desertmom

Clothes can hide a multitude of .....skin,hehehe!But thanks for the compliments!

Hallo skattie,you are doing just great.Just get some of those elastic bands and stretch it a little,its better than doing nothing.

As more weight comes off,you will start wanting to exercise again.And remember how tired I was all the time,well its a lot better now.Protein pancakes I tell you they are the bomb.Gives me the pick me up I need and it is a very filling meal.

Keep doing what you are doing.You must look fab by now.

xxo

Great post.keep enjoying life!

hi,thanks for all the great comments.I posted pictures just now in a new post and now I feel totally paranoid,silly I know,but I am super uncomfortable about pictures...lol

And I still talk too much,even on paper...lol

Hi,sorry for all the loss in your life.

The problem with us overweight people is we do not have external coping skills.We often cope with food.Unfortunately the only ones to make the choice not to do that anymore is you (and me for myself)

You have to find an alternative to eating away the emotions.I find hard,agressive exercise to be the only thing that helps me.EVEN AND ESPECIALLY WHEN I DONT FEEL LIKE DOING EXERCISE,this is usually when I benifit most from it.

This results in weight loss that does make me feel better and more optimistic about life in general,which in turn helps me to cope with the stressess that we just cannot escape.

Good luck and hang in there.Life never just cycles in disaster.At some point you will be able to look back on these 2 very difficult years and sigh of releaf that things are looking up.

Hi

I dont know how far out you are but this seems normal to me,happened to me as well.I've often wished I was one of these people that now feels no hunger and forgets to eat and complain that they dont get enough cals..blablabla...lol

But at 7 monyhs out I have made peace with it.I still buy a big tasty burger once in a blue moon,sit down with it,take a big bite of the burger,try a little of the bun,just to have it come right back up in my mouth and have to spit it out..TMI,I know, but I somehow dont feel the frustration of not being able to eat it anymore.I just go and make a protein pancake with lots of sf syrup and Im happy.

It will come,you'll see.Some of us have real food issues that takes a little longer to resolve.Also the closer I get to goal,the better I feel about not eating a lot anymore.

Just hang in there.Make your food choice daily.Dont decide for forever today.Just choose every day to choose to eat right for this one day,dont know if this makes sense but good luck and remember to be nice to yourself with things oer than food.

Well,complex carbs are more than just bread.The thing about the losing phase at least is this.You have about 6 months to maximize your weight loss.After that it slows down sooo much.To use those six months optimally you have to cut your carbs a lot.Bread is one thing that doesnt sit that well in the sleeve anyway in the beginning.Yam,sweet potato (those orange ones) they are great complex carbs.But do let go of the feelings about the bread.60g of protein is the minimum anyone should have per day.How much do you have at the moment?Have you tried tracking to see?

My friend had a kidney transplant and she is diabetic.She still loves food and she doesnt do so much proteins but she doesnt do a lot of carbs either. (I can see when her sugar is about to crash,thats when she will grab these slices of bread and db jam..lol) she loves making salad with qinoa or couscous with feta cheese and lettuce with sweetpotato,olives tomatoes....that type of thing was my staples for the first few months after my surgery.However,I had to cut carbs more now as the weight loss have slowed down.Do discuss this with your NUT.

But you cannot have an emosional attatchment to bread.Thats the type of thing that got us overweight in the first place.And you will be able to eat bread again.In controlled portions every now and then.It cannot be your "go to" thing in the future though.

Does this make sense to you?I was such a bread lover.All kinds of wonderful bread.And I loved butter..still do.But the bread doesnt do it for me anymore and I would rather have a melba toast with a little butter once in a blue moon now.

Good luxk on your journey.

Some weeks you wont lose.Others you'll lose more than expected.Are you tracking your food and carb intake?

Are you on a PPI?Acid is sometimes masked as hunger.

And if you are still on liquids this is quite normal for some of us.Once you start eating you will feel satisfied as you WILL feel full.

Hang in there.Not long now before you can eat.

Hi,crazy the way we lose post sleeve!At first I would lose about 5 pounds then stall 10 days.Then later lose 4 pounds stall 14 days.At 5 months I just stalled for weeks.I think 6.Then I lost 3 pounds and stalled again.

This can really mess with ones mind if the scale is important to you.Sticking it to the weight loss fairy would just be to start weighing once every two weeks...lol

Hi Cherrybombknits (big name..lol)

Well,I use to love my bodybugg.When I went on the "learning to eat normal" with the shrink it worked fantastically.I would eat between 1500-1700 cals per day and burn 3500 and the weight loss corresponded exactly with the deficit.I weighed 279 when I started,lost 70 and fell off plan.(now I am dead stuck at almost the same weight for the third time in my life...seems crazy!)

Ayhoo,since the sleeve the bugg is a bit useless as nothing works the way its suppose to.I exercise loads and burn about 3000 cals a day,eat between 700 and 1000 a day and have been stuck for 8 weeks (have lost the odd pound here and there,no significant weight loss)

I still wear the bugg but its not the help it use to be before....shoot at this point Short of converting to the duodenal switch I have no idea what might help.

Hi PdxMan,my logical mind knows that you are right.My "have only lost 4 pounds this month while having a calorie deficit of at least 1200-1500 per day" mind,still goes nuts.I think having being stuck just above 200 pounds for quite some time now (also its right here I always get stuck at) is driving me slightly dotty!

O,and that part of the old self rightious me that still believes that if you stall you must be cheating,is not helping my sanity at the moment.

However,I only allow myself 30 minutes per day on the boards and time to think about food and weight loss at the moment to help regulate is madness.

The fear that my weight loss have stopped and that I will fail at this is really intense sometimes,thus the boundary of 30 minutes.

