Hello - I'm wondering if those of you who have slightly older kids are telling them about your surgery? My daughters, aged 12 and 13 both know I am having "a surgery", but don't know the details. Neither of them have weight problems, but I have also raised them to be sensitive to other people's sizes (not to mention other things of course). It's difficult with girls as I don't want them to start worrying about their weights. Another factor is that I am pretty adamant about keeping my surgery secret, and I am worried about my secret getting out if I tell them as I am friends with several mothers of their friends. I don't think they would tell deliberately, but you know how things can just slip out in passing with kids (even as an adult that can happen).

Have you told your kids? Told them to keep it a secret? I just really don't know quite what to do here so thought I would seek the opinions of those wiser than me

I LOVE IT!! KEEP RUNNING PAST THEIR HOUSE. HAHAHA

I have the same concerns. Two daughters both healthy. I have only told my sister who was banded 2 years ago. I don't plan on telling anyone. Just eating less and working out. Hopefully that works! I do feel guilty about my girls and parents. Hope Mom is not mad!

I am divorced with 3 children. Daughters that are 9 and 11 and a 16 yr old son. I told my son and he has been involved with the entire process. He was even my driver for the surgery. I really do not want my ex-husband and his wife to know because then everyone on the PTA and soccer team and so on will know. So I originally told the girls I was having a stomach surgery and it was no big deal. Finally, as the surgery got closer I ended up telling them that the surgery would help me lose weight. They were so, so excited and started talking about shopping and all that. I made sure to never say the word "Lapband." I then explained extensively that this is something that is private and it's ok for families to have things that are private. I explained how important it is to not tell even one friend. They've done great. My ex even asked them what kind of surgery I was having and they said they didn't know. I really think its a judgement call and depends on the individual child and their maturity level.

I should amend the above... When my ex asked the girls what kind of surgery, they actually said they weren't sure what its called and to ask me. What I first wrote made it sound like I told them to lie.