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Yesterday I was out and about and ran into an ex-boyfriend. His greeting was "OMG...look at you, you're tiny!" After he finished showering me with compliments, he wanted to know if I was single and if he could call me sometime. I was a bit ga-ga over this guy for about a year and he didn't treat me as well as I deserved, so it was soooooo nice to tell him, "it was nice seeing you, take care". Then walking away without answering his relationship questions or giving him my phone number. Well, he turned Facebook stalker on me late last night. Even though he's not a FBF he was still able to send me a message, it was late so I didn't reply and he sent another one this morning.

I am now thinking of ways to let him know how I feel about our shot at a relationship the first time without sounding bitter - or coming off as conceited that I've changed so much since then, not just my physical appearance - I've done a lot of "me" work over the past 5 or 6 years and I think the lap band is the icing on that multi-layer cake.

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You go girl!

Give that "boy" a piece of your mind. He should have treated you better and maybe there would be something more to say then see ya!

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good for you for walking away.. so he only wants you if you are thin? If he mistreated you before he will do it again.. you are too good for him.. AS I tell my grandkids Men are like buses there will be another one along in a few minutes.. pick one that is the best for you.. keep that confidence and kick him to the curb..

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arn't those meeting just the best.... When some one you liked or crushed on sees you and drools all over him self.... lol... Happened to me at the Lowes two weeks ago. Walked pass him and this time his wife (she HATES me) was not with him. Said hello in passing.... He walked a bit then made a turn and came found me... I happened to look freaking fabulous that day... :D :D

Pretty... im so proud of you for standing your ground. If he treated you like crap before... he will do it again.

My saying on getting back with an ex...... It's like reading a book over, expecting a different ending... Never happens.

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Awesome!! And GOOD FOR YOU for not giving in, even though you were really into him. If he is only going to treat you right because you look a certain way, then he is not worth it!!!!! Put your energy into someone who is going to love you INSIDE and out!!!!

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Sometimes the best thing to say is nothing at all, just avoid him. If you respond to his messages it will just open a door that you might not want to open. I have been in a healthy relationship for 3 years now, and he knew me before I lost 200 pounds so I feel real confident in our relationship. But sometimes he can seem distant, but he just likes to have his own space sometimes. Good luck!

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That is just too awesome :)

I would handle it the same way I handled it when I ran into my ex- a big smile and waving as I turned and walked away.

He doesn't deserve an explanation. Block him on FB and go on about your happy life. As the saying goes- if he doesn't love you at your worst then he sure as heck doesn't deserve you at your best.

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I wouldn't explain anything to him. It will drive him nuts trying to figure you out. :)

That's exactly what I'm going to do! Thank you!

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Sometimes the best thing to say is nothing at all, just avoid him.

I agree.... Silence is a very powerful and direct "response".

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Yesterday I was out and about and ran into an ex-boyfriend. His greeting was "OMG...look at you, you're tiny!" After he finished showering me with compliments, he wanted to know if I was single and if he could call me sometime. I was a bit ga-ga over this guy for about a year and he didn't treat me as well as I deserved, so it was soooooo nice to tell him, "it was nice seeing you, take care". Then walking away without answering his relationship questions or giving him my phone number. Well, he turned Facebook stalker on me late last night. Even though he's not a FBF he was still able to send me a message, it was late so I didn't reply and he sent another one this morning.

I am now thinking of ways to let him know how I feel about our shot at a relationship the first time without sounding bitter - or coming off as conceited that I've changed so much since then, not just my physical appearance - I've done a lot of "me" work over the past 5 or 6 years and I think the lap band is the icing on that multi-layer cake.

seems like ole boy needs to learn some RESPECT

you go girl....proud of ya

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seems like ole boy needs to learn some RESPECT

you go girl....proud of ya

Love love LOVE Aretha!!

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SILENCE ... it's the best revenge!

P.Thick you have better things to do, and no time for a recycled man!

When you put your trash out for pickup, your not thinking they will store it and unexpectedly bring it back to you some day... so good riddance!

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