To those of you who say you don't have time for exercise or you don't like to...I'm sorry but to me all I hear is excuses excuses. Yeah you may have a busy lifestyle but after getting the lapband put into your body to make a "lifestyle change" how can you do that without getting some exercise in? What is an hour out of your entire day? You have 23 hours to do everything else you need to do..and if you know you will tone your body and loose even more weight from it why wouldn't you take advantage of that? I think you guys need to step it up and quit making so many excuses...I have a life too...a job, family, boyfriend, pets, house to take care of, appts to go to in between everything else..and every single night I come home and get my exercise in. I have lymophdema in my legs and as much as it hurts to be on my feet and my ankles are so big it looks unhuman but I do not miss it...because I didn't get this lap band put in me to just sit back and watch the weight fall off...I'm working my ass off and don't understand why you can't either!!!

Do you want to end up like the people on here who are making a post in 1 or 2 years saying they only lost 30 pounds? If not, you need to make the change now...and if you don't want to..then I really don't understand why you got the band in the first place.

Drop it already! Wow I'm in Junior High. My momma always told me "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say it at all.". The negative comments have no place here. Everyone here is looking for encouragement. And while you are at it, stop being soo judgmental. Everyone here has flaws. Please think before you type 99wpm. Have a great day!

I'm not usually one to respond to drama, but this thread makes me very sad. This is supposed to be a place of help and encouragement, not lecturing and bickering. I think if we made exercise a priority in our lives to begin with, we wouldn't have lap bands and wouldn't be discussing this at all. All of us have our own journey and our own lessons to learn, and no one is more "right" than the other. I've been banded a year and I still learn new things from everyone here. As long as we lose weight and get healthy, we're all winners, right? Let's stop the insults and agree to disagree respectfully. We're all in this together.

Is fat really the worst thing

a human can be?

Is fat worse than vindictive, jealous, shallow,

vain, boring, evil, or cruel?

Not to me.

-J.K. Rowling

Life is too short to stress yourself with people who don't even deserve to be an issue in your life. -Anon

While you were busy judging others you left your closet open and your skeletons fell out.

I think one thing we all do not do is make time for ourselves. One of the reasons a lot of us are overweight. We put our energies into our kids and our husbands needs etc. We need to take the time to plan our meals, to sit and eat our meals, not running on the go. Time for us! It seems selfish, but I have come to realize it is necessary. Necessary for us to do otherwise we will not be happy, will not succeed in our personal goal and will shorten our own lives because we did not take the time. There are only so many hours in the day, yes...I know this all to well. My husband is self employed, we have 3 kids, 17 acres of land and farm to manage on top of it all. I am the worst...my needs come last. But getting banded is step one if reclaiming ME! Take the time!

idahoanmom, you make some valid points. I agree that we don't always make time for ourselves. It's hard to do sometimes, but we should.

I don't exercise everyday, but I do exercise 4-5 times a week and I feel good about that. I think the reason people are getting upset has to do with the harshness of the OP's posts, not so much disagreeing with what she said. We all know that exercising is beneficial to our health. No one is agruing that. Is it necessary for weight loss? Not always. I have a friend (not banded) that has lost 76 lbs over the past year without exercising at all. Not sure why she didn't, but nevertheless, she lost the weight in a healthy way. She cut out processed foods and started eating whole grains, fruits, vegetables, lean Protein, etc. She has just recently started exercising, but didn't the whole time she was losing weight. Now, that definitely isn't my approach, but who am I to judge her methods? She did what worked for her and she succeeded.

We have no idea what circumstances others are faced with, what medical conditions might be a factor, or what their lives are like in general. We have no idea. Everyone's journey is not the same. What works for some, doesn't work for others. And no, not everyone exercises. So what....let it go.

To those of you who say you don't have time for exercise or you don't like to...I'm sorry but to me all I hear is excuses excuses. Yeah you may have a busy lifestyle but after getting the lapband put into your body to make a "lifestyle change" how can you do that without getting some exercise in? What is an hour out of your entire day? You have 23 hours to do everything else you need to do..and if you know you will tone your body and loose even more weight from it why wouldn't you take advantage of that? I think you guys need to step it up and quit making so many excuses...I have a life too...a job, family, boyfriend, pets, house to take care of, appts to go to in between everything else..and every single night I come home and get my exercise in. I have lymophdema in my legs and as much as it hurts to be on my feet and my ankles are so big it looks unhuman but I do not miss it...because I didn't get this lap band put in me to just sit back and watch the weight fall off...I'm working my ass off and don't understand why you can't either!!!