The rest of the day when I just plod along I am quite happy.

This has made me sooo much more sympathetic to people that say they are in a long stall.I always just felt they must be doing something wrong,are not tracking,eating too many carbs,yada yada....I dont think that anymore.

O,and people at the pilates class asked again how much weig have I lost since I've started there and when I tell them only 2,5kg's they say impossible,my shape has changed a lot...even your face looks very different now!So I suppose it is a matter of the body getting back the homeostasis it always needs before the weight loss might show more.

O,and I have allowed my frustraion as an excuse to smoke today.

Will not start again.So,back to no smoking and no eating if that is what it takes...lol

Hi everyone

I decided to go cold turkey.When the cravings stop I want to be free of all things related to smoking.

Today I decided to eat very little.This has had a very positive outcome for the cravings as usually every time I ate something I would want a smoke so eating more often made the cravings worse.I am starting to feel a bit better today but boy I feel like an addict craving just that one hit!lol

Anyhow,if I dont learn my lesson suffering like this I am utterly unteachable.

Will take it just one day at a time.Sooooo happy I am back on plan with the eating.Will see how the evening goes as this is my weakness!Planning once again on going for a walk this evening (I havent gone once yet,too lazy, but tonight is the night!)

xxo

Spatters3,what you are going through surely puts things back in perspective for me!And you are right.

I have always been severly ADHD with hyper focus and unfortunately age didnt change that.But there are things I can do to conciously take my focus of this whole weight loss process.

And I will count my blessings one by one every day to help me move on.

I will also be praying for you that the Lord will keep you and protect you in this difficult and trying time.Please let us know how you are doing.xxo

Hi

Thanks.Im going to search for this book.I need something to do this "without fear".My kids find this very funny ( 20 year old second year uni and 11 year old)

Hi

To be petrified at this point is what I would have been.You know,I think that pre-op we are sometimes plain stupid.I thought people that stalls,cheated...right?Now after my 3 week stall I know sooo much better.

You just have to remember there are only 2 kinds of people on earth.Those who get it and those who dont!

Of course the fear and the doubt will be part of your life until the leak is healed.You should just take this day by day,baby steps for now.Dont do too much.Be super gentle with yourself.Dont read stuff that seems unrelated to where you are at.If you need to vent tell people on the board thats stupid to get stuffed.You have the right to just be at the moment.

And the one thing that everyone can be guaranteed of in life is that bad things will happen to us.At some point,to each and everyone of us.Today is your turn tomorrow might be mine.

But this too shall pass.Lots of patience and careful living for now.

I will pray that this whole ordeal can be over quickly for you to start enjoying this great new life that awaits you for the rest of your life.

xxo

Years ago I read a book about this.Cant remember the books name but it is something like "The defeated perfectionist".I didnt believe it then,I sure do now!

So,I m learning to be a plodder too!

O my weight is 206.8 today!

Spatters3

Stupid right?I did this surgery at a time when our life was running smoothe as clock work.a Month after,as murphy's law would have it,it felt like everything fell to bits.Most stressful year of my life so far and my defences was low.I just didnt cope without the food to self soothe with and started smoking again.

I will stop.You are right nothing is worth the anxiety and fear I have of what consequince the smoking might have in my life.

So,lots to work on now that the kids are back in their routine and the big decisions have been made.We are staying in Dubai and will not be a family living in 3 different countries.My kids are both here for now and life is sweet again.

Will have to learn new coping skills though!

Hi Izuri

In 2003 I did the band as a last effort to live!I failed or maybe it failed but to me it was my failure!My intense fear of failing at this is what makes a stall so intense for me.

Then there is the fact hat I have a lot of head issues with food and I really still want to eat my emotions away...but I dont.Plus the fact that I dont eat yogurt or string cheese or any of the other soft proteins that others do.I eat chicken,fish,meat and veggies.This si only since summer.Before I use to eat carbs and I lost weight quite fast as you can see.The thing is second guessing myself made me go low carb and that in turn makes me miserable.

Today I decided to eat a little of everything again and enjoy it.To exercise and to find my balance again.I am not like most of the others on this site.Low carb doesnt work for me,balance does.So I will try to find my balance again and maybe the doubt will disappear again.

Thanks for the reply.It is super encouraging.

Lzl,rock that sleeve girl!it will come down fast now!

O,I have lost 89 pounds and still have 44 to go.Stuck at 208.

xxo

Hi,I am not really depressed,just feeling super low because of the stall..

One thing I havnt discussed here that is causing me to regret this is the fact that I ahve the most painful heamoriods since surgery.If I skip the laxative even one day I am in hell with pain.I am just so concerned about this.Started eating a lot more fibre and its made it worse.The only thing that helps is a laxative.

After reading about the surgery for this and how people suffer afterwards I feel so in a corner about this.I am damned it I do and damned if I dont.I DO NOT WANT TO GO FOR SURGERY ON MY BUTT!Hence the depressed feeling.If I lose weight I at least feel its all worth it and when I stall for this long I just wonder what the future holds with the constipation issue that is a real problem for me.

Anyhoo,I just had to vent.I live in Dubai and let me tell you support grops are non existant here.We are 3 girls that meet every now and then and that does help.

I JUST NEED TO LOSE MORE WEIGHT!After not sleeping all night with pain and pain killers not helping I am just feeling a bit sorry for myself.

Tomorrow will be a better day again.

Thanks for replying,it helps me put things into perspective again.

xxo

Hi,keep eating the sf popcicles until you can learn to deal with this frustration.We often need different coping strategies after wls.I've learnt this when all sf popcicles disappeared from our country 2 months ago,out of the blue,from this country.nothing,not one to be found.And have been struggling like mad ever since.

Good luck and I hope you can work this out quickly.

xxo