I have been researching weight loss surgery for years and have decided on the sleeve with Dr. Kelly in Mexico. It looks like the middle of November is when I will be going. My boyfriend, of 3 1/2 years, is totally against it. He doesn't think I need surgery and thinks I look fine as I am. I'm 5'7" 250 lbs. He is also very concerned about it being done in Mexico. He refuses to go with me to have it done, stating his reason is, he just can't support it when he is so against it. My daugher has lost 30 pounds on weight watchers and is now becoming a personal trainer so she doesn't understand why I need surgery either. She thinks I can just do it the old fashion way with diet and excercise. I've been on every diet known to man, most of them twice. I've always gained the weight back and then some. I am definitely doing this but wish I had their support. My middle daughter will be going with me and she is the only one who is supportive. She is also overweight and understands my need to do this.

Glad to hear that other people meet with opposition as I have when I tell them of my plans to get sleeved in Mexico of all places!!! People do not understand that it is very difficult to lose the amount of weight that we need to lose and then keep it off. Alot of people talk about what the complications could be for me, but what about the complications if I don't have the surgery, such as high blood pressure, diabetes, etc. I worked in a nsg home and we have had quite a few people in the 400-500lb range come in lately. They are fairly young and the reason they are there is due to complications of their obesity. This has helped me make my decision to get sleeved. It seems that loved ones act like they want you to lose weight and be healthy, but when you try to they are not really that supportive. Good luck and best wishes to all my fellow sleevers out there.

I understand how you feel! My husband isn't supportive at all. When I started learning about WLS I decided that VSG is what I wanted...what I NEEDED and other people's opinions wouldn't change my mind. When I told my husband that I wanted this surgery all he said was "We're not paying for that, just stop eating and excerscize" Even though I think his issues with this are deeper than the price my heart broke and I cried for days. He doesn't understand how I feel to be OBESE. At this point I'm still trying to come up with a solution to make this happen. My mom was just offered a job and told me that if it works out she'll give me the money without hesitation...She is my only supporter, who understands how it feels to be so overweight. I'll then schedule my surgery and be on my way to Mexico! Keep your chin up and remember you are doin't this for YOU and YOUR HEALTH!

I also am having a hard time paying for the surgery but I think I have it all worked out now for November. It will definitely be a sacrafice in some ways but it will be so worth it. I hope things work out for you too financially. And I hope he comes around once he sees how happy you are losing the weight and feeling better.

I told my family I was considering WLS. I got some negative feed back so I did it any way without as much as telling them anything else. After the surgery, they all said why didn't you tell us you were having surgery. I said if you had been more supportive when I said I was considering it I may have included you. Since you weren't I decided i didn't need the negativity around during a trying and emotional time.. next time they should think before they say somthing about somebody elses decisions; because they just might leave you out of the next one..

Good luck...