great because WE were doing it TOGETHER. she worked out 5 days this week but I have never told her that eating was what made her bigger. She has really never asked why she is bigger than other kids. She is very out going and makes friends with everyone. I guess the reason I am so pissed is because I am worried they are going to give her a complex.

I never felt as if my father accepted me 100 %. He always made stupid comments that really hurt, so in turn I would turn to food. He ran out on us kids several time for months and I think alot of my food issues stem from not having a DAD.

His step kids are little prissy brats who put their goods out for advertisement (which I totally disagree with) but they are skinny and pretty and it hurts so bad for me to see the relationshiip he has with them but never had with me. I just don't want him to treat her different.

My dd is over weight, but she is not out of control. Am I over reacting? I just don't want her to be hurt.

Dear Daughter DD

Dear Son DS

Dear Husband DH

Dear Wife DW

Hope that helps. HTH

heh heh had to throw that last one in!:biggrin1:

It's been so interesting to watch this thread and hear everyne's opinions. It's so true that what we hear as children has great power and can affect us our whole lives. My sons remind me of that every day, and it makes me realize what a responsibility parenthood is. JMO, I want to commend you for realizing how this is affecting your daughter and taking steps to deal with it. It isn't easy to counter the crap kids see on TV with common sense and intelligent caring! And I don't remember who said it, but the just because they're related comment is absolutely true. As I said earlier, your daughter is blessed to have you...stay strong for her.

Emily