ok.. not to get too personal here. but I have always had insecurities about my body. lately when my husband and I are intimate.. i am disgusted with myself...and only because i feel the fat getting in the way. i know he is completely comfortable with my body.. but it's how i feel in certain positions.. with that said, it's getting old for my hubby.. and i don't blame him. I feel like i lost all sex drive. i ALWAYS have a reason why I can't be intimate. and it always seems to be fat related. so my question is, will this weight loss help the sex drive? get the hormones flowing? i know we are all different. but i wasn't always like this...as i gained weight.. i lost the drive. I need to get the hormones flowing... my husband deserves it.

any advise?

thanks!!

My sex drive has increased 100 times. I never wanted sex when I was fat and now that I am close to goal I never say no and most often are the one initiating sex. It may be that I am also 42 and feel at my peak.

Never the less, I have a smile on my face every day.

Transition is always harder mentally than physically. You may need just a little time for your head to catch up with your body.:wink2:

I went for a couple of years, single and without sex. (I know, it was a serious dry spell, but I was in grad school . . . .). :smile2:

However, since my weight loss, my sex drive has rebounded and I miss sex like never before. I think it has a lot to do with my body image and my confidence.

My two cents, anyway.

Oh yes, and when your guy all of a sudden tosses you on top of him backwards style like you are a doll, that's the moment you know you're not still the same heavy woman in bed. Being tossed a little is good for the ego, lol...not only that, but all the male hormones directed your way and all the attention, well, yes, it makes your sex drive go up!

For those of you losing your sex drive as you lose weight, it may be caused by your hormones. Remember, when you are very heavy, fat cells produce testosterone - male hormone. That's why being overweight tends to cause things like facial hair, PCOS, irregular periods, etc. Testosterone, as we all know, also increases sex drive. So naturally as the fat goes away, so does the excess testosterone. Rest assured that it all balances out when your weight stabalizes.

My sex drive has increased 100 times. I never wanted sex when I was fat and now that I am close to goal I never say no and most often are the one initiating sex. It may be that I am also 42 and feel at my peak.

Never the less, I have a smile on my face every day.

Transition is always harder mentally than physically. You may need just a little time for your head to catch up with your body.

Oh I remember my 40's (I'm 52 now) and I was in overdrive. Wore my hubby out, lol. I'm hoping after losing more weight, some of that will come back.

I sure hope my sex drive increases with weight loss. I'm only 21, my husband is 23, and we never have sex. Really, I think we have done it maybe 3 times in the last 6 months.:blushing: Oh and to top it off, we're newlyweds...just got married this year. I just don't feel like having sex when I feel like a look like a big blubbery whale, and my husband can tell that I don't enjoy it. So, it just doesn't happen.

I've lost 97 pounds now and my sex drive is way down. I don't get it. You would think it would be better. Maybe it's a hormonal thing. I don't know. Anyway, I do hope it gets better.

Mine has suffered too, I have read here that the hormones settle back in after the weight stabalizes. I hope so..... My daughter has lost 100lbs and says her's is better than ever!! She also sees a hormone specialist and takes hormones!!!

Nessa38, you sound as though you are telling my story. I had my band put in July '08 and have had a decreasing drive since then. Not even fantasy works for me anymore. My hubby is unhappy, he used to worry that he would need Viagra to keep up with me!

I don't know what is woing, my hormone levels are actually improving, my menstrual cycles are becoming more regular I feel alot more attractive, and based upon the reactions from strange men I guess that I look it, too.

I wish it would come back. I wonder if they make a female version on Cialis or Viagra......

I haven't been banded yet, but me and my boyfriend have a pretty healthy sex drive as it is, as we're both big. Both of us feel a lot more randy with each pound we lose- so I hope it stays that way once I'm banded!

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Since I've lost weight, I can't get enough of my hubby. But then again, he's deployed, so maybe that's why I'm so "needy." But I don't really see it changing much when he gets home. We talk about it all the time. Ha.

Its strange isnt it? I dont feel unattractive, but for me, sex is OK but its not like in the movies. I enjoy it, but really only in an "its nice to have a cuddle" kind of way.It just doesnt feel as great as I think its supposed to. I'd jump at a female viagra!

My weight has been stable for well over 2 years now and I was never more than a BMI of 36 to begin with, so I dont really think it can be caused by changing hormones. Perhaps I was low on testosterone to begin with - I'm fairly lightly muscled, have very little body hair (can go weeks without shaving my legs), never got pimples at such during adolescence, who knows?