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Told Mum And Brother Me Getting Lapband Yesterday And They Want Me To Cancel

I'm on the verge of calling my co-ordinator to cancel, no matter if I lose my money or not.

I've been up and down so many times since scheduling, nearly cancelling off my own back because of nerves a while back. Now my brother thinks I'm being too extreme and that I'm not mentally stable enough to be able to make such a big decision. I agree with him that we should all undergo some sort of psychological testing before the op even if depression isn't disclosed.

I personally did a full disclosure of my depression, counseling and medication but nothing was brought up about me needing to be assessed... I feel slightly let down in that area.

He doesn't understand certain other aspects of why I need this though, like the physical and emotional struggle that I've endured for 16 years and the PCOS is acting against me. He wants me to just give the diet and exercise one more go under his supervision :(

I just don't know what is right for me anymore with getting dragged from one side to the other :( I feel so out of control with other stresses in my life as well and I'm just begging for some light right now :(

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  • waitingpatiently
    waitingpatiently

    Let me start by saying you need to make this decision yourself, Family members may think they know best, but only you know yourself and whether this is the right decision. If you are concerned about

  • Saz you also have all of us for support !

  • lifebegins2012
    lifebegins2012

    Found this one for you... Liverpool Location: Lee Vally Millenium Centre Childwall Valley Rd Liverpool, Merseyside, L25 2PR liverpoolsupport@wlsinfo.org.uk Meeting day: Tuesday Time: 6.30pm

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Found this one for you...

Liverpool

Location: Lee Vally Millenium Centre

Childwall Valley Rd

Liverpool, Merseyside, L25 2PR

liverpoolsupport@wlsinfo.org.uk

Meeting day: Tuesday Time: 6.30pm-10pm

Frequency: Monthly - Third Tuesday

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Found this one for you...

Liverpool

Location: Lee Vally Millenium Centre

Childwall Valley Rd

Liverpool, Merseyside, L25 2PR

liverpoolsupport@wlsinfo.org.uk

Meeting day: Tuesday Time: 6.30pm-10pm

Frequency: Monthly - Third Tuesday

Woah there!!! Thank you :D How did you find that? I've been looking for hours... I obviously need to improve my researching skills!

I hear ya, I had only told a few people from work, whom I work with everyday, and I had to go to one of the other offices where once of supervisors saw me, asked if I was dieting or? I said I got lapband and she said oh you cheated, man the fire in my eyes must of scared her, then like 2 weeks later she calls and asks me how much weight had I lost now. She said "we were talking about it in the office" and I let it go, but it felt like she was pumping me for information and she said Im asking for so n so. I said she can call me or email me. I then told her how someone had come into the office and made a point of coming to my desk and asking me so you had that operation, you look good. She said oh I was just talking to girls in office. Someone from that same office called later on and I asked her if she said something. She said oh yea she was talking to everyone and telling us you had lost alot of weight. What a witch, next time she calls Im not gonna say nothing, I thought she honestly wanted to know, but she just wanted gossip.

some people think they have to put their stamp of approval on other's lives. You tell who you want and if they don't like it, then they aren't really thinking of your welfare.

I googled wls and the word 'support'. It lists ones round the country but my local one isnt on there. Only that group came up xx It looks like most are set up by patients having surgery at nearby hospitals. The group I'm going to tomorrow night is similar but there are members who have travelled abroad for their surgery. xx nite xx

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Some women are just so vicious, especially in the office environment! There is absolutely no need for that kind of child like behaviour. We can only assume she's insecure about how she looks, and is jealous about your progress!! Keep your head held high until the finish line when you can wipe the floor with her catty remarks and gossiping!

I'm not going to tell anyone else. I've requested holiday leave from work, although part of me thinks I'm being stupid and should take it as sick leave as I don't get much time off to myself on holiday as it is! I guess I have the option of providing our HR department with a sick note but it's tricky as I would like the reason to remain hidden from everyone to avoid gossip and bitching.

Oh for a life where we can just click our fingers and everything is magically fixed.

Talking of work, I'm off to bed! Ho hum :) Nah night everyone xxx

Let me start of by saying that it sounds to me that you already know this is the rite thing to do, because of the Health Issues. That's a start. Depression can come from being Obese, it is tied in to the Hormones, which are out of whack, thus you have depression. This will improve if this is the reason for Depression. Your Surgeon knows all about this...

As far as Family, Friends, Workers. Its none of their business, its your business only. If you choose to tell a bunch of people, and they cut you down for doing it, then its your own fault. Most people think your crazy for having anything done. Just loose weight on your own! Well, I think you no better then that.

I can't tell you to do it. You must come to grips with that. I don't know one person that didn't have the jitters though. Including me. I can tell you that it was well worth it, my health is better, and I am banded for life.

Every one that I new was against it, and now they no that they were wrong, and that even includes my husband.

I started my process to get the band in 2008! I had the 6 months visits, my psych eval, nutritionist, sleep study, everything done...but the discouragement from my family and friends kept me from having the surgery. I was miserable, I kept wishing that I had the band, it was always on my mind. Finally, in Oct, 2011, I decided I wanted it done before the end of the year. So I got back to the doctor, had a mammogram, got recent blood work done, and had my surgery on Dec 22, 2011. I am SO glad that I did. This time, I did not tell anyone except my mom (who was supportive this time) and my ex husband. AFTER I got the band, I told a few people, and one barely talks to me, but this person has NEVER had a weight issue in her life. She can want to lose 5 lbs and do it in 2 weeks.

I can tell you that I DO NOT regret having the band done. Find a close friend that you can confide in to take you to the hospital and bring you home. Many people at my work still do not know, My weight loss is slow and steady. I can eat a regular diet (although chicken and I are not getting along since my last fill, it gets stuck, so I just dont eat it). I can eat brown rice, in small quantities, most vegetables, and soft meats, like Tuna. People that see me from work at lunch cannot tell a difference, it just appears that I am 'on a diet'

The ultimate choice is YOURS! Do not let other people make the decision for you. When the time is right, you will know it and it will happen. This forum is a GREAT place to meet people that are in all different stages of the band. They are all VERY helpful and friendly. If you ever need a listening ear, we are here for you. Good luck in your journey.

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