I just wanna say I am sorry upfront for needing to vent here and right now. I have to express myself some way, some how. Today I have reached my limit. WITH EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE!!! Here's a little back round info, my surgery is scheduled for July 11. That's just around the corner for me. Everything up to this point has been so hard for me. Normally I can walk away from things and deal with situations or make the best of things. My husband is currently going through training and will not be able to be here for me during the surgery.

Which is fine, but I have a child that needs to be taken care of. Well I have asked my mom is help step up and be here for us. Which she agreed to months ago and said she was willing to support for my child and myself. I was happy until last week when she told me shes is bringing some random guy with her. That this has turned into a vacation for her. She is pissed that she has to take my child to school for three days (too early because she said she needs her beauty sleep) and that I have asked her to visit me in the hospital at least to see if I am okay. And she went on to say how shes meeting up with some other guy she met online here while she is suppose to be caring for my child!!!! She expects me to buy a TOMTOM for my car so she can go site seeing and do her thing with whomever. I am disappointed, hurt, and just upset. I know this long and its like I am doing a pity party here. I am sorry but I needed somewhere to go after getting into it with her on the phone (again).

I'm happy to hear your hubby will be there for you. My daughter lives far away from us, because her hubby is in the Navy. But when he was away, I was there for her when she had two of her babies. There is no way I would not be there for my daughter and grandchildren. Shame on your Mom.

I know your husband is going to be there for you, but you might want to try and get involved with a church or Mommy's group to make friends. My daughter does this whenever they move to a new place so she meets people she trust if she needs them to watch the kids for an emergency. And she has had to use them in the past too on short notice. She has been lucky and blessed to find some great friends. I know its hard when your away from family. How about your husbands family, can any of them come visit you?

Good luck on Monday. I'm having mine the same day too.

That is wonderful news! I am so happy for you!

This is something of a harsh reality, but right now your pre- and post-op days are going to need to be incredibly selfish, it is time to put yourself first and concentrate on doing what you need to do in order to have a wonderful surgery and healing time. You just don't have room to deal with your mother and her lack of concern for your wellbeing right now, so let this go, rejoice that your hubby is coming home and focus on yourself. Later when you are healed and recovered maybe you can revisit this and sit down and explain to her how you felt.

Good luck with your upcoming surgery!!!

How are you doing? Hope it all turned out great.

DIVORCE your MOM!!!

Hey guys. Sorry I have super busy. Things are moving smoothly. I am just avoiding my mom more and more. I saw her now a month being post op and all she could say was it doesn't look like I have lost much weight. Blah blah and how she can't believe I put my body thru what I did. It did hurt a little bit because everyone I have seen lately says you can see the weight loss. You can see it in my face and tummy area. I guess I never thought my mom would be this way. I was proud of myself because I lost 17 pounds with a total of 40 pounds loss and down two sizes... Ehh. I guess you win some you lose some :/

Wow, Manda. I agree with Papa Jack....divorce your Mom. You have a whole new shiny life ahead of you now full of possibilities and you don't need that kind of selfish, negative family BS. I know logically you can never completely 'divorce' your parents, but you can definitely step back and try to not get emotionally upset and involved. And know you will be a better Mommy to your baby!! I think your weight loss so far is amazing and for her not to acknowledge is just hurtful!

We love you and you will always find support here with us!

I'm so sorry! I'm lucky to have a supportive Mom, but I definitely know those who are not. I think it's a good idea to avoid her for a while. Hopefully she'll come to her senses eventually. Congrats on your weight loss so far! Awesome!