I was banded on 9/16. Before surgery, I only told a few people. My husband, my mom, my sister, and two close friends. After, I decided that I was not going to keep it a secret, but I wasn't going to go out of my way to tell anyone.

My mom, who is usually my biggest support besides my husband, has been terrible. I am so hurt by what she did today...

First off, everytime I have eaten with her she has announced that I can't eat it or asks me if I can eat it.

Today, we went to lunch with a big group. I ordered and she asked me if I could eat all of it. I said, "Why do you want some?" Then when it came, she asked again if I could eat it. I said no and she announced to the table that I had had lap band surgery. I did not care if they knew. But it was awkward and it wasn't her place to tell anyone.

Then there is my husband who constantly asks me how much weight I have lost. It is only 10 pounds, but I got my first fill on Tuesday and I expect it to be more now.

Ugh, I feel like I am under a microcope.

I agree with you, I don't want to be watched with every move I make. I told 2 of my kids and my best friend other than my husband. This was my decision to do the surgery and I know from the prosess so far that this has been the hardest weight loss process that I have done, and I have done it all from WW to Phen Phen. People seem to think this is the easy way out, but anyone who had to to the Med-Fast diet for 2 weeks and then the surgery and being afraid of getting something stuck don't know what they are talking about. I was banded on 10/19/09 and I am still sore, I have lost 22lbs since Oct 5th, but it has not been easy. So, as my kids and husband says, it's your body and your buiness. At this time I don't know if I will ever tell my mom or siblings or anyone else for that matter.:sad:

oh man im with you! i told my mom and my dad no scratch that i made them both swear they wouldnt tell anyone.. my reason is because my whoel family allways harped on my weight." how much have you lost?" "are u watching?" " can you afford that" even now i got that can you afford that comment! from my grama and she doesnt even know.. so imagine that.. soem ppl dontknow and they still judge so i made it very clear..

unfortunatly week before my surgery iw as at a family function and my uncle who i rarely see goes.. so u excited to get on this diet? and i look at him like confused he musta noticed me not eating the deserts or something and then he reiterates in front of a whole bunch of ppl and i was just mortified! not because i mind that he knows but i wanna get through this on my own.. minus teh questions minus the judgments.. and to think i have to start playing detective..who told!? well my dad never seemed to have respected my privacy anyhow so i try not to get angry...

i told 2 good friends and that was it! my personal choice is to keep this to myself.. im not ashamed. this is for me. and i wannt to come to terms with how I feel first!

I am scheduled to have my surgery Nov. 10th. At first I didn't tell many people that I was getting the surgey. But then I started to tell people at work I am close to. Now, I really don't care who knows. I know there will be people expecting me to fail. Because they've "heard" about other people not being successful longterm with wls. However, its just a great incentive to prove them wrong. Most people are supportive of my decision though. The funny thing is that I have two friends that have confided in me that they are getting breast augmentation soon. They are comparing their situation to mine. I just keep my mouth shut cause I can't bear to tell them its not the same at all. They are both in perfect shape and I never even noticed they had "small" breasts. Its not the same. But of course I am trying to be supportive, and I am happy that they will be happier with themselves.

My husband and my mother in law are the only 2 people that know. I mentioned the idea of the band and too many people thought it was an easy way out. Sorry but there is little that is easy about the band. I work my butt off to lose weight and I refuse to be judged!

Yeah, everyone thinks it an easy way out, but I agree with you, it' one of the hardest things I have done and I don't need anyone passing judgement or watching every bite I take. My 1st fill is Nov.16th and to tell you the truth I am very hungry and can't wait. I am sticking to my diet of food quota but it is hard. I live in Cincinnati OH, keep in touch and let me know how you are doing.

I am a hair stylist with quite a few clients. These are people that have seen me lose and gain weight over the last few years. I decided, for myself, to be honest about the surgery. I knew that some clients would be supportive while others, would not. I have no regrets for my decisions because as my weight loss has become noticeable and people are commenting about the changes they are seeing, I am not having to explain over and over again about the surgery. My few clients that had concerns in the beginning are now coming around and realizing that I am a healthier person. I have also been an inspiration to 3 clients of another

co-worker. They all wanted to have the surgery but were afraid to take the step. After talking to me and asking many questions.......they all 3 opted to go ahead with the lap band. I feel excited to have this great tool (lap band) that will hopefully give me a healthier existance. Good luck to you all in this journey.

Is your mom overweight, maybe she is jealous of you, or if she isnt overweight then maybe she feels threatened by the fact that you will be thin soon.

I know what you mean about not wanting to tell anyone, i wasnt going to tell anyone either, so as it is only my immediate family knows and when i did tell them i informed them i did not want to talk about it, and that i did not want to be asked how much weight i had lost everytime they saw me because i knew that a lot of people lose very slowly and i was scared that that would happen to me, which it is, and they have been very good, no one asks me they just act like i never had it, so when i have lost some weight i share with them and when i dont lose i dont tell them.

as for your husband tell him to stop asking that it is not some magic and the weight is going to come off slow so leave you alon.