Hi folks,

Relatively new here, but thrilled to see support for glbt folks. i post to the obesity help vsg forum a lot but have hesitated to come out to anyone so haven't yet.

i'm ann, i live in arlington, va with my partner of 30 years (in november!) whose name is also ann (i know!) and our two kitties -- no kids.

i'm excited to finally almost be at the ins submission stage and hopeful that things will got thru!!!

i'd love to hear from other friendly folks. everyone is so nice here!!!

do you find issues related to your glbt-hood and the forum or reaction from friends???

so happy to be here!!!!!! xoxoxoxo Ann

I more or less stick to high Protein low carb diet

Yeah, that's all I've been able to eat according to my food plan so far. I moved into "stage 4" today, actually. So I can have "canned or soft peeled fresh fruit". But I'm sort of scared to try them because any meaningful amount of sugar turns me inside out.

Yes most of it I had 5 days of clear liquid lost a few pounds during that time

Guess I'm just half gay (I'm bi with a hubby and a gf) and have support from them both tho they say I'm beautiful just as I am.

I was curious about the bears as well. I would hope you all wouldnt be shunned just because you lost weight. Thought as long as you are bears at heart... But then again, in my circle, I am a BBW. I know some will shy away once I have my surgery or after it becomes known that I had it done. Their loss but it will hurt just the same.

I have seen some fuzzy bears who are not fat but are more beefy and muscular. Perhaps that can be you guys??! Once a bear always a bear?

I have seen some fuzzy bears who are not fat but are more beefy and muscular. Perhaps that can be you guys??! Once a bear always a bear?

Eh. I only recently joined the bear community at the behest of my skinny friends because they thought it would boost my morale and I'd find a sense of community. As someone who is only "recently fat," I never thought much of the bears and I was never into chubby guys myself. It wasn't until I started gaining weight that the bear community even noticed me either.

Yes, there are "muscle bears," (but those are far and few in between) as well as bears who are simply furry without being overweight. But I haven't yet determined whether I will eventually be able to take in enough Protein and calories to get my bodybuilder physique back. Honestly, I'm not sure that I want that anymore. It's a bit of a slippery slope for me anyway.

I have a husband (no girlfriend like you--I'm a monogamous gay, not bi) who loves me no matter what I look like, so I'm not so concerned where I fit in.

"I have a husband (no girlfriend like you--I'm a monogamous gay, not bi) who loves me no matter what I look like, so I'm not so concerned where I fit in."

Ha! I'm just greedy, that's all!

I think you found where you fit in.. Right in hubby's arms! Oh and I'm sappy too! But it's true!

Ha! I'm just greedy, that's all!

I think you found where you fit in.. Right in hubby's arms! Oh and I'm sappy too! But it's true!

Aww, you're sweet! Yeah, he can be very cuddly. And confidentially, I hope this thread is terrorizing straight people! Hehehe

Sorry not phasing me in the least.

I'm just glad I found out that your avi was w/a wax statue. I thought it was you w/your husband.I

I was gonna say with a tall, fit, well dressed broths like that you better get back in shape.

Glad I was spared the embarrassment now.

Sorry not phasing me in the least.

I'm just glad I found out that your avi was w/a wax statue. I thought it was you w/your husband.I

I was gonna say with a tall, fit, well dressed broths like that you better get back in shape.

Glad I was spared the embarrassment now.

LOL!! That's hilarious. You're not the first person on here to think he was my boyfriend. Nah...I can't go with guys who are taller than 5'10; judging from the statue, Morgan Freeman is like 6'5. I'm only 5'7 and I don't like feeling like a horny smurf.

My boyfriend is 5'9 and his people were Amish. It's hard to believe that he and Morgan Freeman are even the same species. Not that Mr. Morgan doesn't have his own sex appeal...

Amish?!?! That sounds like a whole new level of drama.

I don't like feeling like a horny smurf.

Haha... this should be a real character! Don't bash us tall guys... I'm 6'3.

Amish?!?! That sounds like a whole new level of drama.

Yeah, it has been a source of both humor and contention. He's one of those high-energy guys who can never just sit still and relax. It'll be literally 1 o'clock in the morning and he's building furniture! That's what the Amish do, they build things. Yup. All the time. Never a dull moment. Yup.

Haha... this should be a real character! Don't bash us tall guys... I'm 6'3.

6'3"? Damn...what happened? You have two Y chromosomes or something? hehehee...just kidding man. I wanted to grow to at least 5'9. But no...I inherited my parents' genetic garbage from the shallow end of the gene pool.

LOL!! That's hilarious. You're not the first person on here to think he was my boyfriend. Nah...I can't go with guys who are taller than 5'10; judging from the statue' date=' Morgan Freeman is like 6'5. I'm only 5'7 and I don't like feeling like a horny smurf.[/quote']

Omg, I'm almost 6'3" (i know, tall for a female) and my wife is about 5'8"... I wish me being taller had that effect on her. Oh the things I would do for her to BE a horny Smurf... Now that I think about it I guess I should say, oh the things I'd do to her if she WAS a horny Smurf. Either way, I'm sure you catch my drift =)

So glad to see you guys using this forum! The other night I posted on Atlanta Craigslist on the M4M section looking for other guys that have had WLS and some FU*#ER flagged It so it was deleted! All i was trying to do was find others that were gay and had WLS so I could find locals to talk to!! Pissed me off but anyway, I hate to hear your friends are not wanting you to lose a certain amount of weight bc u identify with the bear community, other communities, etc. .

Honestly I've always been into the muscle bears anyway, just not other overweight guys, I've always liked thinner guys.

As you all probably know I had my surgery 28 days ago today(4 weeks ago July 26th) and ive lost 26lbs as of Monday this week. Feeling better about myself already and I think it shows in my personality bc I seem to be getting more attention already, I'm actually on my way to Mississippi now to meet someone I've been talking to for almost 3 years who is the most amazingly sweet and Absolutely GORGEOUS guy!!!

I myself have no problem not identifying as a bear anymore, I want to be thin! I want to feel comfortable walking around without a shirt, or getting completely naked and just strutting my stuff in front of other good looking men LOL...Bottom line no matter what, I'm me first, not a bear or anything else first, just me and that's most important, you all remember that!

I hope this works out with this guy, we've both wanted each other for a while, We both thought the other wasn't interested after he stopped talking to me when my brother was really sick and before he passed. He stopped talking to me bc he knew I was stressed but I sure wish he had told me how he felt lol. Anyway, wish me luck! I'll post later to update y'all on how it's going.

Attn: Gay & Bi Men:

Would you all be interested in joining a google, yahoo, etc. group (whichever platform i try and see what works best)for ONLY Gay/Bi men that have had or are having WLS, so that we can all post whatever it is that we may be going through that we may not nevessarily want written on vst. Of course nothing would be off limits and it would all be with confidence that it's just us men, it would be private and I'd be happy to run it. What do y'all think???

Johnathan