Having been on this forum for 2 years now I have read many posts and participated in numerous threads. At first I sought help as I was learning about the banding process. People were wonderful about answering what seems now as basic questions. I also enjoyed the conversations of like minded people who were going through or had been through what I was embarking on.

Now that I have lived with my band almost 2 years and been rather successful I have alot to offer others in the way of motivation, tips and support when I see questions or conversations which I feel I can help out with. In turn I too still have questions about different subjects and appreciate the answers when I post them.

That said... this is a public forum with people from all walks of life... some of whom may not be similar to mine. But when I post a question and read the opinions and answers I appreciate them at face value and respect that someone took the time to provide me with an answer...even if it isnt something I want to hear. If I didnt want opinions I wouldnt post a question.

And in turn if I dont respond to a thread its because I have nothing to offer that has not been said or in some case because I just really have nothing noteworthy to say or maybe I feel someone is just whining and I havent the time or energy to reply.

I am discussing this because recently I have received a few personal messages which have been from people saying I am too cut and dry, too black and white, or the best one was.... Just because you are thin now doesnt mean you are all that. That one actually cracked me up because yes I am very proud of my accomplishment but now its time for me to give back and help others... and if someone thinks that is self absorbing... I have no time in my life for their insecurity.

In a nutshell... I think it would be wise for people to remember that if you ask a question about your band, diet or eating habits... expect an answer. In fact expect lots of answers from people which will be to the point and based on their own personal experience. It may open your eyes to something which will help you. Or you may choose to ignore it.... But If you do not want an answer...do not ask the question.

It's a little sickening to me that people on this board would have the nerve to write you such cruel things. I haven't been banded yet and I came on this board to learn, meet fellow bandsters, and create an online support system for myself during this life changing journey. We are all here for the same thing no matter where you are in your journey. We are a community... A neighborhood of people who have come together to help everyone celebrate in their successes, encourage each other to push through struggles, and share stories so people can learn from one another. This should be a completely judgement free zone.. A safe place for our "community of pre and post-bandsters". Shame on anyone who is here to judge and put people down!

I am also one of the newbies that looks specifically for your valuable input. Thanks for taking the time out of your day to give it.

It's a little sickening to me that people on this board would have the nerve to write you such cruel things. I haven't been banded yet and I came on this board to learn' date=' meet fellow bandsters, and create an online support system for myself during this life changing journey. We are all here for the same thing no matter where you are in your journey. We are a community... A neighborhood of people who have come together to help everyone celebrate in their successes, encourage each other to push through struggles, and share stories so people can learn from one another. This should be a completely judgement free zone.. A safe place for our "community of pre and post-bandsters". Shame on anyone who is here to judge and put people down![/quote']

Very well said!!

It's always a few bad apples that ruin it for others... But there is so much positive information posted I find it to be valuable, inspirational and a constant reminder to keep my band in the forefront of my day.

I confess I don't coddle. Some people on here are wonderful about it so I will leave it to them.... I know sometimes thats what people want to hear. I on the other hand shoot straight...will tell you what I did to be successful with my band and if you want to use my suggestions that's great. If you don't that's fine too... I think there is room for everyone.

I may not ask a lot of questions, but only because they have already been asked at one point or another.

Your experience, or your "been there, done that" is of great help and is very appreciated. I for one need your two cents worth and any thing that anyone else has to offer as well. So I Thank You for it.

Very well said!!

Thank you!

I, too, have appreciated your advice and that of others on the board Foridays. Give me tough love any day! I can take it, and it's always so helpful.

I wish that all the time and energy spent being rude and jealous ( yes I said it) would be spent fixing their problems and learning their band.

The fact is when you post for us newbies, only half of us will be successful. Only half of us will make it to where you are. But, all of us have cheated, skirted around, or given up on our past diet attempts. Lashing out at others, complaining about results, and not following the rules are just other ways to try to cheat the system.

If my mind set is not like yours from day 1 of pre-op I will not make it! I have to get out of my own way and let the band do its job.

I have two lifelines as I see it: my band and my successful new friends on this forum.

For that I am truly grateful! Thank you!