Do you want to end up like the people on here who are making a post in 1 or 2 years saying they only lost 30 pounds? If not, you need to make the change now...and if you don't want to..then I really don't understand why you got the band in the first place.

Thank you for this. I've been banded for a year now and haven't had any success. But...I have no one to blame but myself. Your post is just what I needed to read.

* I posted this before I read the entire thread. I have to say that I was a bit saddened by it as well. Your OP was just what I needed to read, the rest, not so much.

Congrats on your success and all the best to you in the future.

Hey Miss A! That's funny that you say that because that was really what I was trying to do before everything got out of hand. I'm so glad you got something out of it. And just to let everybody know- that's exactly what I needed as well to get my butt moving. My surgeon told me what I needed to hear and it made me do what I needed to do. If it wasn't for her sternness I don't know if I'd be where I am today. That's all I was trying to do...was give it back to anyone who cares...but I don't care if everybody "likes it" or not.

To those of you who say you don't have time for exercise or you don't like to...I'm sorry but to me all I hear is excuses excuses. Yeah you may have a busy lifestyle but after getting the lapband put into your body to make a "lifestyle change" how can you do that without getting some exercise in? What is an hour out of your entire day? You have 23 hours to do everything else you need to do..and if you know you will tone your body and loose even more weight from it why wouldn't you take advantage of that? I think you guys need to step it up and quit making so many excuses...I have a life too...a job, family, boyfriend, pets, house to take care of, appts to go to in between everything else..and every single night I come home and get my exercise in. I have lymophdema in my legs and as much as it hurts to be on my feet and my ankles are so big it looks unhuman but I do not miss it...because I didn't get this lap band put in me to just sit back and watch the weight fall off...I'm working my ass off and don't understand why you can't either!!!

Do you want to end up like the people on here who are making a post in 1 or 2 years saying they only lost 30 pounds? If not, you need to make the change now...and if you don't want to..then I really don't understand why you got the band in the first place.

You know you're right! I hate to exercise... HATE IT! But at the end of the day when I do fit it in, I feel so much better. I had one week where I let myself slack off, and not only did I feel it physically, I felt it emotionally. I was really surprised by this, but it does truly help with all areas of our life! Yesterday I dropped some frozen items on my toe (not intentionally, lol) and it was super sore. I rested it last night, but today, I am raring to go, even though it may hurt. I'm just going to modify things up a bit so that I don't make it worse, but I WANT to exercise, and this part is great! My couch potato lifestyle cannot continue if I want to see true (and lasting) results!

Thank you for this reminder

Funny...but exercising has never been one of my favorite things...but I have been really trying to start doing it so that my 3 year old son can see that it fun. Every evening he jumps on my lap and tells me that we need to go for a walk. Of course I have tried to make exuses...but he doesn't buy it...we have to go. He enjoys being able to ride his bike while mommy walks and I have to admit that it is fun to get out of the house and spend time with him in "nature". Not exactly sure what we are going to do when the temps in Houston reach 112 degrees (as the weather experts are prediciting) but I guess we'll cross that bridge when we come to it.

I exercise daily. I have completed p90x , turbo fire and insanity. I'm 2 years out and haven't lost a ton of weight 37 pounds to be exact. I eat well most of the time. So although I agree with your point about exercising. Trust me when I say I'm doing it daily.

Let it be known, I've been known to lecture. Yes, I'm that kind of guy, so I understand you're frustration.

Let it also be known that I respect your motivation. It takes a lot to get through injuries. I get it. I had a traumatic brain injury that had doctors telling me that I would never work out again...but I didn't let that stop me.

Now, the gist of what you were trying to get at is fully legitimate, and I tend to agree. "If you can't take the heat, get out of the kitchen." However, remember who it is that you're talking to and the goal of this whole forum. The goal here is to encourage people to lose weight. It's not so much of a "tough love" environment. Also remember that everybody reacts differently to "tough love". Some more positively than others.

All that said, while I understand and agree with what you're trying to say, I would recommend toning the "enthusiasm" down a little. haha.

(Oh, and on a side note, until my account got messed up, I had a few hundred posts.)