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My first infertility APT sucked! (Long)

bushbaby

By bushbaby, in LAP-BAND Surgery Forums

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Dutchgrl59    2

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Dear Rica,

I totally agree with Afterglow, clerks like the one you met need to be removed from their positions. On a brighter note I wanted to introduce myself and let you know that 3 of my 4 miracles were AI babies and true miracles. Your babies are just waiting to make an entrance. I'll send up a prayer for you and yours. Hugs,

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bushbaby    8

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Dear Rica,

Ithat 3 of my 4 miracles were AI babies and true miracles. Your babies are just waiting to make an entrance. ,

Thanks everyone for the encouragement... I feel a little better today and I will keep trying to have an opened mind. BYW what is an AI is that artificial insem?

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Duckie    0

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Rica,

I am so sorry. My DH and I have been through this for 23 years now. We are now in the process of adopting a 9 year old little boy named Josh. Don't ever give up hope. God has a way of working even when we don't think He is.

Sending prayers and hugs your way.

Julie = )

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live2canoe    1

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Rica -

I've run through the infertility gauntlet myself. I was fine, but my husband, much like yours, was essentially sterile.

We tried artificial insemination with donor sperm, and when that didn't work, we went the adoption route. Adoption was not without it's trials and tribulations (we had a birth mother back out after we had supported her financially for 4 months) but in the end, we got the baby who was meant for us. That 'baby' is 17 years old now and a spoiled rotten terror :) who I love with all my heart and soul. I wouldn't have missed one minute of my life with him.

Adoption is great way to build a family, if you have some time, patience and financial backing to see the process through.

Good Luck - you're going to be a great mom.

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"with the band"    1

"with the band"
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men always feel compelled to "fix things" and when they can't it hurts them terribly and me do not deal well with that.

I went through alot of infertility stuff and it is not worth it.

I will pray for you and hope that you find peace.

take care - nancy

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bushbaby    8

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Rica,

I am so sorry. My DH and I have been through this for 23 years now. We are now in the process of adopting a 9 year old little boy named Josh. Don't ever give up hope. God has a way of working even when we don't think He is.

Sending prayers and hugs your way.

Julie = )

Wow for that long... I am so sorry for you. I am glas now that you have a son... that may be the answer for us also...maybe embryo adotion so that I can still experience pregnancy... I have been looking into it.

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bushbaby    8

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men always feel compelled to "fix things" and when they can't it hurts them terribly and me do not deal well with that.

I went through alot of infertility stuff and it is not worth it.

I will pray for you and hope that you find peace.

take care - nancy

Nancy,

You are right my hubbie is a fix it kind of guy... SO I know he will do everything in his power to make me happy. I just wish it were me. I would do a doner egg in a hot second. But I realize that I would still feel conected through the pregnancy... I am still hopeful that he will change his mind. ...Oh and as far as adoption... We will begin our home study as soon as I can get through the beging of the news.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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